now the child already grown up & i really really feel guilty about it
2006-12-12 23:13:19 · 21 answers · asked by Blossom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
whoa.if i where your husband i will divorce you in a heart beat for lying and cheating. unfortunatly maybe he love your son as his own son and that will kill him.shame shame shame on you.
2006-12-12 23:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child is grown and now you feel guilty. Isn't this a little late to be having remorse? Now you are about to upset not only your sons life but also the father, the only father he has ever known. However, they both deserve to know the truth. You are simply going to just tell them and then explain why and how you could have kept such secret. God forgive you, God bless****
2006-12-12 23:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOUR HUSBAND HAS RAISED THAT CHILD IN A LOVING AND NURTURING HOME ALL OF HIS/HER LIFE, THEN DO NOT TELL HIM THAT HE IS NOT THE FATHER. WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO HURT HIM LIKE THAT? ALL THAT HE'S EVER KNOWN IS THAT HE IS THE FATHER OF THAT CHILD. IT WOULD BE A CRUEL THING TO DO IN MY OPINION. AND JUST BECAUSE YOU FEEL GUILTY IS NO REASON TO RUIN YOUR HUSBANDS LIFE. FOR SOME REASON, MANY YEARS AGO, YOU MADE A CHOICE TO KEEP THIS A SECRET. MY ADVICE IS FOR YOU TO TAKE THAT SECRET TO THE GRAVE WITH YOU.
YOU DIDN'T MENTION TELLING THE CHILD, AND YOU SAY THE CHILD IS GROWN. BY TELLING THIS SECRET NOW, YOU WOULD ULTIMATELY BE RUINING THE LIVES OF THE TWO PEOPLE THAT YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO LOVE AND PROTECT THE MOST.
I DON'T SEE ANY GOOD COMING FROM THIS REVELATION. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU IN WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE THOUGH.
2006-12-12 23:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have told your husband as soon as you found out!
What a selfish & inconsiderate thing to do!
These sad news may or may not destroy him you know.
Better tread carefully!
Are you 100% sure about all this by the way?
How can you be so certain?
If you were sleeping with your husband at the same time as with your lover, there still might be a chance either way, who knows?
So, is there a slight chance that your husband might still be the child`s father or not?
What would be the point in announcing it to the world now since the child in question is grown?!?
Does anyone else know about your dirty little secret?
How about your child & his/her biological father?
Always think about the trail!!!
2006-12-12 23:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some things are better left unsaid...think of this...will anything improve by your telling this information? No, instead you will devastate two people.
You might want to go to therapy to talk this out with someone, to get it off your chest .
2006-12-13 05:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. Wallow in your guilt since you should have told him about seven months before the kid was born.
"Any @$$hole can be a father, but it takes a special man to be a DAD"
2006-12-12 23:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lost in Merryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did something you should own up to. Don't make your husband or your child carry the burden of your mistake. Carry this alone. For their sake.
2006-12-12 23:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why you must tell now ? Till the last day of your life or your last breath then break the news. Is very hurt and sad, telling now.
2006-12-12 23:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats a hard one good luck i would have to sit him down and be honest Good luck tho hope it turns out well
2006-12-12 23:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you should've been told him and make sure your child knows and make sure you explain everything before you tell him and if he stays with you then you know he must really loves you
2006-12-13 00:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by meanassnigga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋