Why is my child still peeing the bed?????

Question

My step son is 12 years old he still pees the bed we have tried the pills. I have also tried waking him up through out the night. Hes mother blames it on him being a premie when he was born. I really would like to know why so I can get this proble to stop this has to be so embarassing for his to still be wearing pull ups

Answer 1

for starters do not put pull ups on him.That is awefule for his feelings.Yes I know its messy.Oh how i know but the effect of a 12 yr old wearing pull ups is a whole lot worse than anyother mess.Buy a mattress protector(rubber sheet,Plastic zip up case, or even a small blue tarp) put it on the mattres and then put a cloth pad for softness so he doesn't feel the cover put a sheet on that.
Leave extra set of bed clothes in room clean and folded.Let him have his accidents, let him wash his own bed clothes and clothes. Draw as little attention as possible to his problem. He is getting older he needs privacy and resposibility. Wetting the bed is so hard for them and havinga big deal about it and buying diapers(thats all pull ups are) is so so so so hard for them. if he has been to the doctor and had a sonogram of his bladder and it is developed ok than just wait it out.
I have dealt with this problem with two of my children and i have had 2 friends with the same problem,one didnt stop till she was over 16. Its frustrating as parents we want to fix everything but sometimes we can't.There are so many reason why children wet the bed.If the obvious(medication, less fluids, waking frequently) don't do the trick, then you just might have to just be supportive.I wish you so much luck things will get better,just relax

Answer 2

It is just the way his body is growing. being a preemie may be a cause, but I doubt it. My son was a preemie (3lbs. 12 oz. and he doesn't wet the bed - he's 5. My daughter wasn't a preemie and she will wet them bed when she's having a growth spurt. Whenever she wets the bed within a few weeks we have to get her longer jeans - she's 7, so I know it has to do with her bladder not growing as fast as the rest of her body. My husband did it until he was 12 or 13 and his mother did until she was 15. Sometimes it's genetic. Did anyone else in the family have this problem? Try to ease his mind by letting him know he's not the only kid doing it. A lot of kids have this problem, but not a lot of people talk about it.
He should grow out of it soon.

Answer 3

Believe it or not but this is very COMMON for Preadolesent BOYS. Sometimes as they are matureing they will again start wetting the bed and sometimes it is a precursor to wet dreams.
Sometimes mom is confused between the two. I would put a plastic cover on the mattress and I some kids think it is ok to wet if they have pullups on, I wouldn't do that, if you are sure it is urine talk to the Doctor. perhaps a urinary tract infection or bladder infection, Don't allow him to have anything to drink after 6 PM. Make sure he goes before bedtime.

Answer 4

I would say to talk with your dr about it. I had a cousin do that at that age they always got told that all kids grow at there own rate. That they may have a smaller bladder. I have a 6 year old that is still wetting. I got told not to let her drink anything after supper and to make sure she goes before going to bed. She is a very sound sleeper and can't wake up in time. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Unfortunately only a doctor could know the real cause. Sometimes children have small bladders and stress can also be a cause. I would make an appointment with his pediatrician and have him checked out.

Answer 6

my daughter did that too, and she was also a preemie. Dont be hard on him he will out grow it , being hard on him will only make it worse.