someone who is quite, nerdy and doesnt have much demand .. people think i'm taking advantage of the man ??? i mean i dont like a rowdy or talkative or hot tempered coz i already am on the hot tempered side..
especially when yr in a culture where man is the head of the household..
some man i told of my preference they say of coz i would be stepping on my husband head.. but no.. it is just about ego\???
2006-12-13 02:59:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
part of the reason why i prefer someone passive coz i dont want someone who is like my dad.. i know how its like to emotionally abuse someone.. but some people just dont understand it
2006-12-13 12:05:59 · update #1
first of all i'm not sure if i understand the question but if i read it correctly, i'd say that usually throughout history people who chose passive mates are actually searching for someone they can control or will not have much resistance in the relationship.
i thought that was the kind of guy i wanted but after a few years i started realizing that he was never comfortable with expressing his feelings or desires. He also never changed -he was simply predictable. he became a bore and he knew it claiming that i was wrong for wanting anything else because i knew what he was when i married him. he is now labled as a sociopath, passive-aggressive, antisocial, bi-polar and a laundry list of other things. he's very possessive and very jealous not wanting me to leave him at home and go enjoy myself. he feels i should stay at home and be content with watching him sleep in his passive attempt to avoid me, the children and life. In 20 years nothing has changed with him. So think about what you think you want cause when you get it you may end up with a miserable life. my advice is that you ask a licensed counselor her opinion and take a rorschach test and find as much about your inner self before you pick the easy path in life. a challenging mate gives life spice. food without salt is very bland. please be honest with yourself -brutally honest.
i believe that you want someone who will be submissive and a good person should NEVER want that. Love doesn't want it's own way. I Corinthians 13:5
2006-12-13 03:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you look for a husband it should be someone who is the opposite of you but you still have something in common. If you both were the same, life would be boring. i don't think you're taking advantage of him just because he's in your preferences, but maybe the people around you see things that may look like you're taking advantage of him;whether you are or not. That man you told may think that you'd be stepping on your husband's head, but your husband may like that you're the opposite of him. So I would just ignore anyone who says anything about your preference.
2006-12-13 11:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey at least you know what kind of person you need and believe me there are plenty men out here who value a woman who has the personality they wish they had.
2006-12-13 11:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put aside your ego & pl. don't walk on the slippery road.
2006-12-13 11:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋