I have a dilemma. My boyfriend looked at some near pornographic images on MY computer last week, and I told him I did not want those kinds of images on my computer anywhere b/c my 9 year old daughter is constantly on my computer and I don't want her to come across those kinds of images. I ended up putting an "adult block" on my computer, but last night, i went into my history and noticed a site on there for a "gentlemen's club" with half naked women dancing. I'm livid to say the least. I want to confront him about this but I know it will turn into an argument. All I ask in this relationship is for respect for me, my daughter and our feelings. I am to the point with his disrespect that I'm ready to call it quits. My question is this: am I overreacting or am I right to feel angry, hurt, and betrayed?
2006-12-13 01:48:04 · 11 answers · asked by dmh1973 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are very right to feel betray, hurt, and angry. Pornogrophy or anything close to it is flat out wrong and bad. It shows no respect for you at all. My suggestion is confront him and ask him and explain to him that it makes you feel all the things you feel and ask him to stop looking at the other women. If he loves you, cares about you, and respects you, he will stop. If he just argues how there is nothing wrong with it and doesnt change. Leave him because the relationship will never go anywhere and you will only end up constantly hurt because of his stubborness
I know how you feel because me and my girlfriend went through that. I changed though because I love her, care about her, and I only want my eyes on HER. If he wants the same towards you he will change.
2006-12-13 01:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan Marcel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu need to confront him. If he can't respect the fact taht you have a LITTLE GIRL, a CHILD who could come across that, then he doesn't sound worthy of being in a relationship with you. I see that you said you wanted to confront him but were afraid it'd turn into an argument...why? Does he have so little respect for you that he would start arguing over something HE DID WRONG? Sounds like a real loser. I'd dump him.
2006-12-13 01:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are right to feel this way. He isn't respecting you or your daughter. I would confront him about all of this and let him know that you are very upset with him. You can not shy away from a confrontation with him for the sake of your child.
If he keeps it up, then it's time to dump him. You must consider your child and it is you primary duty as a parent to keep her safe. Such images are not safe for her as you are well aware of.
2006-12-13 01:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a right to feel angry and betrayed because its like he's notrespecting you and how you feel about the situation. I wouldn't break up with him especially if i love him but i would talk to him whether or not and argument would occur because he needs to know how strongly you feel about this. If he loves you he'll understand, he's just beiing a little curious and you cant blame him but he needs to know its not right
2006-12-13 01:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not right to feel betrayed or hurt.. porn is fine... jesus i wish you woman would realize this!! but yes angry because your 9 year old daughter is constantly on there, tell him to get his own computer and leave yours alone, block its access with a password... that should do the trick
meanwhile.. dave is naked looking at gay guys and cybering with them... LoL
2006-12-13 01:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus Built My Hotrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think your right to feel that way. I know I would. If I ask someone not to do something especially in that nature, not to do that anymore & they did it anyway, I would be angry, & hurt too. I don't blame you for feeling that way. He betrayed you, & disrecpected you and your daughter. But that's just me.
2006-12-13 01:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by Me~Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You not only have the rights as a person and as a mother to feel the way you do but you should end it with that sick jerk. He won't change for no one and is only using you and your computer to fuel his need for "flesh". Move on girl friend.
2006-12-13 01:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry. If he wants to look at stuff like that he needs to have respect for your wishes to protect your child from that type of stuff and he needs to do that away from your home if he insists on doing it.
2006-12-13 01:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right tell him if he wants to look at that crap to buy a laptop and do it on his own time
2006-12-13 01:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not over reacting if that's how you feel he should respect you and your child if he does not stop then he doesn't deserve you
2006-12-13 01:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋