He says that he doesnt want to be involve with the baby mama anymore but she always wants money n always blames him for anythin that goes wrong what should i do?
2006-12-13 01:42:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not? If he's a good guy and treats you well, then you ought to give the relationship a try. If he wants nothing to do with the baby's mother, then that's him. He's basically letting you know that he might not be the marrying type (say you end up getting pregnant by him). That's clearly a sign for you. Don't do anything drastic, until you are certain he loves you. (I know from a harsh, and past experience). From there, you'll see if he's a good provider.
2006-12-13 01:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by sunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If him and this other woman have a baby together they are going to be involved with each other for the next 18 years at least. However, that doesn't mean he has to give her everything she wants. If he is sure it his baby, anything he gives to her should be documented if he don't want the court involved. In other words don't give her cash money, write a Check or Money Order and put in the remarks "For Child Support", because when she takes him to court (it's only a matter of time) she can claim he never gave her anything for support of the baby.
If the baby's momma is the type of woman to sleep around, he should get a DNA test (never talk bad about the mother or child) to prove he is the father (He should take care of the baby if it's his, if not wish the momma good luck finding another all day sucker). One reason she may be giving him so much trouble is: that she wants him back.
2006-12-13 01:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with a guy being a daddy...it can be kinda cute to see a guy's soft side. But if he's not making his child support payments, then this guy is a *dead beat dad*----which is irresponsible and never a good sign (but you didn't really say if he was, just that the mom always wants money...in addition to the child support?). Well...if he is a responsible guy, and you like babies, no harm in seeing the guy. Just make sure he doesn't get you pregnant too.
2006-12-13 01:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by CloudRider9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run now and don't look back! if this is how he treats the mother of his own flesh and blood....do you think he will treat you any better? And of course she will always want his money....babies don't live off of just love.....babies are expensive. Go find you a nice guy to where you don't have to share him in that way. Be a little selfish honey! You need to look out for number 1 sometimes....and that would be YOU and the time would be NOW.
2006-12-13 01:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Pinkie_&_the_Brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By law, the mom needs to be getting money: that's call child support. But as long as he is being honest about not wanting to be involved with her, then there should be no reason not to be with him if you think he's a good guy. I'm currently pregnant, and the father is out of my life....i definitely don't want a guy to not date me just because i'm pregnant with a kid who isn't his. Just give him a chance. If he starts being shady, leave.
2006-12-13 02:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by Just a girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he isnt keen to take responsibility for his actions n is more interested in trying to show the mother-to-be that he has moved on with his life and hpefully it will make her leav him alone...
sad fact is ths pregnant girl has all the right in the world to pester him for money for the baby - it took 2 of them 2 make the baby, and he needs to grow up n b a father to this child.. dont u feel its a bit unfair that he can go off and try to live as if he's got no responsibilities and she has to look after this child FOREVER?
I thnk you should take things really slow with this guy, unless you're looking for an almost guaranteed long-term commitment.. not just to HIM but to the child and the mother...
2006-12-13 01:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by cherry-o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Head for the hills!! This guy has managed to get a girl pregnant and has left her before the baby is even born? Not a nice guy to begin with. If he can shirk his responsibilities like that, he's not going to be reliable or trustworthy with you.
2006-12-13 01:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Hell No! He needs to take care of that family, even if it means child support. A child is the most important thing in the world, and why is he out dating another woman after he got one pregnant? You need to find someone more trust-worthy.
2006-12-13 01:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you picked a real winner. What woman wouldnt want a man who abandons his child and deflects all responsibility to everyone else but himself? Sounds like you made a great choice. Use common sense and save yourself some trouble
2006-12-13 01:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Pete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him fast. Hopefully your phone isn't on the same line as the Internet, so that you can start dialing to tell him to get lost, without having to waste a couple of moments disconnecting.
2006-12-13 01:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋