Last night my boyfriend who I have been seeing since sept/oct called me before he even left work (which is kinda unusual) to tell me he would be comming by after... So he never showed up and never even called. This is the first time this happened and frankly in the past month we have only spent 2-3 nights away from each other. So the fact he didn't come by is fine...space is always good, but he could have called, right? Now at this point I am not mad, but very disapointed in him. I didn't think he would do something so shady. I was/am almost worried about him. There may be some circumstances I am sure but phone calls only take a minute...
what should I do? should I wait till he calls me? Should I call him later? if he has no good excuse should I be angry with him? I don't want to loose him, but i don't want him to think this is exceptable either.
2006-12-13 00:24:59 · 28 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might be testing your patience and the amount of space you leave for him. Or probably he wanted to tell you something and he lost his guts before he made it to your place changed his mind, or I don't know... If something happened, you would have found out until now. You should wait until tomorrow noon. If he still doesn't call, send him an SMS to "ask him out", to make sure he's ok.
2006-12-13 00:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would call him, your not desperate if your worried bout him, your desperate if your mad with him, without knowing the whole story. I have been in the same boat within the last two weeks. I understand how you feel, call him if he doesn't answer then leave a message or sms, just explain you're getting worried and you just need to know that everything is ok with him. If he doesn't have a good excuse then explain how you feel and what you would think is reasonable so this doesn't happen again in the future.
2006-12-13 00:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lookin at the stars 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well,best thing to do is not sit around and wait.call him adn see if he is alrite.girl,you dont even know if he is safe.waht if soemthing ahppened to him.ok,before i start worrying you,think abotu it,he may have totally forgot.it happens,even to the loveliest of couples.**** ahppens.you being angry with him is one thing but if he actually did soemthin that shady,then talking over it would help by saying you were worried and that he shouldnt do that again. whatever you do,having a quarrel about it is the last thign you want to do cause,ya'll have only been out for a few months and he may have a plan b unlike you.dotn get suspicious and dont say ever bring up the slightest hint of him and another girl.that will just brake the relationship in record time.other than that,i wish you all the best in the choices you make but do find out if he is ok.if you ahve persisting problems,email me,i'll help you out.
2006-12-13 00:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by 50 cent 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should call him. Don't act desperate, or angry. Just question him, maybe asking: " I thought you were coming, are you ok?" or something like that. There has to be a logical explanation if he is as loyal as he seems. You also said it seemed unusual. Maybe he had to clean up at work or something, who knows? And, just remember that he's MALE!! Guys have the memory of a door knob. So it is possible that something else came up, and he might've forgotten to call you. Just remember that every question has an answer, and this one does too. Just keep your head up, and if things don't work out, he isn't good enough for you, because everyone deserves the best!!
Good Luck!!!
2006-12-13 00:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kara <3 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why didn't you call last night? I wouldn't sit around waiting for someone if they said they were gonna come by...if they don't show up around a reasonable time then I'd call and find out what the deal was and let them know that if they'd changed their plans it would've been nice if they'd done me the courtesy of calling.
If you want to wait until he calls you..do that...it doesn't matter...do what YOU want...it's your relationship, not ours...be mad or not, as you desire...it doesn't sound like an issue getting worked up over at all and yet you're making it one...
Why create problems where none previously existed? Find out what happened, talk it out, and move on...
2006-12-13 00:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would not call him, but I would be ready for his explanation as to why he did not call, or show up, if you notice, I did not say excuse, I am giving him the benefit of the doubt! and it seems that is what you are doing. When you do get to talk to him, explain to him, the later it got, you got worried, so in future, when you say you are coming, and you don't come, for what ever reason, a phone call would be appreciated. Now if this starts to become a pattern, then you have to go another route! Have a great holiday!
2006-12-13 00:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wait until you get to the river to cross it. That means, wait until he calls you and explains his reasons, if he does not mention it, then you mention it as a rude thing to do.... More likely something happened and he was unable to come or call. Just wait to find out, if the explanation does not satisfy you or seems shady, then get mad. Chances are...
2006-12-13 00:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~Sunny~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it would make me mad unless he had a very good reason like he was in a car wreck. But fear of losing him should not make you change your feelings to suit him or he will think he can do things like this all the time. I would probably call him to make sure he was okay and if he's alright I'd give him a what for.
2006-12-13 00:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um, call highway patrol and the hospitals. I would be worried that he may have been in a car wreck or something.
Yes, you should call him now - if he doesn't answer leave a message. If he doesn't respond within 24 hours then you have the right to be upset. You are right, it only takes a minute to call and it's disrespectful that he wasted your time last night.
2006-12-13 00:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by redslippers 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your right a phone call only takes a min. If he is being inconsiderate it certainly isn't fair to you, but at the same time there could be a good reason keep the options open.
2006-12-13 00:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋