What if you don't want to get married but stay boyfriend/girlfriend with someone you love?
Can the relationship last for decades without a physical relationship(sex)?
I'm too scared to get married because all around me, guys are cheating on their wives, beating the crud out of them, 70yr old married men lust after modest 22yr olds, and not just men either. I've seen women abuse guys and turn their lives upside down and threaten their lives.
What's your opinion? Can a Christian romantic relationship last without physical intimacy?
2006-12-13 01:30:35 · 33 answers · asked by Camel Eye 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sure it can if both want this
However, Sex is for the married and to be shared between the couple
Sex should not be a Basis of the marriage but apart of it
2006-12-13 01:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by snuggels102 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can. Sex should not be the number one thing in a relationship or marriage. If it was then a person's marriage or relationship is based on sex and not love. In todays time and I know this goes aganist God's word, I think people should live together for awhile before they marry. This will let you know if you two can make a good marriage or a bad one. If you know you have the right mate then God will bless that union and God will protect it. Not saying things will not happen, but when they do the love you have for one another will over take the bad things.
2006-12-13 01:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are legitimate concerns you have, but if you truly have Godly love for one another a marriage will work. The most important part of a marriage is communication, tolerance, trust, and honesty. It is a work in progress so to speak, and you both have to work together. This also falls in the category of physical intimacy. A marriage can't work without it, nor an intimate relationship if you are not married.
2006-12-13 01:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
But it would be very difficult. I would say that if you both agree that this is the way it will be you can make it. I would think after a year or two if you both are still in love and in agreement you may wish to consider marriage.
You are right to wait until you feel comfortable with marriage. I wish I had that much wisdom early on.
I would work on being friends and taking care of each other first. See what they are like when they are sick, if they have similar interest.
God Bless
2006-12-13 01:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can, but it won't be easy. The problem with those relationships is that they've made sex the focus, and sex won't last. Focus on the relationship and loving your spouse, and sex will be something you enjoy with your spouse, but you won't rely on it to carry you through the marriage bc you have a real relationship with the person. God designed sex bc it's a very bonding thing, it connects the couple in a deep way. By having sex with your spouse, you become more bonded to her, and that will make you feel connected. Remember, though, the relationship is the foundation to the marriage, secure that, and anything else is extra.
2006-12-13 01:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by STEPHEN J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people tie a relationship between man and woman with this holy union called marrige. People Man and Woman had unions before Christianity existed. If you think you may love someone, take the courage to find out. after some years of finding out you both have to decide it you are able to love one another for ever. I hope to experience love with everyone (not sexually) and I don't have to get married to do so
2006-12-13 01:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by Special EPhex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with someone if you think you might beat them up or cheat on them? Or is it that you're afraid that they'll do that to you? If that's the case, you don't seem to trust them and thus don't really love them. If you're a christian, sex is a wonderful thing, inside the confines of marriage. You can't say, "I love you, but not enough to marry you, because what if we get divorced." If you're already thinking about divorce, you're already heading in the wrong direction. I don't' say I'm not going to drive my car because I might get into a car wreck.
2006-12-13 01:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by southfloridamullets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you shouldn't let what other people do influence your choices in life. If other people are doing those bad things, it doesn't mean you have to.
To answer the question though, I think that physical intimacy is a major component of any successful marriage. If one isn't married, one shouldn't be having sex, at least if one claims to be a Christian.
2006-12-13 01:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Open Heart Searchery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have my doubts,
But do not only look at the bad examples, there are many couples that stay married, and really Love each other even after 40 or 50 years.
You just have to chose VERY wisely.......
And there is no guarantee even then.
Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-12-13 01:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship without physical intimacy is called FRIENDSHIP. A real relationship exists only where there's physical intimacy too;)
2006-12-13 01:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋