every year i dont look forward to christmas at all i am a single mum with two kids boy 7 and girl 4 and i have no support from family at all there is always nothing under the tree untill the last minute when i have to buy from the two doller shop all my bills are past dew and is getting evicted after christmas i dont get to sleep much just wondering how will i ever get what my kids want a firend of mine who also has kids brags on about how much she spends on her kids and hey they get everyyhing which realy dosnt help the situation i need a miricle
2006-12-12 23:33:10 · 9 answers · asked by katherine g 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
You will find that most miacles happen to people who work really hard to get them.....
I raised kids as a single parent with no family support and it is a tough thing to do... hard when bills pile up.. hard when christmas is on the doorstep... but there are ways to deal with all of this...
It is not big flash presents that your kids need... what they need is some christmas spirit and that is something you can give them in abundance... instead of buying into your sadness and lonliness spend that energy teaching your kids how to make decorations for the house and tree. Glue scissors and paper is all you need just add lots of imagination...
while making decorations with your kids talk to them about christmas and what it means to you... ask them what it means to them... spend quality time with them giving them the best gift they can have.... You and your time...
Also get them to help you make a christmas cake for yourselves too.... get them involved and the cake will be really special to them...
And turn off the television now and take your kids out for walks often so they are not bombarded with the televisions ads that push consumerism on little minds..
Take the kids to a carols by candle light and let them experience the joy of singing and being with others... let them discover their own spirit of christmas..
Make the routine on Christmas day different from every other day... make it stand out and be special...
Teach your kids how to make some small gifts for each other and talk to them about how special it is to spend time making presents for one another... teach them the value of gifts from the heart and hands of people who really love them..
While raising my kids alone I learned to pay my bills every week.. and in advance... if I got a really big bill I did not fret I simply started paying it off... see even if the company who sent you the bill says you cant pay it off they cant actually stop you payng it off in installments and while you do they cant take you to court...
Sit down right now and work out your income now set 2/3 of it aside for bills. 1/3 for food and living expenses. Live on that and like that. It will be hard to do but must be done.
I asked my electricity company and my phone company for payment cards and then I paid some on my phone and electricity every single pay day... I eventually got to the stage that they sent me a bill that said I was in credit! I had paid my phone and electricity bills off before they even arrived and was ahead already for the next bill!! I was sooooo proud.
for rental arrears pay your rent on the due date each week or fortnight and then pay a little more on top and keep paying the little more until the arrears are caught up plus you are two weeks in front on your rent... personally I would continue paying the bit extra till I was four weeks in front so I had a little grace time if tougher times hit.
Financial problems are sorted out little by little and with determination..
Next year decide early something that you would like each child to have for christmas and put it on laybuy no later than june.. many of the big department stores will let laybuys go on longer than they advertise so long as you are making small but regular payments... $5 per fortnight per child means you can buy them something worth $60 each if you start paying in June... start paying in January and that small amount means you can buy something worth twice as much... catch the after christmas sales and you might even get a better deal..
I hope this helps and gives you a little hope for christmas..
2006-12-13 06:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Sister! Guess what? The miracle you're waiting for is in your hands. I've been there, had more than my fair share of ups & downs. You really need to do things to make it better for your children. Giving your children a Christmas they'd enjoy doesn't have to cost you the earth. What about taking them to the beach? There's always free Christmas days for families around. There's always something you could do with children that don't cost money. Have fun days at the beach or park. Show them you're each other's best presents.
2006-12-12 23:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by Bebette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand..I too am in the same boat as you,We are both trying to bail out the water on a fastly sinking ship.Altho everyone who has answered your post so far has grand ideas to help out,I'd like for you all to understand that now a days it takes a min of $15.10 an hour(just for rent alone) to afford a 2 bedroom apt,And sadly few jobs pay that much.Even with both of us working it's like digging in sand.Now add in child care, food,electric,clothing and gas..it becomes impossible quickly.We will be homeless Jan.1st.I've called salvation army..they only have lodging for men..I've called St.Andrews..they only help women,DSS will help only if I leave my husband of 10 yrs (where's the sense in that?Plz tell me)The churches around here are maxed,and my 9 yr old alrdy knows we haven't money for christmas let alone his birthday Dec.18,thank God our 2 yr old won't notice.I often cry at night in the bathroom where no one can hear.Best advice I can give is...Things are as bad as they can get so hope for better but NEVER give up.We will be living in a tent soon and tonight's supper will be beans and toast yet again,I don't think it can get any dimmer...so I constantly and vigilantly look for the light at the end of this nightmare.My thought and prayers are with you hun,please pray for us too.Yes,I know this isn't an answer,but atleast you know your not alone.
2006-12-15 06:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by ~Why~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a religious person? God will provide sweetie, have faith. I have been where you are many times over.I dont know where you are but there should be a Salvation Army and a Toys for Tots. The real meaning of Christmas is NOT about the gifts. Dont listen to the bragger, if she had any feelings or respect for you she would not do that to you.
2006-12-12 23:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 96 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same place that you are in right now. I'm there right now, but I don't let it get me down. I look at my life and think to myself...I'm alive, my children are alive, I have a roof over my head, and I have food to eat.
There are community agencies out there that can help you in your time of crisis. The Salvation Army, Toys for Tots, your local Family Services, church organizations, and many more. You just need to know where to look.
2006-12-13 01:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by Jaylee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many congratulations!! It always happens when you least expect it, as it did for me this month as well!! November seems to be the magical month!! I've seen a LOT of BFP's in the last 2 weeks. Wish you and your hubby well and hope you have a very healthy 9 months!
2016-05-23 17:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to organizations like Toys for Tots, church organizations, Coalition for the Homeless. Help your kids to understand the true meaning of Christmas and take them to go visit some others who are less fortunate then them. It's difficult, but you have to put pride aside and seek the help that's out there.
2006-12-12 23:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by JusMe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget your "friend". She's an egotistical loser. Here's what to do..
1. Go to the library and read "Think and Grow Rich"
2. Study investment, business books, real estate
3. Get yourself a self-confidence/personal ecology session from a decent hypnotherapist, and listen to it daily.
4. Apply what you learn from the books.
God won't give it to you. The power is all yours. Step up and claim it.
2006-12-13 00:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by ljb21183 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope someone at Yahoo will be able to give you a good counsel as I am not living in an English- spoken country.
I am sending you an Angel, it is all what I can do...
I hope you don't mind me telling so if you are not a believer.
Love to you and your kids...
2006-12-13 01:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by klaartedubois 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋