ive been linkin with a girl from my university and we all way end up having sex in the bck of my car.
i didnt see her for about a week then i saw her last week n we linked up and having sex. yesterday she told me she was pregnant
wot should i do?
after she told me she just walked away n i didnt see her all day so i couldn't tlk to her.
i really like her but we aint a couple so what should i do .
this may be all jumbled up sorry!!
2006-12-13 01:10:57 · 29 answers · asked by redz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its is my kid .
i dont even no if she want the kid or not
2006-12-13 01:21:17 · update #1
i love her but i dont no if she trust me cuz ive been wid 2 other girls y ive been linkin with her.
she just keep taken me back tho.
2006-12-13 01:26:26 · update #2
HOW do you know that it is your child? You say that with such certainty.
If it is, and you know that she hasn't been seeing anyone else, then you two need to have a serious chat. Does she want to go through with it? Do you? You have a lot of talking to do and decisions to make.
I really hate to say this and PLEASE don't think I'm being awful but have you seen proof of this pregnancy? You admit to sleeping with other girls and state that this girl always takes you back. Maybe she has invented the pregnancy or deliberately gotten herself pregnant as a way of "trapping" you: of having you all to herself.
Again, I apologise if you think I'm being out of line but you must question these things. Ask her for proof; once you know for sure you can then work things out between you. I wish you the very best of luck.
2006-12-13 01:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a teenager and in my twenties I had two affairs and made two girls pregnant. Those two children then had to grow up without their true father because I didn't marry either girl. Fortunately the two girls got married but my eldest son had a stepfather who wouldn't accept him. However we are in contact today and he has forgiven me. The other child was accepted and loved by her true mother and stepfather thank goodness. I am not in contact with her.
So as you see I have some regrets because I affected and hurt a number of people for a lifetime just because I wanted a few moments pleasure.
I hope you can meet up with the girl and perhaps you could develop a relationship together. I hope so. But I would not consider abortion under any circumstances. My eldest son is now married himself and is quite happy now in his own house with a good job. My daughter will be 26 now and I am sure she is glad to be alive-perhaps she is married too. I don't believe in abortion because I believe life is sacred given by God and it is not ours to take away. I know I will be criticised by some women who will say to me-'you didn't bear the child so why should you decide what to do with it?' I have already given the answer-life is sacred. Abortion is actually killing a child. There are enough childless couples in the world who would love the chance to adopt a child.
So I would say to you-get some advice off someone you can trust-your parents and the girls, or your local vicar,priest or doctor. And if you believe in God then please pray about it. ;And even if you don't believe in God then please pray about it because you will get an answer because the child is God's.
Sorry if I've gone on a bit.Take care and may God bless you both.
2006-12-13 01:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Birdman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reasons, it doesn't sound to me she wants a relationship,only crap happens!
I would ask her to get a paternity test and go from there. After all, if it's yours, it's also her decision of what she wants to do next. First find out if the kid is yours. That will be a good first step.
2006-12-13 01:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like you might have some new responsibilities to take on soon, daddy. Sorry but you should have used a condom. Now you need to act like a man and do the right thing by her.
2006-12-13 01:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard, but if you have a child, you must be there for him or her.... When the child is born if you are unsure if you are the father you can also have a paternity test.... Hope you find some answers on here.... Try to talk to her.... Good Luck......
2006-12-13 01:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by fun11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find this girl and talk to her - whether or not you both want a child is something ye need to discuss VERY seriously.
Shes probably feeling very lonely and scared right now and needs your support - you two made this baby together - now ye have to act like responsible mature adults and go through your options.
I hope it goes well for you both. xx
2006-12-13 01:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be a couple but be a Man tell her you will do your part to take care of the child
2006-12-13 01:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt be having sex since ur not married. I know i'm old fashioned, but I'm also moral. If this is ur kid, you take care of it with her. Raise him/her up to make sure it doesnt make the same mistake you have.
2006-12-13 01:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by packerswes4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her. Find out if it's yours for sure and what she wants to do. Abort, adopt, keep. Be very supportive in what her decision is and then just take it one step at a time.
2006-12-13 01:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. if you are friends and have trouble with what to do - seek help at the school - like a counselor or something. it is free and confidential.
talk to her - see what she wants.
2. consider your options. helps to write down stuff.
3. do not quit school or get married. (just a suggestion)
DO NOT RUIN YOUR LIFE.
2006-12-13 01:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋