we have been going out for 3 years...but still he doesn't want to do it with me...but we do orals and stuff...he said he respects me and all...but sometimes i just think that he ain't attracted to me...
2006-12-13 00:14:53 · 24 answers · asked by biance t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hun its not that, you guys are 16, and he is very smart, just go with the flow, he is doing the right thing. Its not that he's not attracted to you, but he respects you and does'nt want to hurt you. You know there are other things besides sex in a relationship, look around and see what sex brings. yeah yeah, comdons are nice, but will they always be? what happens if it breaks, if you get tired of it. Besides you are too young and life passes so fast. Dont think about that now, just apreciate him for what he is doing and enjoy ur adolecense the best way u can. Just be lucky that for once some one gets a smart boyfriend. u should thank him and trust him. Take care.
2006-12-13 00:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oral and stuff? lets forget the respect issue for the time. if hes going down on you? your going down on him? that's all considered part of the sex act in itself. some call foreplay! stuff? 1st,2ND.3rd base with no home run? it all will lead up to sex. ask him if he is attracted to you. or is he using you because you let him do this? 16 is young if your not prepared with what may come along in the territory its called children. so are you two working and ready at 16 for a family? 3 years and monkey business something don't add up. however, if he wants to wait i highly encourage that because he knows what will and can happen as well as you and if you don't? you do now. has he gave you any reason he is with someone else? maybe he is being pressured so he does the 1/2 act. are you pressuring him? if so, don't please. then you will in the end be respected. who knows what the future will hold. so maybe you could quit a few things so you don't feel rejected. as far as attractive let me ask you this. does he go out in public with you? and do you two hang out around his.your friends? I'm giving you hints@clues so figure it out. thanks and be more patient
2006-12-13 08:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by shiznick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your bf is attracted to you. he respects you enough to be honest. Look at it that way, most guys would pressure their gfs to have sex and he didn't want to do that with you. Plus the both of you have your lives ahead of you.
You have to be mature to deal with sex. Its not just the physical part you have to deal with sex, its also emotions involved after the process. If he isn't attracted to you, move on. You shouldn't have sex until you are older and mature enough to deal with it. I hope that I have answered your question. Good luck.
2006-12-13 08:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by mcneill_35 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your only 16 whats the rush? You should be happy that he respects you and wants to wait. Not a lot of good guys left so be patient!
2006-12-13 08:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by ¤My Goodies¤ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course he is attracted to you, but you should respect his wishes if he does not want to have relations with you. just try to think that if you did not want to have sex with someone to respect your body, it would be easier on you if that somebody weren't constantly badgering you about it. plus, you're 16. you're way too young to face any hardships that may come along the way that are meant for adult married couples to handle. what if you get pregnant or get an STD or an abusive boyfriend or someone clingy who wants to marry yo and you realze you don't even love him. hey... it could happen!
2006-12-13 08:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he doesn't want to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not attracted to you. Don't pressure him. Give him all the time that he needs and tell him if he's ever ready you'll be there. He may not be ready until marriage. But if you love you'll be able to respect his wishes.
2006-12-13 08:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have nothing to do with your boyfriends intentions on waiting to have sex. Pardon me but it almost sounds like your being a little selfish. 16 is fairly young to have sex and you should be proud and happy that your boyfriend respects you enough to wait untill he is older and you are older and you are more matured to take that step of your relationship.
2006-12-13 08:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
child what is the big rush to have intercourse, once it happens you can never go back, stop playing with each other, wait until you are 18 and out of the house, you are lucky, if you were my daughter and i caught you two, well lets say bf would probably have no genitals when i get through with him
2006-12-13 08:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by paki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG...please be smart. i'm 15 and have been preg, twice don't risk that...and its good that he wants to wait but you have to want to respect what he wants and your relationship with stick together..after you have sex with someone you will end up not staying together for more then a year not even that afterwords...
2006-12-13 08:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Missing YOU! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just b/c he doesnt want 2 have sex with you doesnt mean that he doenst love you. he respects you. he doesnt want anything bad to happen 2 him. ur a 16 yr old. a horny wanna b cool, miss wanna b superstar,everybody else is doing it, 16 year old.
2006-12-13 08:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋