i know in some families everyone wants to be there during delivery and immediately after and the mother never gets a moment alone with the new baby.....which is fine for some people....but i'm thinkin when i have a baby i wouldn't want anyone at the hospital (except my husband).......just wondering if anyone else felt the same and how they told their family not to come to the hospital...
2006-12-13 02:58:09 · 15 answers · asked by SNAP! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My daughter had a baby this past summer... my first grandchild. She and her husband invited me up for 5 weeks and paid for my trip.
Before I went there, she told me that she only wanted her husband with her at the hospital for the birth and for the first few days at home so they could bond with the baby. I was sad not to be included more, but understood their reason of wanting to bond with their baby and have it more peaceful with just them.
Well, I wasn't at the hospital until after the baby came. She had a very difficult birth (hope it doesn't happen to you!) and was in terrible shape physically when they came home. My son-in-law was physically exhausted as well. They asked me to stay and cook meals for them and help them those first days because they physically needed the help. So I did.
But I stayed out of their bedroom unless invited. They pretty much stayed in there with the baby, or he brought the baby into the living room so my daughter could rest. I called them when meals were ready, did the laundry, etc. But I left them alone for the most part. It was a difficult time for them.
Once past the hard time and the baby was doing ok (she had some minor difficulties because of the birth problems), I held her more and took care of her a bit for them. Then I went for a weekend at his parents' home to give them some time alone.
Plans don't always go as we hope. Feel free to share this post with your family so they know you are not the only ones who want some alone time with your baby and the birth process. Tell them you want then nearby and when you are ready, you will invite them to see the baby and welcome him/her to the family. They should understand. And if you find you need them to help after all.... just ask.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-13 03:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I had my baby, only my husband was in the delivery room with me. After the birth I had my baby with me for a few minutes and then they had to take him away for about and hour while they transferred me to my room. I let friends and family come in and see him whenever they wanted. It's up to you what you want to do, it's your baby. I think your friends and family would understand if you said you didn't want any visitors for the first couple hours so you can get some alone time with your new child.
2006-12-13 03:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Beach bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just suggest you not telling people that you are in the hospital. Let people know of your little ones birth after you get home. You go home after like one or two days anyway. So many of my friends didn't even know I had the baby until I got home anyway. I wasn't up for a ton of visitors anyway. Just be upfront wiht your family and be honest. If they are going to have a problem not coming to the hospital don't tell them when you go in. Sometimes we all have to just do what is right for our family and not everyone else. Good luck and enjoy your little one.
2006-12-13 03:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by mktk401 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 05:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had my son we told everyone that we didnt want any vistors for the first day and then only close family could come up my sister and mom and dad. It is your time you do what feels right but I would set up one day when you come home that everyone can come over and see the baby this way you aren't getting vistors for the next month wanting to see the baby.
2006-12-13 03:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by HARWOODH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an important time for you and your husbandd to bond with the baby. I would just explain you would like this moment to be special and after you have your time they are all more then welcome to see the baby. Or in a few days have a party and show off the baby so they can all get a chance to see. It is more important for you and your husban to do what you need and be the parents you choose to be. They can all wait and they will all get over it.
2006-12-13 03:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_rudentattood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We allowed visitors AFTER the birth and once my wife felt up to it. This should be Mom's call. After all, people can come visit you later in your home to see the new baby.
2006-12-13 03:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that you don't want them all in the delivery room...I had my huby, my mother, and my aunt was supposed to be here. As far as after youdeliver...why not. Its easier and quicker for them to come and visit in the hospital than at homw. At the hospital they won't stay as long
2006-12-13 03:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like having visitors. Its your choise tho. Its better to get visitors at the hospital than at home when your trying to nap and feed the baby. Thats just me tho.
2006-12-13 03:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my baby at 3:33am on friday morning. No family came until 1pm on Friday afternoon but even then it was only one person most came on saturday(I had a csection so I was there for 3 days).
2006-12-13 03:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋