ok here is the deal. i met a girl earlier in the year. she was with her boyfriend of over a year and it was coming to an end. right as it was ending i started hanging out with her. then she dumped him. and after waiting a month i asked her out, but i also asked if it was too soon because i really liked her and was willing to just be friends a while longer, to which she said of course not. so we have been going out for almost two months now and i fell for her. she told me that she loved me and i sincerely told her back because i really do. however, the past week or s she had been distancing a bit from me and as we hadnt seen each other in a while i asked if she still liked me over the phone, i would have rather done it in person but we couldnt find the time and i was getting worried. so she said basically that she thinks that she jumped into this too quickly and never got her freedom. so, what can i do to put things how they were before we actually break up. i think im in love with her.
2006-12-13 03:24:04 · 7 answers · asked by stev-o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she said that she needed freedom, but doesnt want to break up. before she hung up she said "i love you" and i am praying that she does, but dont know for sure. i know she needs her time but i really do love her and dont know what to do. and she told me before she ended her relationship with her ex that she had no feelings for him for months and it was long to end and she should have done it much earlier. is there any way i can salvage this before it ends completely? please help i thank everyone who provides theyr input
2006-12-13 03:39:29 · update #1
Yes she is on the rebound my friend you asked her too soon and so you need to go back to being her friend and let her date other guys for a few months and then come back to this chic in a few months when she is single and finally ready to be in a relationship although you love her she no longer loves you
HUGS
2006-12-13 03:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down, sweetheart. Although it is a very common thing for people to do, it is never healthy to get into a new relationship right after an old one ends. Emotionally, the end of a long-term relationship is similar to death and there are phases that one needs to go through to decompress.
I'm sure your friend's feelings for her ex were still raw and active and she projected them onto you as an outlet. Now that time has passed, those feelings are fading and she realizes she needs time and space to grow.
Don't take it personally, it's not about you at all. It would have happened with anybody she got involved with, you just happened to be nearby.
Take a step back, give her time, stay supportive but keep your desires out of it! If she feels ANY pressure from you, you'll lose her friendship, too.
Tell her that no matter what happened between you, you are first and foremost her friend and can handle keeping it that way. However, if you CAN'T handle keeping it that way, you need to take yourself out of the equation. Things will never go back to how they were before the breakup, but communicating with her honestly and without pressure should help her feel more comfortable.
2006-12-13 11:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when a girl breaks up with someone it hurts. Even if it wasn't going well. You should give her time. You asked her too soon. After she broke up you would've start getting closer to her and closer until she got over the guy. You should give her time. maybe when she gets over the guy you wont like/love her no more. Well good luck. Oh by the way love hurts!!!!!!!
2006-12-13 11:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by jade_lz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its evident that she committed herself to you too soon. She had barely broken off with her boyfriend before you guys got serious. These things need to run their course. Give her some space and if she does love you then you will find your way back to each other.
2006-12-13 11:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by lilms611 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should grant this woman her freedom. For crying out loud, don't anchor her down again. Let her live for a while. And if you love her as much as you claimed and confessed, then try this: "Let go...." If you love her as much, she'll be glad you gave her, her freedom.
2006-12-13 11:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by sunsetconmartini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait and watch dont make hurry.
2006-12-13 11:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by dipak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idon't care
2006-12-13 11:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by wac0032 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋