Some tips on how to punish a spoiled 2 yr. old ? besides spanking?

Answer 1

Make him sit still in one spot and don't let him up untill the punishment is over. Stay with him, if you must.

Believe me, that will hurt him more than any spanking could.

Answer 2

A two year old who is spoiled does not need punishment as much as he needs some patience, guidance, and consistency in discipline (which is very different than punishment). If by spoiled you mean that he gets everything he wants or he'll throw a tantrum, then it is the responsibility of his parents or other adult care giver to be firm and never give in to a tantrum. Example, he wants cookies, you say no it is almost lunch time, he pitches a fit so you give him a cookie to stop him. What you have managed to do is teach him that all I have to do is throw a fit and I'll get what I want. A 2 year old (as well as older children) wants and needs boundaries in his life. If you give him none, his behavior will worsen until he finds those boundaries. Depending on his personality, he will likely challenge those boundaries on a regular basis. Children his age misbehave usually for only a couple reasons. Often the misbehavior is unintentional because he hasn't learned any better yet. He doesn't need punishment for this but guidance to the appropriate behavior. He may also misbehave on purpose to either see if you mean what you say (setting those boundaries) or he may be seeking the attention he gets when he is naughty. Try removing him from whatever he is doing wrong and guide him to an activity that is appropriate.

Answer 3

You must almost NEVER spank kids, ESPECIALLY when they are very young. The better thing to do is take away from them something they love, like their toy, or their regular walk in the park, or their favourite candy. And while you do this, make sure they MAKE the connection WHY this is being taken away from them. So don't leave the punishment for later on when they may have forgotten what they did. Young children don't have much memory or event retainment.

Spanking can be resorted to when a severe misbehaviour takes place, but again, never on the face and never in a humiliating manner. The idea is not to humiliate, but to TEACH. The spanking should not be in rage, or in extreme anger.

When you are angry, stop yourself and go over a prepared list of reactions that the behaviour of the child calls for and decide on the most appropriate. In the end, remember that he or she is only a child who is innocent and doesnt know right from wrong and is relying on YOU to supply that. Also, what he or she is doing is mostly just a reflection of what he/she sees YOU do, or is just craving attention.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Children that age aren't spoiled...they are defiant, that goes with the tantrum years.

Do not spank. REWARD the good behavior, explain what is right and what is wrong at each event in a language he/she can understand.

Hold the child firmly when he/she did bad, look at them, explain, show your unhappiness or cry if they hurt you, most kids that age already have compassion. Also TELL them what would be the better way to have done things. Reward the correct deed by hugging, kissing, cheering, dancing, being super happy...and give a small treat...

Soon, the child will want to elicit happiness and satisfaction in you and they will also seek the gifts of praise and treats from you.

Teach by showing, teach with positive reinforcement!!!

Also: do not succumb to "fits", pretend you turn deaf and bllind. This worked on my daughter when she had a total hissy fit in the supermarket at 2 and half....
I simply said it was time to leave and walk off slowly without calling her, or looking back...meanwhile she screemed while laying on the floor of the supermarket. Once she noticed that I was not affected and walking away, she quickly got up and ran after me...and was rather quiet. She never really thru a fit again.

Answer 5

I really hope that the people that answered stupidly that they don't have kids! gosh
Time out is a good thing you should only put them in the corner for a minimum of what there age is. EX 2 yrs old =2 mins 3yrs=3 mins ect ect. More then that they don't understand why they are standing for 20 mins.....pick your fights also 2 yrs old are bound to act out hence the terrible 2's. I mean if they are running around with something sharp then you have to take action. But if they are throwing there toys around then you need to tell them that it is nice and take them away till they can play nice. If they are throwing a tantrum ignore it walk away. The more attention they get from it the more they will do it. Besides kids need to be stimulated to stay out of trouble and a attention span of a 2 yr old isn't very long.....

Answer 6

Need more info, how old a two yo, nearly three or just turned two? that's a huge year for development. What do you mean by spoiled? People have different definitions, and it often depends on how needy and/or uninvolved the parents are.

Why didn' you ask for tips on how to teach a two year old to do better instead of just going for punishment? Punishment teaches children how to hurt instead of how to learn. WIth two year olds, standing in a corner away from mom is punishment enough, being put on a chair in their rooms is helpful. There is no logical or natural connection between tv and toys and their behavior unless it's something like breaking tv or throwing toys. When children turn three, then their logic works better, and you might check out "Love and Logic" by Jim Faye.

Answer 7

Take all the things the child likes out of his/her room and make the child earn them back. Also place a chair some where and use it as a time out tool. Make him/her sit there for a minute for every year old. If they get up put them back in the chair and tell them the time starts over. When the time is up get on their level and explain what they did wrong and ask them to apologize. Don't get upset and don't argue with them because that shows a power struggle. Don't forget to re enforce the good things they do to.

Answer 8

Besides spanking, I would say time-out. Designate a certain corner in the house and sit a chair in that corner, and when the 2yr old act up, make her sit in that chair. 2yr olds don't like to sit still for long. Try 5mins for starters. If the child still act up, keep adding a minute. Make sure the area is away from anything distracting like television, or toys. Also, children hate to see their parents upset with them... So, while the child is sitting in the chair, sit there with the child.... but IGNORE them. Tell them that you are not going to tolerate their behavior, and until they decide to act like they are suppose to act... you are not going to talk to them, and they will have to sit in that chair! Also, since you mentioned that the child is spoiled... Take away their favorite toys, and make them "earn" it back!

Answer 9

If you don't want to spank then your only option is to use time-out and loss of privledges. If the two yr old is typically allowed to watch cartoons or play a game, explain that they will lose that if they misbehave and FOLLOW THROUGH. Any reasonable punishment can work if you are consistant and follow through with consequences. I used to send my son to sit on his steps for his bed when he needed a time-out. He disliked being separated for the action from the other children and would quickly straighten out his attitude.

Answer 10

Time out work well but you have to be consistent. If that child for instance isn't allowed to dump cereal all over the living room floor, then that child should get a time out every time they do it. It doesn't matter if the child is sick, you've had a bad day, the child has had a bad, whatever. The punishment should be the same every time.