I need Advice on my Relationship, please. Thanks.?

Question

I Love my boyfriend so much, and I want to be with him forever. He had some past girls ever since I left him last year, now he's in trouble with some guy, then he comes and sees the girl he was seeing before me and him got back again (we got together again in november of this year). However, she called him, and can you beleive she invited him over and he told me she kissed him but he pushed her back and said he had a girl, but then im like 'why did you go?' and I just get so frustrated. What can I do, he says he trully loves me and wants to marry me some day. I also want to marry him because I love him, but all this gets in the way and
I haven't even been able to sleep. This may seem confusing, but if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it, or anything that you can tell me to make me see or make things better

Answer 1

Ok...if you love him and are patient everything will work out.

You do need to set some ground rules though in any realtionship. First, there is NO ASSOCIATING with ex's. if they call, then a quick "how are you?" and a "i've got a girl" are enough to be polite. But, there's no lunch's, dinners, and no going to their houses at all. That's grounds for suspision.

Second, always give him the same amount of space that you want for yourself. if you are always together and you are always hovering around him...he's going to get smothered. Guys need time away from us....not because they don't love us the same amount we love them, but just because they are wired differently than we are in general and having MAN time is vital to their sanity and the health of your relatiosnhip. ***Honor that rule, and things will improve imediately.*****

Other than those two, you just need to set the rules that you are comfortable with and then just relax and trust. You can't have a good relationship without trust......

if you feel you cannot trust, then you need to spend more time talking and less time doing toer things (like watching endless tv, going out all the time, or having sex) A long lasting relationship cannot survive on sex and fun alone. YOU MUST BE ABLE TO TALK OPENLY AND REGULARLY to be successful.

Good Luck Sweetie....and don't fret too mush, it will make him nerveous and irritate him if you let it get out of hand.

Merry Christmas!

Answer 2

Acutally, no use getting together if one party can easily fall for another person. However, ur case quite special. First if he dun love u, he wun told u that he pushed her back and said he had a gal. Ur bf went over maybe just to state things clear with her since he said "he had a gal" and told u cox he is guilty.
Secondly, ur bf maybe just showing off to u. Saying going over to her hse and push her away. Means he just wanna gain attention from u say that u may lose him if u dun treat him good. But whether both are true a not, find a day, tok to him nicely. How u feel and what u want from him. If things still the same, warn him and dump him if possible. Seriously i dun really think he really love ya.
BUT!!!!
guys are like that dont they...i as a guy, i tried b4 liking 2 gal last time when i have a gf already. but i manage to make my mind clear that time. Now i have a loving darling beside me as my gf.
so give necessary chances to ur bf. and tok it out with him. trust me

Answer 3

You sound young, but whether or not you are, my advice would be the same: nothing heals an old love like finding a new one. It sounds like your guy doesn't know what he wants, and you're spending your time agonizing over it. Go out with friends, keep busy, flirt a little, you'll meet another guy that will make you forget all about this one. If you two are meant to be together eventually, you'll find you way back to each other someday.

Answer 4

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, but trust must be earned. It sounds like he broke your trust once. He may have only visited this girl because he wanted to continue a friendship. Give him the benifet of the doubt about that until you have proof. Let him know that this relationship (be it friendship or more) is bothering you. Tell him you would like to be let into their relationship if they are simply friends, its never a bad thing to have MORE friends... then you can asses her motives for yourself.

Answer 5

he sounds like trouble so I would say to give him some "space" amd see what happens. he shouldn't have gone to her house if he was going out with you. if he just figured he had to go, he should have taken you along. people will say a lot of things to make something better, i think you just have to figure out if you can trust what he says or not.

Answer 6

Well if u want to marry him u have to learn trust first and u have to trust he was tellin the truth bout wat he said...he prolly is to because if he wasnt why would he tell u...it is OK just take things cool for a while but get to know him more b 4 u marry him...U 2 do sound very happy together but u have to get to kno him so u can c if he is worth spendin the rest of ur life w/ think bout him, think bout wat he feels bout u, and think bout wat he feels about his ex...i hope this helpS

Answer 7

Well it's all about trust. If you truly trust your man then you don't need to worry about it. But if you have trouble trusting him you need to step back from the relationship. Because you will only be hurting your relationship with him. It's not good to worry about where he is and who's he with when he's not with you. If you have those concerns from a day to day basis then you need to step back and enjoy life without him in your life.

Answer 8

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