2006-12-13 02:49:07 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 15.
get help from an adult and hold him responsible on some level. Now a word to you,...don't ever let this happen again.
2006-12-13 02:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Ok I need more info. Are u keeping the child? How old is the father because that is most likely the answer as why he is being ignorant and not willing to take care of his responsibilty? Does he not think it is his?
After you actually have the child, he might get a reality check and atleast be there and come and see it. there is still no gaurantee that he will help you fianncially though. If he has a job I would take him to court for child support, but u will alos have to prove he his the father and that means a blood test, so make sure it is his to spare embarrasment. If no job in some cases the parents have to pay the money for the support. Other than making him pay thorugh court there is nothing u can do if he is not willing to help.
2006-12-13 02:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by shashana2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. You can make him be a father but you can seek child support, however, assuming he is close in age, I would imagine he probably doesn't work, which means you can't get child support. Can't get water from a rock. This is why young people should not have sex. Maturity is about responsiblity. A responsible person would realize neither of you are capable of taking care of a child at this point and you should have used condom. Now life has become twice as hard for you because you have twice the responsiblity, for you and your child. Seek out family help, you will need it. Good luck and learn from this, don't go out and start having more.
2006-12-13 02:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant at fifteen then high five to your dad .
you are too young to doing stuff like that.Let me tell you I am 25 and I have a 4 yr old and I'm not going to say that I don't love him or I'm not happy that god brought him into this world, everything happens for a reason, maybe god wanted you to mature a lil sooner who knows but either way you now are going to have a responsibility like you have never known in your life!!!It's so easy for those without kids to go out into the world and work or do what they have to do without the worry of having to find a babysitter or wonder if when they do that their child is being treated fairly, being fed ect. and when you have to wake up every morning to take care of that child.at the age of four my son has grown into a new personality and at this age they like to say how far they can go before they really get under your skin. I won't lie having a child is TOUGH prolly the hardest thing I ever had to do and if the daddy of the baby isn't going to help you either ure pretty much going to have to go it alone and at that I say "I'm glad I'm not you!!!!!!!"good luck with that, ure going to need luck!
2006-12-13 02:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOt sure if you are using the system to help you (welfare) but if you are tell your case worker that upon delivering the baby you want a paternity test and child support established. He/She can help you get this done, otherwise contact your local family court and tell them, they can also give you direction on how to get things established. The reason for establishing paternity is so the father can't say "well it isn't my kid, I'm not paying." And if the dad is as young as you are--he can be held responsible, and child support will add up, so he better get that after school job at MCdonald's now
2006-12-13 02:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by HappyGoLucky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sadly many men these days take that approach....so you are not alone. It is sad that you are so young. Get the support of your family, stay in school.
As for the father he is about to find out the harsh facts of life ...he is obligated to give you financial support for the baby. He will probably not support you or the child emotionally which is his loss. You should forget him and concentrate on you and the baby.
The baby is going to be in your life and you are going to grow up together. Look after your child, get an education and be the best mom you can.
2006-12-13 02:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by JadeNicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney or have your parents do it, and file for support of the child. If the daddy is a minor (and I hate to call him daddy, he does not deserve that title), then have his parents be liable for his son's actions. And once the so called daddy, is of adult age, have his wages garnished, no matter where he works. And if he is an adult now, then have his "a s s ' arrested and file for support. Its punk guys like that, that make good guys like me look bad. Good luck, take care, and God Bless.
2006-12-13 03:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have no business being pregnant at 15.
You can force him through the courts in terms of child support depending on his age. Or you can forget about him and raise your child with the help of your parents the best you can. In the long run, he's the one who will feel left out. Your child will have a loving mother and grandparents. He may not feel it now, but when he gets older and has other children...he will realize what he missed out on and by that time it will be too late.
2006-12-13 02:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by u r 2 cute 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Take him to court after Maury tells you that he IS the father...then get on birth control and STAY on it until you finish college, get a very good job or will not have to wait on the baby's daddy and/or welfare to take care of it. That's what being a woman is all about -INDEPENDANCE!! Good Luck
2006-12-13 02:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help. There are a lot of organizations out there that can help you like EPS or Planned Parenthood. Some of them even offer free classes and chances to earn stuff for your baby. Then, I'd say I agree with the first answer and take the dad to court. First priority should be your baby though.
2006-12-13 02:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Elsie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to petition the courts to get a paternity test if he is not willing to accept responsibility. If it is determined that he is the father the courts will issue a support order and assist you with a visitation schedule. That's the best your going to be able to do if he is not willing to accept responsibility. Good Luck.
2006-12-13 02:51:58 · answer #11 · answered by niknac 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋