A month ago I told him I loved him but he said he had feelings for another girl. Ouch! I tried taking the easy way out and tried ending our friendship bcs I wanted to move on from him, I been waiting for a year bcs I always rush these things and hes worth the wait. He said that he couldnt go out with that other girl bcs I meant so much to him and he cared for me a whole lot. I thought about it and gave him some space seeing as I really didnt want to end our friendship and we didnt. So for the past month we started hanging out at least twice a week compared to the once a month visit when he would come by and our phone calls went from 3 times a day to like 5 times a day. I enjoy being with him bcs I love him but he just says he cares for me a whole lot. Everyone thinks were a couple! Once in awhile when my jealous ways brings up the other girl he just says he wont ever stop talking to me and he doesnt mention her at all. What is up with him? Im so confused!
2006-12-13 00:30:27 · 15 answers · asked by ¤My Goodies¤ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had tried bringing up us dating but he always says he doesnt want a gf although he does like that girl so we have talked about this a lot. But what I think is if he really likes that girl and I wanted out of the friendship why didnt he just take the opportunity and go out with that girl and not feel guilty that I was the one who ended the frienship? I think there's hope here. I try to keep my opitions open but I only want him!
2006-12-13 00:33:58 · update #1
I bring it up alot so we do talk about it. He just always says he cares for me and that Im his best friend.
2006-12-13 00:36:51 · update #2
Hello, hhmmmmmmmmmm, well it seems like you have already spoken to him and that didn't go too far. Since he maintains that he only likes you as a friend try not think of it more than it is, the reason being you don't want to set yourself up to be hurt again.
I know actions speak louder than words but does he do things that could be misconstrued as a dating relationship? It seems that even though he tries not to speak about this other girl, no doubt he cares a lot for you but maybe he hasn't sorted out how he is really feeling, you know sometimes females can be better at being intouch with their heart than males can be.
So in your situation it may be that you figured out first he is the one you want to be with while he is still in the mode of figuring out what he feels and to whom. Try to do other things, try to spend less time with him because the more you spend time together the stronger the emotional bond between you is, (this bond is cool if both of you feel the same way, but since that's not the case at this point; it could potentially land you in a whole house of hurt.
Hope this helps
2006-12-13 01:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by dymps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm well how I noticed with all of mine was 1. they get jealous when You hang around other guys 2. they care about how You're doing 3. they give you many compliments 4. they stare at you then look away quickly when You catch them 5. this one is a bit harder to notice, but if they like You their pupils will dialate. 6. they want to hang out with You and Your friends 7. they want to get to know You better Hope that helps :)
2016-05-23 17:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Shirley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm this is quite a perdiciment i think he might like you but maybe he isnt ready for commitment. another possibility is he doesnt want u 2 to break up and then end up not being friends. he probably just wants to stay friends for now give him time im sure he'll see how incredible you are and ask u out
2006-12-13 00:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by HanginByAMoment 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is just confused about his feelings and he is trying to stay at bay talk to him and give him some time to think dont call him or see him for atleast a week or two is always a mind game and maybe if you not around him he will miss you and realize what he feels for you
2006-12-13 00:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he loves you, and if he does, it's probably more of a brotherly love. He would probably have said something if he did.
If you really want to know, you'll have to ask him, though.
Good luck :)
2006-12-13 00:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by cesmarper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I won't focus all my attention to this Best guy friend, I will have many guy friends and girlfriends to have a good self expressions that means popularity, that means I will have self confidence too.What is good about this I will not be obsessive.
2006-12-13 00:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him u don't want to listen to him talk about another gurl because no girls like that
2006-12-13 00:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ju-Ju 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he definitely is into you but is scared of rejection. sounds stupid to you as you feel you have told him how you feel. If i was you i would try and make the relationship physical. Go for it.
2006-12-13 00:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by hugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him about it. Communication is the key to everything.
2006-12-13 00:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Blaman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heyy, he's in luv wid u and wanned 2 check u if u were....tats y he acted wid tat gurl, jus tell him tat u need him....best of luck *_*!!
2006-12-13 00:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by Choco 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋