My co-workers think I should give her serious spanking. I feel like an oral reprimand and grounding is enough. I can tell my child is very sorry as she cried and apologized for taking it without permission. Should the punishment be more harsh?
2006-12-13 02:51:18 · 24 answers · asked by Rayleah 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Maybe make her do chores around the house to earn the money to buy her sister another ipod... that way it will teach her responsibility and she will think twice before taking something else that is not hers.
2006-12-13 02:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I kind of side with your coworkers. To us what she did is the same as stealing. Stealing in our home earns a spanking. Like your co workers said a serious spanking, pants/panties down, over the lap for a good long time. A good spanking should leave her crying hard. Have a talk with her father when he gets home, you two need to be untied in this. Which ever one of you gives the worst spanking, needs to do it.
I think it would be a big mistake to take this lightly. oral reprimand and grounding at the age of 7 is just not enough to drive the message home. She's 7 and knew better, but decided to openly defy you. This is a test, she is testing you. She wants to know what she can and can't get away with. Deliver the message that this is unacceptable.
We have 3 daughters, ages 3, 7, and 10. 7 is the wrong age to lighten up on them. I made that mistake with my oldest, it made life hell, finally after a lot of work, she is now much better behaved. Please learn from my mistakes. My now 7 year old is very easy, because i refused to lighten up like i did with my oldest. All my girls know that a good old fashioned spanking is there waiting if they go to far.
2006-12-14 05:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not harsher, but a bit different. It is good your 7 yr old is sorry. If the IPOD is lost, she should have to do chores or work to make money (around the house) to buy her sister a new one. This will teach her that there are ramifications to her actions, and make her stop and think about it a little more in the future.
If she has simply left it at school and brings it back, the punishment you gave out is fine.
Just make sure you put an emphasis on respecting everyones property to her, she will understand.
Spanking is not bad, I have spanked my children, but I believe you should be choosy if you decide to dole out that kind of punishment. Also, it is not wise to spank your children while you are angry, this type of punishment should be done after you have a chance to cool down.
Kids are fun aren't they!
2006-12-13 10:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by spottedtan5 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
grounding sounds about right. She should also apologize to her sister. Tell her EXACTLY what she did that was wrong. She took something that didn't belong to her and was then irresponsible with it. At 7 years old and with this situation spaning won't teach her a thing. She's old enough to know what she did wrong. Make sure you set the length of time of the grounding and that you stick to it. Consistentcy is best and she has to know you will follow through. If you start out grounding and then a day later feel bad for her and take her off grounding she will learn she can get away with stuff. Also, have a talk with your older daughter about keeping her stuff where her little sister can't get to it. At least until the little one learns to respect others property.
2006-12-13 11:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ella727 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your response was very appropriate. Anybody that suggests you spank a 7 yr old girl either doesnt have kids or is still living in the stone age when beating children was the norm. If you feel she is sorry, that is all that matters in the end. You are trying to help her learn what is right and what is wrong, not to be afraid of you. And in the end thats all spanking does...it makes the child fear you because you are big enough to hit them and get away with it. That little girl needs to trust you enough to tell you everything and anything as she grows....Spanking does not create trust...it creates fear.
2006-12-13 12:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by potterhands2002 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need to spank for something like that. A harsh reprimand and a solid grounding will do the trick. You can make her 'work it off' also by doing things for her sister or chores around the house. This way she has to work to get back to 'break even' and will help remind her what a stupid idea it is to steal expensive toys from siblings and leave them at school!
2006-12-13 10:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Rez 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, while she may be sorry, you still have to let her know that behaviour like this is not okay. But since she is sorry and only 7 years old, a grounding should suffice but the oral reprimand is even better. My sister used to pull stunts like this all the time and it's only when my mother chewed her out and AND grounded her (and when I chimed in with my unhappiness, maybe your other daughter can let her know how she feels?) that she stopped taking and started asking.
2006-12-13 10:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by ourxtrees 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There must be some sort of consequences. As parent's we are preparing our children to make good choices as they get older. I would not consider an oral reprimand an appropriate consequence for her behavior. She needs to pay her sister (monetarily) in some way, chores, or her allowance. If you take something without permission it is stealing. In our society if you are convicted of stealing, you pay restitution, this is what we are preparing our children for, to live within the rules of society.
2006-12-13 13:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone makes mistakes...Did she take it to school with out permission? Is she going to be able to get the Ipod Back? It all depends, If she took it without permission, then yes, she should be punished....If she had permission to take it, then maybe just like you said and oral reprimand. We've all lost something in our lives and wish we wouldn't have! Would you want a spanking if you ACCIDENTALLY lost your purse?!
2006-12-13 11:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by yahoocraze 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well..i dont think a spanking will do much difference and maybe cause some level of defiance from her. Perhaps punish her in a way where she understands loss. ie. deny her TV or music for 3 days etc or no sweets or treats this weekend! Kids dont like corporal punishment but they will understand the sense of being denied something they like.
2006-12-13 10:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by louboutin 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋