he has photos of his ex girlfriend in her undewear on his phone he claims that she sent them to him, he has also lied about meeting up with her. he claims that they are just friends. She always phones him and sends him text messages. I don't want him to have any contact with her anymore, they have no reason to keep in contact no kids or mutual friends. He asked me to marry him, but i don't feel that he loves me enough. i love him very much but also i want someone who treats me like a girlfriend not a friend. he never stands up for me. is it wrong that i want someone to treat me like i'm the most important thing in the world, not ignore me to talk on the phone to their ex or their playstation. someone that doesn't answer their phone during sex, that gives me their full attention when they are with me. he never introduces me to his friends. i don't know what to do anymore
2006-12-13 03:24:26 · 26 answers · asked by jadescorpionbite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl! You need somebody who's going to respect your needs, wishes and wants! I can tell you if my boyfriend so much as even smiled as his ex in my presence his butt would be dumped. He has no right looking at her this way or talking to her, if he's over her. If he loves you he'd stop, I say he doesn't love you and you need to kick him in the tush and dump him.
2006-12-13 03:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing in a relationship is communication. Talk to him, tell him you don't like him picking up the phone during sex and you would like to meet his friends. The playstation is a hard thing to ween him off of, but when he's playing ask to play aswell and take an interest in the game ask silly questions eventually he will turn it off!
Be honest about the ex stuff, tell him how much it hurts you that he keeps those pics and still sees her.
Finally.. if your not 100% about everything, dont marry him!
2006-12-13 03:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by becks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this because you probably don't want to hear it but if he really cared about you, his behavior would be totally different. He has contact with the ex (and its inappropriate contact at that) because he wants to. Don't marry this selfish person who has absolutely NO regard for your feelings. This is as good as it gets with him. Are you willing to settle feeling this way (not important, second best) and be treated so rudely forever? I had a man like this in my life for a very short time. I got away from him as fast as possible and from what I hear, he never changed. Just went thru life hurting people. You don't have to be treated this way. Don't let him.
2006-12-13 03:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not abnormal to want to be treated like the most important thing in the world.
As for the photos of the ex on his phone, don't buy that dumb story. If she sent them, WHY on earth is he keeping them?
My current BF used to get texts from his ex when we started seeing each other and I hated it. For the longest time he would not tell her to get lost and I didn't understand why. I came close to just walking away from the whole thing but I am glad I didn't. It was rocky at first, but it all worked out.
2006-12-13 03:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, this sure is a problem. My suggestion would be to try and speak to him first. Still if you dont get satisfying answers, U ask yourself : "Does he really love me" ? with a cool head. Think of all tha bad things he's done and all the good things too. Then you know what to do ! But be verry carefull, there's no point in marrying if you feel you cant live with him. Coz that's gonna be everyday problem, and will make your life a hell. A wrong decesion can cost u a fortune.I have been through this and i know how it feels
2006-12-13 03:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by RP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl leave him b/c he isn't being true to u if he is talking to his ex then its obvious he isn't in to u I was in the same relationship and I went through the same thing u are and I found out that leaving was alot better then staying. U need to find someone who is all about u and not there ex. I can tell u from experince that he is cheating and that u are better off with out him. Good luck.
2006-12-13 03:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by sweety_8620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitley wouldnt be marrying this guy yet anyway. you need to make him choose tell him you understand that he wants to be friends but it just hurts you too much and that he either has to choose being with you or staying friends with her.
if he wont choose find somebody else you deserve way better and can i just add ouch with the answering the phone during sex id of kicked him out there and then.
2006-12-13 03:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to feel that way and every woman should want a man like that. Because if you do marry this loser these same questions are going to be going through your head. Why even marry him if you know you're not going to be happy?
2006-12-13 03:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by TILAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what to do really but you just dont want to admit it. For him to have pictures of his ex in her underwear on his phone is not on and to answer his phone during sex come on. You know what you got to do Dump the loser
2006-12-13 03:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away now its only going to get worse an X is an X and thats the way it should stay if they still chat and answers phone during sex, its still her in his mind
2006-12-13 03:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by dartheboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋