well theres this guy and i really like him and he said he wants to hvae sex i mean i know its not a bid deal but im not sure i really want to yet with him cause we just started like getting together but im scared on how to tell him
2006-12-13 03:13:51 · 23 answers · asked by auggie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It IS a big deal.
He is asking you to do something that:
1. Could kill you.
2. Could give you an incurable disease.
3. Could get you pregnant, forever changing your life.
And you don't know each other nearly well enough. You don't sound old enough to make the decision to do this (I'm not being mean, I'm being honest).
Do you really want to risk death, disease or life-changing results just to make this guy you don't know well feel good?
You can't unmake the decision once you've done this. Put it off until you're ready to deal with the consequences. If he pressures you, cut him loose.
2006-12-13 03:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most REAL men appreciate a strong confident woman.Explain to your partner that you are attracted to him in a physical way as well as an intellectual way.This will lower the tension he may feel toward possible rejection.Do not allow yourself to be in any situation where sex would be able to 'happen" and keep things on an open and "public" basis until you are ready to be intimate.After all every woman knows that some men do not take no for an answer.Keep your self safe by being in a safe environment and do not lead the gentleman on if your intentions are moving slower than his.Honesty has always been the best policy only now it would be a policy better shared in a safe public atmosphere AND if you are afraid in the first place,let this be your internal alarm going off.Intuition has saved many.Be in tune.
2006-12-13 03:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Boriqua P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you waiting on? Really? Sex is an important part of a relationship. If you are not sexually compatable, then the relationship will not work. So you need to get that out and up front, you need to know if you both will be compatable sexually. I say go for it. If he really shows an interest in pleasing you and not just him. Then you have something. If he's all about just pleasing himself, then you know what kind of guy he is.
Just make sure he uses a condom. If he's not clean, you can always back out! He should be fresh out of the shower though if it's his first time with you. Most men want to impress.
2006-12-13 03:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to have sex with him too, but you are not ready yet, and it may take a while before you are ready. If all he is after is the sex and doesn't want to wait then he will dump you. Now, if you have sex with him now and all he is after is the sex then he will dump you after he gets the sex. I think it would be better to not have sex with him and get dumped then to have sex with him and then get dumped. But if you don't have sex with him now and he does stick around then he will respect you more. Hope that makes sense!
2006-12-13 03:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Beach bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. It's your body. Never let anyone intimidate you or make you feel like you owe them something when you obviously don't. When the time and the person is right for you, then you will decide if you want to have sex or not. Stay firm on your decision.
2006-12-13 03:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that its too soon to have sex when u just meet him. You two need to take it slow and waite until you have been together for a while before u start having sex b/c he might be the type that hits it and leaves it. So be careful ok.
2006-12-13 03:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by sweety_8620 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a big deal. It's a huge deal. Your first time you will remember for the rest of your life and think about it often. You don't want it to be with the wrong guy or a jerk. If he is the right guy for you to lose your virginity to he will wait. My guess is that he won't want to and leave you, but trust me it's better that way! You deserve better.
2006-12-13 03:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Atousa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I think you should do is follow your instinct. Dont let someone talk you into doing something because their ready and willing. You have to make the choice if your ready. Its your body so give it respect and when the time comes you'll be comfortable with the decision you have made.
2006-12-13 03:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what you tell him, but the way you tell him. Try to be nice to him. Don't say a big NO, just leave the sex option open to the future.
2006-12-13 03:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would like to tell you that you are very brave and it sounds like your pretty smart. If you say your not ready then your not ready. Tell him that, and if he really cares about you, he'll understand.
Of course if he gives you a guilt trip and is still pushing you, walk away, he's not worth it.
2006-12-13 03:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by Castle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋