Is it wrong to not want to be with someone because they do not have there high school diploma or ged?

Question

i broke up with my x-boyfriend because he broke up with me for someone else. my x-boyfriend does not have his GED or high school diploma. we had been together 3 years. now our families dont get along and it has just gotten bad. We still care about each other i just dont know if i want someone who waited until i left him to do somethi. since i have met someone new who does have his GED but recently lost his job. my x-boyfriend has worked the same job for 2 years i dont know which is more stable my new boyfriend also plans on being a cop. in a couple of months he plans to go to the acedemy i know i shouldnt be with my x- because he broke up with me for someone else. but i was just wondering if it is worth another try considering he is doing things different and has shown to be honest he has honestly changed. i dont know what to do. and not to mention he had alot of time to do something with himself i dont know is it worth another try o should i just help my new boyfriend find another job

Answer 1

This isnt about education , this is about you , your feelings and worrying that you are making a mistake. Take the education out of it. You broke up with your old boyfriend because he found someone else. That was not honest or kind. Your new boyfriend wants to be a cop but currently isnt working. Are you panicing because he is jobless? If money is all you are concerned about , then go back to your old boyfriend. The education doesnt seem to matter, the first guy still has a job and the second one plans to go to the academy. What about you? How would you feel if either said they didnt want you because of your lack of education or job?

Answer 2

First of all, you might want to consider checking your grammar before submitting a question, especially when you're judging someone for not having his GED. (You used the wrong spelling of the word "their" in your question. The word "there" refers to a location, not a person). Also, if you are talking about "someone", that word is singular not plural, and the question should be phrased like this; ...someone because he does not have his high school diploma or GED?

Secondly, it seems the bigger question is to look at how you feel about yourself; your own self worth and self respect. Just because someone wants to be with you, doesn't me he is good for you. If he broke up with you before, it is likely that he will do the same thing if someone else comes along that he thinks is better. How could ever really trust him? If you went back, you would just end up feeling insecure about yourself, and constantly wondering if he's going to cheat on you again. Not a good state of mind to be in.

Lastly, the fact that you're even considering leaving your current boyfriend for an ex who treated you badly, indicates that you don't feel all that strongly about the current guy. So whether or not you go back to the ex, it sounds like the current boyfriend isn't "the one" either. Otherwise this would not be an issue in the first place. So if you are with your current boyfriend simply to avoid being alone, that is not fair to him. Maybe you need to stand on your own two feet and not rely on a man and his job, for you to feel secure...

I wish you the best of luck. Take care.

Answer 3

There is no easy answer for your questions.

When you start a relationship, you have to look at several aspects, and one is the suitability of a person as your long term mate. As you have already realized, lack of education will make success in future difficult. (not impossible - difficult)

Also, people rarely change - while it is not impossible and do happen from time to time. Most of the time, they appear to change, or change for a while, and then go back to their old, comfortable style later.

It is perhaps time to widen your horizon a bit. That is, not to commit to any particular person but look around more. Surely, there are people with highschool diploma or college graduate near you. I am not saying a person with GED is not a suitable mate. Since you are concerned with education and stability, I am merely suggesting you not limit yourself in this regard.

Answer 4

No, it just shows what is important to you. Everyone wants relationships for different reasons. Some people just want to love, some want companionship, others want financial security or someone to take care of them. Not everyone goes into a relationship with the same expectations. And it's not that any of those expectations are wrong, it just reflects on who we are as people and what we truely value. However people are judged according there expectations, labeled as gold diggers and sugar daddy's/momma's. But we can't live life worrying about what others think. We can only live our lives according to what we want/value. Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 5

Do you have a job? Do you have a diploma? Do you have a college education? It seems that you should spend less time depending on your boyfriends and more time trying to figure out what YOU want to do with YOUR life. Choosing to date a guy who broke your heart just because he has more money is shameful. You give women a bad name.

Answer 6

1. both of these guys sound like losers.

2. your typing spelling and grammar indicate that you are in no position to dump anyone because of their intelligence.

3. no one is going to the police academy without at least a 2 year degree.

4. maybe you should take some time to grow up and find out what you want in your life.

good luck

Answer 7

Sounds like you need to change. It's not about them. You seem to be the one attracting these loosers. What is it about you that you need to change in order to have a better selection.