Girls, if this were you...?

Question

I went out once with a girl friend of mine whom I had known since high school (she graduated a yr ahead of me). Now we're in college and we went to a concert together for a music apprec. class. We went to dinner b4 the concert and I paid and I bought her ticket. When we were talking she said something about an off-n-on boyfriend. Well, later on I asked her if she'd like to go to a xmas concert b/c she saw it in the program and said she'd enjoy it, and she was gonna go but something came up and she couldnt. thus, i had a backup plan for us to bowling or a to a movie and when i asked her she said "you know I have a boyfriend right?" I explained that I understood off-n-on to mean non-exclusive and apologized for crossing a line i wasnt sure existed. she said that we could still hang out an stuff and when i asked if we were cool she said yes. since ive tried to call and text her but she hadnt retrnd either. girls, if u were her would you be avoiding me? Do u think shes avoidin me

Answer 1

Yes she is avoiding you. She doesn't want to jeopardize her relationship with her boyfriend. Keep up the friendship and be there for her, the on again off again boyfriend will eventually be off.

Answer 2

hey buddy!!!
ok this girl hmm she is a)u really cnt say avoiding but u now the use and throw stuff she will not msg yea but suddenly will msg u some time and will ask for a outing
b) u are good boy!!(pat urself buddy)so u need not worry abt this gals attitude she feels that she is so beautiful and each guy always wants to take her as his gf.
c)u can have a distant relsp with her and can enjoy your life
d)if im in this position na buddy i will not avoid u(y would i?)i will be happy that u will be a good friend.

so do not worry your beautiful princess is on the way and she will lucky to have u as a good guy.
bye tc

Answer 3

No she's not avoiding you, you've served your purpose. What she meant by her off and on boyfriend is at that time they weren't speaking. She didn't want to sit in the house therefore she saw an opportunity to get a free night out and to get back at her boyfriend. Unfortunately because she wasn't honest with you from the beginning she lead you to believe that she was willing to date other people. Right now if I were you, I wouldn't care if her and I were cool or not. You don't owe her an apology since she lied but it was big of you to give her one. Hang out? You have got to be kidding me. Stop wasting your time on someone that lied to you and find someone that is willing to date you honestly. She's not going to call you or text you back until she's having another fight with her boyfriend and then and only then will she call you because she'll want another free date. Leave her with her off and on boyfriend to deal with. When you see her smile say hello and keep it moving. I'd even go so far as to letting her think you've found someone that you're dating and let her know that when she's having off and on problems with the off and on boyfriend call someone else because when you wanted to take her out and treat her right she didn't want so you've moved on. Be smart out smart her at her own childish game.

Answer 4

properly, judging by using ways she's all tousled in her relationships (2 boyfriends at the same time) she may say sure and only use you to cheer up and then promote off you. i'd say it truly is a touch bit a grey section. yet in case you fairly imagine she's that acceptable and also you do not innovations what occurs later then yep you're precise 2 perchance 3 weeks and your golden. the different one will probable get jealous, yet in case you adult males do not communicate she'll get over you and pass on and also you'll under no circumstances have that threat back... that may suck if she fairly is that rather :L You gotta be sure which female you want more desirable. because in case you opt for one your gonna omit out on the different. the dancing ingredient: i personally imagine that could be fairly gorgeous xP yet some ladies will be like.. wtf?? i wager it relies upon on the way you pull it off - like if you're an exceptionally humorous no longer awkward guy you're golden with that. yet in case you come back of tacky this is activity over. desire i ought to help :P

Answer 5

If she's a good girl/girlfrined she would probably be worried and a bit anxious your calling and asking her out all the time. Maybe she's just after a bit of space between you even though your intentions were good. I don't think you should fret though i think it's great you guys have managed to stay good friends .. the Q is do you guys really think of eachother as friends still ? =/ Sounds to me there's a little bit of tension in the air hehe but that's another story and another Q.

Answer 6

Yes.

And I only said yes because I feel it is a waste of time unless you feel that she is the love of your life.

Some girls say they are in an on and off relationship just to complain or whin to other, but she probably already feels for him. Although it may worth a try if she does have some feelings for you too. But either way, in your case, I'd move on. You are in college. Explore other gals.

Answer 7

Yea i think she is avoiding you, maybe you should just leave the messaging and calling alone for awhile and maybe give her a week (maybe like 5 or 6 days?) to chill then maybe call her up and suggest a friendly outing (maybe even with a group of friends would be better)

Answer 8

First off, she could be going through a rough spot with her (off n on ) man. I think she just needed a friend to talk to to break the monotony of the relationship. Give her some time and then try again. If and when you get the chance, tell her you are interested. (if you are) and be there for her.

Answer 9

No cause you seem like a thoughtful guy and would love to spend some time with you. And yes i do think she's avoiding you because if she wasn't then she might at least call. And if you were spending that much time with her and she had a guy friend then she wasn't a very good frien.

Answer 10

a little. try backing off. still be nice and be a friend but kind of blow her off a little. dont be so obvious or too out there for her.
she may like the fact that you seem not interested anymore.
tell her you had a date last week and make up cool details like:
"this girl was all over you - we had a good time - i did this... ...but i am not sure if i like her..."