I dated this guy for a long time w/no commitment, I had to let him go especially when I found out that he cheated on me. He didn't have an answer to my question if he seen me in his future. I told him that it's best to go seperate ways but we still seen each other for 2 more years. Then I let him go again b/c I asked him the same question and still no answer. I told him, the first girl he'll meet after me, he'll marry and he did. He got married not even a year of knowing her, and they have a kid now. He just got in contact with me and told me all this...He has a great job (mechanical engineer) he's in TX and is building another house. That's not fair to me! I feel that I deserve all the things that this other girl replaced me. I been with him w/no job, through college(both of our college years), 6 years with nothing. I do still care for him and wish the best for him but I still have that feeling in the back of my mind..is he rubbing it in? or is he thinking of me b/c he's not happy
2006-12-13 02:57:42 · 7 answers · asked by angelic1302 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That kind of thing has happend to me before, I totally know how you feel. You feel like somehow you weren't good enough, or that you were the person who "trained" him to be a good boyfriend only so he could go use his skills on someone ELSE. No fair!
But, after a while you have to realize that if he was not going to commit to you, that you were obviously the wrong person for him....and it's better that you found that out BEFORE you married him. He obviously had some doubts or something wasn't just right when you guys were together. And on top of that, he cheated on you!! It was most likely just him, and not your fault whatsoever.
It's totally normal for you to feel slighted though, but don't worry, time will heal. The right person is out there for everyone! You deserve a man who *isn't* going to be calling any ex GF's bragging abou his great life!
2006-12-13 03:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by Rach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be despondent, you had a lucky escape....If he was so happy why is he calling to tell you. All is not as it should be in paradise. You were one of the cleverer women who ditched him when he cheated and then when he would not commit...
Forget the material stuff (if it is true). You my dear will probably end up with a man you can at least trust. Looks like the marriage was on the rebound. He is not as happy as he makes out and that is because he is probably getting set to cheat again.
2006-12-13 05:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by JadeNicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it was nasty of him to contact you just to tell you how he has got on with his life. This would have raked up the feelings you had for him and what happened between you but you shouldn't let this upset you, move on and show him that you have made a good life then brag to him. You made the right decision to get rid of him back then as he cheated on you.
2006-12-13 03:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he knew all along what his intentions were going to be. He was just keeping you around until his life was in shape for the woman he wanted to spend his life with. Take it as a learning tool and don't let another a**hole treat you like that again. I certainly wouldn't hold out hope that he's wanting you back.
2006-12-13 03:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie i understand completely what u are going through...basically i feel like he let u know exactly what he wanted from u and he did exactly what he wanted...so **** him, he isnt worth it. i know u still care for him, and u probably always will...i believe that he called u to get contact with you because he probably misses you and still wants a relationship...but beware don't fall into this trap...he has manipulated u for so long that he knows at any point he can come back to u and u will be waitin...he knows that u allowed an uncommited relationship for 6 years and he feels that he can still come and get some whenever he wants...
2006-12-13 03:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by SexyGirl786 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's rubbing it in. What a jerk! Forget him--you deserve better than that! And it was totally inappropriate for him to call you--I feel bad for his wife. Apparently he's got that "cheating gene" for life. He just can't focus on one woman at a time.
2006-12-13 03:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not happy. He has an engineering job. Engineers are not happy people.
2006-12-13 06:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by sharke45 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋