how do i make myself feel better about myself and my life?

Question

i am 19 year old college student. i am in school for nursing. all my life i have been know as the big girl and never got attention from guys in school except to get made fum of. i was never the pick for prom or dances or even on a date. all i could seem to find were the losers and @ssholes. i m tired of feeling left out and diffeent because of my size and i need to know how to feel better. i m tired of being in the shadow of my best frined. she always gets the attention from guys. last week she left me a party by myself just so she could go have sex with some boy. i just wanna feel beter and feel like someone cares anout me . i want to be encourged to follow my dreams. not to settle i dont wanna settle but i dont feel that i can do better.

Answer 1

What Is The Purpose

of Your Life?


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Serious question. Why laugh about it? Why not take off the to-cool-to-care mask for a few minutes? Answer that question and you'll find out some extremely important things about yourself. Really…

It's amazing how much corporate and educational America teaches that "we must have a goal and a purpose" for whatever they are about. Every where you look there are mission statements and goal statements and objective statements, etc. With all that focus on a purpose, isn't it amazing that it never really gets down to the individual and his/her life? Oh yes, an individual person can have short term and long term goals for careers or family or education or finances or hobbies or exercise, etc. Perhaps you have some for yourself regarding these things. But the question remains, WHAT ABOUT YOUR ENTIRE LIFE - WHAT IS THE ULTIMATE PURPOSE TO THAT??? Are you going to take, trophies or bank accounts or homes or cars or careers or family members or pleasure or "fun" times, with you after you die? What will your life mean after you die?


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Answer 2

Look at yourself you are 19 and in school for nursing that is a great start i am 23 and still have no clue as to what i want to be when i "grow up" so you are one step ahead of me i am not a small girl either but i have confidence and people feed off of you and your attitude i have a wonderful fiance and i know that it seems hard to live being the big girl but you can either embrace that fact that that is who you are or you can do something about it good luck and keep you chin up everybody has someone out there you just haven't found yours yet

Answer 3

First find yourself a real friend because real friends do not do that to each other. Second recognize that God made you who you are and that should be enough for you. Your attitude of not settling is an excellent one. As a bigger guy I did not settle and I found a wonderful woman whom I married. There is someone out there for you do not give up. Also just an FYI nurses are a turn on to a lot of guys so keep working on it because you will be able to make a good living and hopefully turn some heads too.

Answer 4

If you have the determination to change your life, it just takes the will to do it.

You need to sit down and write out what your goals are and what you want to be. Once you have your goals, now start out writing a plan to get there. Take it in stages. Nothing will happen over night.

Start off with the small things, look at your diet. look at your level of exercise. Try watching what you eat, moderation and better choices will help. Increase your level of exercise a little each week.

None of this will be quick, but over time if you have the will it will be effective. And if you can't do these things by yourself there are people out there that can help you.
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Answer 5

First, be who you are. I do think your friend is an *** for leaving ya. Listen, you need to start thinking of the things that would make you feel better about yourself. I don't know you, you know you. Start making a list of what it is that you would like to do or what you want to do. Go for it! Worried about weight, we all are. Walk, dance to your favorite tunes, biking, just do whatever. I know it is hard to be confident when people tear you down for so long. But it is all in your mind. Start saying to yourself, "I will not let any one knock me down anymore"! Think about what your passion is. One of the best things is to look in the mirror and find one or more things that you like about yourself. Even if its something you could tolerate. The other things, start one by one on how you could improve them if you could. Be creative and come up with some safe ideas to do this and do it. Nothing happens over night sweetie. Stay focused, you already made a decision about what you wanted to do in life, now decide on what life you want.

Answer 6

You are doing something with your life, you are obtaining a college education. And you really don't want to be the girl to leave the party and have sex. Your friend needs to grow a self esteem, the men she is dealing with have no respect for her and she obviously has none for herself. You need to do something to make your self feel better. Begin an exercise program, go and get a make over, this may sound silly however, when you look better you feel better. And maybe get some counseling to help build your self esteem. If you are feeling bad about yourself, it will show. However, if you feel good about yourself, others will feel good being around you. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 7

Forget about your friend who left you. Some people just love attention too much that they forget about their surroundings and friends who they may have hurt.

Focus about yourself. I know what I am gonna say sounds kinda lame, but I think you haven't met the right man just yet. Maybe those ppl you have hung out with are shadow and they just don't appreciate you the way you are, then to hell with them. College is about exploring and that, at times, you will find yourself among bunch of xxxholes. Do not feel discouraged. Not all guys are the same. Look outside those you usually be around with.

Answer 8

Okay, this might sound mean, but get over it and smell some f*ckin roses already. At 12 I had no friends (homeschooled + verbally abusive father runnin his mouth round town, makin sure people thought we were freaks). I had back surgery for scoliosis. I am slightly deformed, and can't even wear heels because one hip is higher than the other. My family issues were bad. Things were MUCH worse than what you got goin on. Also, no cell, and my clothes were always hand me downs from my older bro or from the cheap store. The nicest clothes I had were from Wal-mart. Oh yeah, and I help run the biz. Which means working with drill presses, saws, sanders, ect. I could go on, but seriously, girl, get the f*ck over it. It can ALWAYS be worse.

Answer 9

woah. that was like reading something from my jounal or something. every single bit of that applies to me too. except that i'm not a nursing major and my friend didn't leave to have sex, but did go to hang with her bf. for me i've had to realize that a friendship is a two way thing. if i'm her friend but she's not really being mine, i have to move on. i'm still friends with her, but i don't really think of her as my best friend anymore. set goals for yourself (ie. graduate from college) and don't let anything distract you from that. also try this, make a list of "you." your likes, dislikes, weird habits, things that make up who you are, and learn to love that person for their personality and not their size. seeing it written down on paper seriously helped me a lot. also maybe develop a hobby. have you ever tried ceramics? i love it. maybe your college has a class. whatever it is that you want, go for it. never settle, do something and be proud of yourself. if i can do it, so can you. good luck with everything!

remember, you are the product and its promoter. if you believe in yourself others will see that confidence and start believing in you too.

Answer 10

first off, your friend is just having casual sex.
secondly, you seem to be getting dates which is good.

just give it more time with the dates. get to know them well
before they get in your pants.
other than that you seem like a nice girl and you just need
to be confident.

sometimes success -> confidence. what you need to do is
confidence -> success by having a positive attitude by thinking
about previous positive experiences(there is always something positive)

before you know it you'll be doing well and can achieve your
realistic goals.