I'm about to date a guy who is super religious and I drink and swear like a sailor?! help?!
2006-12-13 02:42:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i think that if he likes you he should like EVERYTHING about you. maybe refrain from swearing too much around him but other than that you should be yourself and see what happens. i think that if you're religious you should accept and respect other peoples decisions on not being religious.
2006-12-13 02:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by xiss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some say it won't last, some say you should not have to change.
If you are starting dating you will be getting to know each other over several dates. I am sure you will be on your best behavior the first one or two dates so there should be little swearing and minimal drinking.
As you both get to know each other you each may find things you really like and hate about each other. If it get serous you and he will need to talk about those things that you hate about each other and decide what to do.
I hate to admit I used to swear way to much when I was younger. But I realized that my fiancee was more important than some swear words so the swear words had to go.
And being very religious does not preempt someone from drinking!
2006-12-13 10:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by paintingj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion for this is instead of actually saying the cuss words use something else. For example, instead of saying sh*t, say shoot; or for f**k say foot. Try something like that, its what I do if Im about to cuss in front of my son. It sounds stupid, but it is better. As far as drinking goes, try to cut back, meaning instead of beer drink wine or a wine cooler, or water, or just for the effect, get a drink that can last you a good minute, so it seems as though you are drinking a lot but youre not. Also try to enjoy the moments you spend with your date, research on things you know he is interested in so that you can have something to say to him. But at the same time , this should be something that should be reciprocated.
2006-12-13 10:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by scorpioct21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you have to ask yourself if you wish to change to be more like him. You may want to consider does he like you how you are regardless. If his religion is incompatible with who you are and who you wish to be maybe he's not what you need in a partner.
If you really do want to become a different person there are several behavioral methods you can use to modify how you behave.
Here's a good book if you're interested:
Nature's Mind: the biological roots of thinking, emotions, sexuality, language, and intelligence
2006-12-13 10:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you on this one, my girlfriend's dad is a Baptist Minister, and I am anything but religious. My girlfriend is not a religious as her dad but much more religious than me.
My best advice to you: take it real slow and learn the art of compromise. You both need to understand where eachother are coming from and learn to respect eachothers opinions even if they are different.
Hope I helped.
2006-12-13 10:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are impress by his innocence.
Maybe you are fed up of you sailor suit but don't know how to step out of it...
Been there, done that...
Out of it for a while, now..... a long, long while to be honest!
And love not a fairy did the miracle!
Good luck!
2006-12-14 04:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by klaartedubois 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Transition??? Be yourself. Otherwise you'd be lying to him. You could hold back a bit, but doing anymore than that you'd be lying to him, which is not fair. Never know, he might like you even more.
2006-12-13 10:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by guicho79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol good luck. Just remember that if he liked u for who u are then u shouldn't have to change who u are to be with somone but it would be a good gesture to maybe slow down a little.
2006-12-13 10:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by orestes19832003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously like him a lot or you would not be dating him. If you LOVE him or think you do, then you have to make a sacrifice and give those things up if he disapproves of them
2006-12-13 10:46:57 · answer #9 · answered by LoLo B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not date him...
Does not sound like a relationship with a future...
2006-12-13 10:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋