I wish i felt like i fitted in, mylife seems pointless, how can i tackle this?

Answer 1

It's called LIFE. We ALL have felt this way or still do. You are not alone.

It will all make sense the older you get.

:)

Answer 2

I think a lot of people feel this way, but not all will admit to it. I have struggle with depression and eating disorders for 20 years, and I have always felt like I didnt fit in. But you do and that is the truth. Find people who have similar interests to yours. If you have a hobby, that is a great place to start. If not, explore some new hobbies to adopt and perhaps join a related club or class.
I have found on my weblog site that there are so many people out there that feel just the same way as you and I do and it really has helped me to talk with them. I no longer think it really matters whether I "fit in" as long as I am doing the things I enjoy.
If you are interested in creating a weblog and finding others who feel this way, go to www.xanga.com. I think it would certainly benefit you to gain some understanding from others and to have an online support system.

Answer 3

I think everybody gets to feeling like this at some point. The need to "fit in" is normal, but maybe you should take a good long look at where you are trying to fit in. Perhaps there are other places, groups of friends, even employment where you would feel more comfortable and because of that, start to feel as though you fit in. If your life seems pointless, do some charity work,volunteer at your local soup kitchen, or other charitable organization. If you still think your life is pointless after spending time with people that are less fortunate than you, then perhaps you should go seek professional help.

Life is seldom as bad as we sometimes perceive it to be.

Answer 4

Why do you feel that you don't fit in? and where do you not fit in family life or society? No life is ever pointless and even though sometimes you feel down, you should look at what you've got. Ok sometimes we don't have a lot, but we are rich in life, and things that happen in our lives are our learning curves. We all have a point in this life no matter how small. Lots of love, and a BIG hug to you, keep chatting on yahoo answers there are some good people on here x

Answer 5

I know how you feel, felt the same for many years..... tried the other suggestions I've seen so far..... the sex, the pills, and a lot of drink all of which are great but temporary solutions! Then I realised it wasn't me that was the problem, it was the rest of the world, or at least my little world!

Went travelling for a while, worked my way around the globe found some place where I feel I do fit in. From UK now live in Indonesia! A little drastic but it worked for me!

Answer 6

I feel that way too sometimes then I force myself to do something else puullll myself away from the computer and take up a hobby I have or go to the library just to be around people and get lost in an interesting book or just a magazine and learn something, How to build a kite, fold a paper airplane, how something works just anything to get my mind out of the funk.
Good Luck you are not alone

Answer 7

You need to find a purpose. Always think about the people around you specially the people you love and what you can do for them. When you know that there are people depending on you life will not be as boring because your time will be consumed on thinking about them and not your self. Focus your mind in other people and what you can do for them rather than using all your time and energy thinking about your self and how pointless your life is.

Forget these words > I, me, myself, mine
Instead I will say again, focus your mind in other people. And you will see, you are more blessed than many people.

Also Remember this saying:
An idle mind is a devil's playground.

All bad thoughts and bad feelings will come to you if your mind is not busy. Find a hobby, read a book, learn something, talk to people, help other people. You do not need to be rich to help other people. You can create your own blog, write an articles that might be useful to other people.

This, I have read in the wall of my school when I was in grade school. It is a very nice writing found long time ago. If anyone can live by it, they will find peace and happiness.


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Title: Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others,
even to the dull and ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be
greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career
however humble;
it is a real possession in the
changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you
to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit
to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore, be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham,
drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

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I hope this helps. I will be praying for you. God bless you and remember this, this world will not be the same without you. And you can contribute to make this world a better place. You are special.

Answer 8

*hug*

You do fit in, you just haven't found where yet...

Maybe you need to try a few more hobbies. It's easy to assume that everyone is 'normal' and you're not if you haven't found your natural 'habitat' yet.

If you normally just hang out and go to the cinema etc, then try something different like salsa dancing or joinign a choir. If you're usually online, then try a different approach - check out a few chatrooms, or even try a shared web-based game.

Just a suggestion, go to a church (not necessarily for a service, just to go and sit) and see how you feel - if you like it, go back; you might meet some nice people... like you would with any new hobby, organisation, place...

Always rememebr there are people out there just like you, you'll find them and fit wonderfully when you have, and noone's life is EVER pointless...

Hang in there - and remember you've always got us lot on Answers to grumble at if you need to! ;)

Answer 9

I feel very much like that at the moment. I'm concentrating on my photography and furthering my education to try to find a new path. In the meantime something good may come along. There is a lot to be said about positive thinking! Good luck.

Answer 10

Oh Lisa, every body fits in somewhere, and every life has a point, and remember there is always someone somewhere who loves you and cares about you, sounds to me like you need a big hug, cheer up babes, and HAPPY CHRISTMAS and a big hug from me.

Answer 11

Why do you think your life is pointless, we are all here for a reason,even if it is just to make some one smile for a second, please see your doctor, it sounds as though you are depressed, and stop trying to fit in, be yourself, you may find they are trying to fit in with you!.