I feel like nobody takes me seriously. I'm a senior in high school almost 18 and it has really been bothering me lately. I personally think I am a mature person. But things like, me not having a license, a job, and not participating in school activities or sports (i'm not exactly athletically gifted) give people the idea that I'm a joke. Or at least that's how it feels. It's not my fault I don't have a license or job..my mother won't let me get my license because she doesn't want our insurance to go up but even with me offering to pay the difference she won't allow it. That is not even the point though.. the point is that nobody takes me seriously because of these things. They look at me like I'm not up to par with them until I get these things. I know I should just ignore what they think because it's what I think that matters, but easier said than done. Does anybody know how I can get the message across that I wanna be taken seriously?
2006-12-13 01:32:16 · 15 answers · asked by Bethany 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Consistency is the key, as well as confidence. Don't let anyone put you down because of what you don't have. If you let people think that you are inferior, they will.
I'm a 20 year old salesman, and I've excelled very quickly in my job. Because of my age most people don't take me seriously, they think I'm just a kid. The way that I change thier perception is by making sure that I have enough knowledge to answer any questions they ask, and when I don't know, I answer confidently that I will get them the answer. Then I do.
The key, like I said, is consistancy and confidence. Don't be a jerk, but don't let people be jerks to you either. When people see that you are confident and serious about your future (or whatever you're serious about) then they'll begin to take you seriously.
Also, don't say that your mom won't let you get a license. This gives the impression that you're still "a kid". Instead make it seem to be your own choice (which in part it is. If you're eighteen you can go get one if you really wanted). If it's YOUR choice, and you have a valid reason then it's always more respectable.
I hope this helps you!
2006-12-13 01:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well Sweetie I hate to say it but its time to Grow up!
If your 18 and and adult, responsible and Mature. then maybe its time you were on your own. People take you as seriously as you take your self.
graduate and get out of the house,
If your going to college good, but make responsible decisions, and remember who's paying the tuition.
My point is if your still asking from mommy and daddy you are not ready yet, and sports, and licenses and driving, and material things aren't hard to get involved in, you just aren't motivated,
If you were you'd have a decent job Not at the MALL. But in a doctors office filing or volunteering at the hospital.
Then People would look at you diffrently. And perhaps you'd feel diffrent too.
Good luck
Meg
2006-12-13 01:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people would think that you'll need to do somethink extra-ordinary...but that usually ends up a fiasco. Those kind of things only happens in movies.
I say if you know why people think that you're a joke and you want them to take you seriously, just do it.
get a job, live on your own (probably the people closest to you would think that you couldn't last a second living by yourself. if that's true a little help now and then won't hurt) make up plans and set goals. (even if it's just something like 'water the plants' write it down)
The only way a person would take you seriously is if they see you climbing up the ladder of success, be careful not to fall.
Get your life organized, at first it will seem like a waste of time, but eventually (if you don't let these people get to you) they'll take you seriously.
2006-12-13 01:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by Vertigo addict 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to be taken seriously, you have to start becoming self-sufficient.
If you don't have a job, but you are offering to pay your car insurance, then the first question you will be asked is where are you going to get the money?
If you are almost 18, the people around you are going to be expecting you to know what you want out of life. You have to make a plan for your life now.
Accomplish something. People don't respect others who have no accomplishments, because it's only through accomplishments do we improve our quality of life and become self-sufficient adults.
Another thing that will help you be taken more seriously is to earn people's respect. Respect comes back to you by giving others respect.
If you have it together, and you have things worked out, and mabye you are motivated, and want to work and earn your way, and take the load of some of your expenses, you will see that people will respect you more.
Don't wait on permission from your parents to get your liscense. If you want to get your liscense, go out and get it. Why do you need their permission?
To be independent, you have to think and act like it.
2006-12-13 01:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just keep doing what you have to do, take care of your responsibilities and in time it will happen. I felt the same way when I was 18, and I think it's just a curse that you have to deal with at that age. You are mature, and you do know a lot, but until a couple more years go by most people aren't going to see it despite your efforts. But don't stop trying, in time they will see the truth, and in the meantime enjoy what you have left of the carefree teenage days when you can make a mistake without people thinking too much of it.
2006-12-13 01:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If at all possible find a job. This will allow you to get your own drivers license and insurance. I It will also give you something to do. People are probably not thinking that about you at all. This is the way you feel about yourself so you think people are thinking that. This would be the start of people taking you serious.
2006-12-13 01:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make a list of your good points, write them down and read the list first thing every morning. Then look in the mirror and say aloud- "I RESPECT MYSELF" three times. Later when you go out and feel bothered about your problem, take a deep breath and remember your morning ritual; it will surely make you feel positive. People around you will gradually notice your confidence and start taking you seriously! lol...
2006-12-13 01:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Feather Hailglitter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just hang in there and people will take you seriously. Some things must be earned and you ( at age 18 ) are now finding that out.
2006-12-13 01:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's High School. These things will pass. Young kids don't realize the important things in life, and they will pressure you to fit in. Just remember that the only people you need to impress are yourself and your family. Tell those kids to bugger off, and get on with your own life. Don't let them get to you.
2006-12-13 01:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you think these these make you less important thant your peers. Getting your licence will not automatically get you friends. You need to learn to be more independant of what other people think. Let your independant thoughts demand your peers take you seriously.
2006-12-13 01:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by hugh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋