are these signs that my ex might be missing me?advice, i want her bac?

Question

my ex dumped me 3 weeks ago.. i still love her and want her back, she said she is too young to be in a serious trelationship, but a week or 2 before we broke up she said she is really happy with our relationship she wanted a serious relationship , we dont even live together, we are both 19.. i took it hard, i begged her for nearly 2 weeks to take me back, i feel dump for begging, so im playing it cool now..she said she was goin to a bar the other nite i didnt go(keepin cool) dats what ive been told to do if i want her back..she rang the next day askin bout her stuff in my room.. she e mailed me today, i was just talking to her as a freind i acted as if i was fine... we where talkin bout casual stuff, then she asked me if i was with any other girl.. i said no, then she said i bet u are ,u can tell me i dont mind... do you think this means she still has feelings for me? if she really didnt care she wouldnt have asked in the first place,she has been ringin me too, n jus talkin bout stuff

Answer 1

seems like she is undecided . just playng hard to get ?

Answer 2

I think your cool attitude is working. Don't get excited....keep it cool. When she dumped you and you were begging...it gave her control and a sense of power.

You are gradually turning the tables on her...she feels insecure 'why isn't he begging anymore?' She is missing the attention.

1. DON'T ASK HER ANYTHING ABOUT HER LIFE OR WHAT SHE IS DOING....
2. ALWAYS BE POLITE TO HER,
3. DON'T TELL HER TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF.
4. KEEP THE CONVERSATIONS GENERAL.
5. TRY NOT TO CALL HER...LET HER CALL YOU.
6. DON'T SUGGEST DOING ANYTHING WITH HER.
7. LET HER MAKE ANY SUGGESTIONS AND THEN SEE IF YOU ARE AVAILABLE

Human beings can be perverse...however if you slip and hand her back control she will withdraw again....what you initially did was feed her ego...she now needs a fix and is suffering from withdrawal symptoms. Her asking if you are dating should not concern her if she has dumped you.

I think you are doing great and putting many people older to shame with your maturity...Maintain the cool attitude and never let your guard down with her. As for getting back with her...in time you will see the games she is playing and not want her back...I think she may go back to you for ego sake but not cause she loves you....Mind you she could fall in love with this new improved cool dude...but will you want her?

KEEP IT UP SHE WONT BE ABLE TO GET YOU OUTTA HER MIND...

She seems to be interested...the way you behave now will determine if you guys get back together

Answer 3

There is a few possibilities. She could miss you and want you back. Or she could just miss the best friends aspect of the relationship and not want to loose her best friend. Maybe she was unsure of the relationship and doesn't want to lose the possibility of maybe getting back with you if this is not what she wants.

When she asks if you are seeing another girl. Say I am not seeing anyone in particular yet, why do you ask? Or that you aren't exclusive with anyone yet. But let her think that you are weighing your options with other girls. Then how she reacts to you after that, is going to tell you whether or not she still cares for you. If she starts calling to see what you are doing or where you are hanging out at then you will know. Remember, don't answer the phone every time she calls. Be busy sometimes.

Answer 4

I think that if she broke up with you so abruptly then there was a reason for it. I don't want to say it but there could have been someone else on her mind, or in her life without you knowing it. People don't just break up with people out of nowhere, there had to have been a reaosn or at least something building up to it. You should ask her why she really broke up with you, like the real answer. If she isn't willing to tell you then she is toying with you, move on tootse... you'll find someone better in due time. Goodluck.

Answer 5

Truth is truth, i believe when she's ask you were you dating some one else wasn't because she wants you back but most likely she wanted you to say yes so in return you would ask her was she seeing anyone so in return she would have said yea i met some one last nite at the bar. Sometimes we just got to let go and not even hope that tom morrow we will be back to gather with our past chapter, so i suggest you look forward to meeting other people who will capture your attention and your heart, and just may be your be with the next one for eternity, but if not always know the pain will leave and the next chapter of your life will begun. Your not dumb for crying your just showing the world that men do cry. PEACE!

Answer 6

You've played it cool long enough. Now it's time for a full-court press. Talk to her. Be straight with her. Let her know exactly how you feel. But just don't tell her you love her, show her, too. Getting a girl back is not easy, but it can be done. You have to kiss alot of a**, but it can be worth it.

Answer 7

She is looking at you just in case it dosen't work out with what ever she has going on else where. So don't fall for anything that she has to say. Move on there are a lot of girls out there, remember she dumped you, it is not the other way around.

Answer 8

well your casual act is working. Shes calling you now that you arent chasing her anymore. Keep up the good work.
I wonder if she is asking about if you have a girl is because of you not persuing her anymore, or is it because she wants to tell you about her boyfriend if you had a girlfriend.
At any rate, keep acting like you are over her. She will seek you out if shes interested. Good job.

Answer 9

sounds like she still loves you to me. she is 19 and wants to explore her other options, but wants to make sure that your waiting on the side lines for her to fall back on. she knows you have a lot of feelings for her and that benefits her game. if you really want this girl back, just let her see what kind of scumbags are out there and she'll be begging YOU back.

Answer 10

If she's calling, most likely she still cares. But thats not a very good indicator that she wants to get back w/ you...she may just be trying to continue a friendship.

Answer 11

I think that she is still interested, as she didn't just ask the one single question as to whether you had a girlfriend. She then after kept saying 'I bet you are'! which I think is a sign.