my sister is four years old and my mom is completely aware that she isn't supossed to spoil her but she is!! my sister is the most annoying little girl you've ever met, or me. haha. but if she doesnt get somethin at the store, shell lie down and cry her lungs out. then mom gets it 4 her. i no its normal. but she 4: she breastfeeds, she gets 3 packs of crayons and I get 1 pack of pencils, 4 each. Then, if she has a fight with me, or her friendzzz, then she calls them or me: stupid head, shut up, you dont matter, im gonna hit you, im gonna scratch you (which she does occasioally and it bleeds). WE DO DISCIPLINE HER. but she just wont listen. shes drivin every1 CRAZY and my dads out sometimes cuzzz he has work in another country and reva just even drives her friendzzz crazy.
WHAT SHOULD I DOOOO??? pls help.
2006-12-13 01:05:57 · 11 answers · asked by chaching 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Although it is driving you crazy :) ... It is your mom's responsibility to raise her correctly. I have a neice that sounds just like your little sister. It is sad because she is unlikable most of the time. Her mother lets her have what ever she wants and she thinks she deserves it. The really sad part is I see the sweet innocent girl behind the monster. Her mother doesn't spend much time with her and doesn't teach her any manners. She even eats with a wide open mouth at the dinner table and thinks nothing of it. I have 3 daughters and I know that they can be taught table manners as young as 1 year old. I've managed to do it 3 times and it was not difficult. Also, the tantrums in the store. Well... Your mom needs to talk with your sister before going to the store. (If she won't ... you can.) Talk with her and tell her that you know she is a sweet little girl and that you want everyone else to see that she is too. Explain to her what others think of her when she throws fits and how she can change what others think of her by the way she acts. Remember to do this in a loving manner. Never yell at her or degrade her infront of strangers. When parents do that they don't seem to understand that it conditions their children not to care who they are around when they act out. Children need dignity. It helps them decide between right and wrong and they will behave much better. In public at least. :) Once children see that they are respected when they behave well and get praised then they want that type of attention instead of the negative attention they receive when they act out. She is most definitly craving attention. As her sister you could set aside an hour a day just for the two of you to play games or color. She will LOVE it and it will cause the two of you to become closer and she will value what you say more. It is kind of like when you keep a hyper dog indoors when all they want to do is go outside and run. They jump on everyone, break things, annoy everyone. But, once you let them outside for a certain amount of time everyday to run they become calmer, more lovable dogs. It's the same with children. You have to give them positive time and attention and they will calm down. I hope I've made sense to you. Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-13 01:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to get a handle on her, she is out of control, because she should not always get her way, that is not how life is, she is going to get a rude awaking. Your mother needs to teach her discipline. and she must learn she can't get everything. One day, just say mom. why do you let her get away with so much? Tell her at some point she has to address the situation, because if she does not, your sister will have to suffer consequence. What a great sister you are. Have a great Christmas!
2006-12-13 01:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only 4!!! Most kids that age are that way.
However, it is your mom's job to discipline her and point what's right and wrong. She is so young. What she is behaving right now is just what she has learned from her parents. It is really not who she is just yet. Maybe you can point it out to your mom in a subtle way--not the way you tell her what to do though. Because really, it doesn't sound good if she still acts like this when she is 10.
For now, forgive her. She is just a little kid!
2006-12-13 01:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. This stage is preceded by one where you seek approval of others. But at this stage, you just want to be noticed but are less concerned with seeking external approval. However, you need to move beyond this in adult life. I do not wish to sound patronising. I am just sharing that which I have studied. Many adults are not that well adjusted and behave in sensationalist manner just to court attention. Many media personalities are like this, such as Madonna. I trust you are not offended, that was not the intention.
2016-03-29 05:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to deal with behavior problems is to ignore when she is acting up. You just walk away, don't even turn your head back. Do not play with her. If she later begs you, tell her you like her, but specifically what you do not like her about. Tell her stop doing those annoying things, then you will play with her, even if you mother forces you to play with her, you still have to tell her what you expect of her.
As a bigger child, you will always feel that your parents loves the younger more. Save yourself for a peace of mind. Take a big step back, it may not be happy to see she gets(always!) more than you do, but you can definitely afford that.
Only in a few more years, you will grow up to find " Oh! what a joke-- that I actually fought with my sister over boxes of crayons. or candies or chocholates".....Try to find the beautiful side of your life and enjoy it. An adult life is a lot tougher to deal with than your your younger sister.
2006-12-13 01:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by J F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play with your sister nicely.
help your mom. take an active role in raising her. it will be dificult but show your mom you want to sincerely help and be a part of the baby's upbringing. you will see as your siz grows up she will learn to not be so spoiled with your mom and see you as a helper and friend. you need to re shape your thinking. remember - your mom probably did the same spoiling to you when you were a baby. that is probably why you are feeling a little selfish right now.
dont worry - she is just a baby and it is tough but if you become part of the solution - it wont be a problem anymore.
2006-12-13 01:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU should not do anything. It is not your responsibility to raise your sister. Your mom needs to get off her lazy @@@ and raise her kid. If she is behaving this way she is NOT disciplined at all. She has learned acting a fool in public, home etc. will get her way. Mom needs to be a parent.
As for you, hit her back. Don't hurt her just enough for her to get the message across.
Advise mom to watch super nanny.
This is going to get worse and she is going to be even more embarrassing to be around.
2006-12-13 01:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you complaining because your only getting 1 pack of pencils to her three....how old are you? I'm wondering why you are diciplining your sister....I'm just a little confused about the question...sorry...not much help I know
2006-12-13 01:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be patient with her ..
regards
Sameer Shaikh
http://sameer-shaikh.blogspot.com
2006-12-13 01:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry every thing is ok trust meee i know cuz my bros the same way!!!
2006-12-13 01:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by poohbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋