i was kind of seeing this guy but he moved to ireland a month ago and i dont know if its worth telling him how i feel. when we were together we were perfect, i mean we never argued we never got on each others nerves, the only thing is is that he come up with this idea of me moving to ireland with him when i left school and i thought it was a joke a first but then we talked about it but then i found out he was serious about it. he says hes missing me alot and stuff and that he cant stoip thinking about me but i dont know if he serious or not, ive had 3 guys opinions on the situation and theyve all said the same thing, but because of the age gap (im 16 and hes 27)i dont really know what to do
2006-12-12 23:46:39 · 15 answers · asked by raeanne2710 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't go. You're too young to uproot your life in such a drastic way for a guy.
2006-12-12 23:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by strawberrycrush 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be what you want to hear but your only sixteen and he's eleven years older. You need to experience so much more before you move for a guy and you could eventually resent him if you hate it in Ireland where you are alone with just this one person for company away from your family and friends. You should realise that college and your education is the most important thing right now and that your family and friends will always be there for you where as you and this guy could eventually decide your not right for each other. Try to act your age instead of trying to grow up so quickly and do normal teenage things and date guys your own age or at the most just a few years older. This is coming from someone only a few years older than you that knows that even she needs to learn more before she settles down. I hope that you make the best choice for yourself and i wish you luck
2006-12-13 08:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Along the way we fell in love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for a few years and keep writing to him and calling. You are way to young to want to commit right now. Go to dances and movies with friends. Date some interesting boys in your school. These are the best years of your life whereas he is at an age where he is ready to settle down. In a couple of years when you are older re-evaluate how you feel. Then, if you still both feel the same way then you can persue this issue by perhaps visiting Ireland for a while to see how you get along. How many of us wish that we could be 16 again and enjoy those special years.
2006-12-13 07:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll have to agree w/ James M
To only be 16, and his being 27.... you might just want to step away from that.
You've got a lot more to experience than he does... and i think 16 is young to be making a committment to someone on that type of level. Moving to ireland? wow....
I think its a bit much. Count your losses and look for someone who's closer to being on the same level with you (location AND age- wise)
2006-12-13 07:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by sa_hollingsworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel i mite have 2 give up my stidies nd go over 2 the uk with the i'm in love with(i'm 18 he is 27).he went 2 the uk lst year for i cudnt txt him or anything it was hard.if u love him go for just b sure he is the rite guy and that u think it mite a long lastn thing.
2006-12-13 08:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Cailin Deas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i think first you should experiment a little and date at least oneor two other guys...just so you know what else is out there...(tell him about this first tho!!) and then, after you've done that ,you should just follow your heart, bc if u really do love him then age isn't a factor...but make sure hes the one b4 u move out to ireland with him.
2006-12-13 07:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by onetwothree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about it for a while because it is a big move to make. Try going for a few weeks holiday first and see how it goes and then take it from there. but dont make a rash decision you will regret it later if its the wrong one
2006-12-13 07:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by xray_daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all the others, you are far too young to make such a big change and he is far too old for you.
Have a bit of fun in your life before you settle down. x.
2006-12-13 07:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by iain xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look your still very young and have a whole life ahead of you dont be making rash decisions you wil only regret it. and i dont think your family would be to happy with you leaving home at such a young age.
2006-12-13 07:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by ailbhe r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too young to settle down.
2006-12-13 08:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋