is it ok to give up my virginity at the age of 17. I love him. I also want to do it. just a try. but my family members always tell me not to have sex til im married. Will my body figure change? will it be obvious that i had sex?
2006-12-12 23:10:24 · 15 answers · asked by angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex is not something that you do just to do. It is a decision that has to be made with lots of thought. Giving yourself to someone is very special. Once you give someone your virginity you can never get it back. If you are nervous that is normal. But if you have a bit of doubt...you know that little voice that talks to you in your head then don't do it. If your boyfriend is pressuring you don't do it. If he truely cares about you he will wait until you are ready. At 17 you can make logical decisions.
To answer your other questions...no your body does not change and it is not obvious after sex. Although some mothers say they can tell an emotional change in their daughters
Good luck
2006-12-12 23:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by whoamitojudge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 is legal (in my country that is. You should check with yours) as long as the boy is 19 or older. Responsible people who cares about their futures & wishes to have a well planned life will refrain from sex until they feel it will be safe enough. But then there are the careless groups who will have sex without thinking of the dangers involved & the repercussions. You need to decide which of the 2 are you. Sorry I cant comment on the shape of a womens body after having sex for the first time but I have heard that in slimmer women, you can notice that a gap between the thighs will close.. I dont know how true that really is. As a last note I wish to warn you that having sex may become addictive and could begin to control your emotions over boys & life in general. It would be foolish to beleive that you are going to experiment on sex as a once off thing & refrain from it afterwards. Also, sex has been regarded as a sacred event in almost every young girls life going onto womanhood & should be appreciated with a true partner rather than experimenting for the sake of making another individual satisfied.
I wish you the best of luck & Im sure you will be able to make the right decision.
2006-12-12 23:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it when you feel it's right. Do NOT do it just because you're curious because in the end you may regret it and can never get your virginity back! I lost my virginity when i was 17; to the person i am still with now. We've been together for 5 years now... family members will always tell you what is "best" for you, but only you can decide that for yourself. besides that...i can't really tell who's a virgin and who's not just by looking at them.....
good luck with your decisions.
2006-12-12 23:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the moral culture is in your part of the world. If a girl is expected to be a virgin when she marries, then this would not be a good idea. However rest assured that if you have sex you will stay the same shape (unless you become pregnant - a major consideration) and you will not acquire a scarlet letter on your forehead.
2006-12-12 23:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious issue and yes your family memebers are right, it is good for you to keep your self till you are married.There are a lot of consequences that you have to consider, these include pregnacy,STDs and HIV. Your body figure will not change per say when you have sex rather any changes will be pshychological.
My advice to you is to hold on alittle bit more and be sure this guy loves you besides there are many ways to have fun with him besides sex. You are still very young and will have many sexually active years ahead of you so be wise and concetrate developing yourself educationally.
2006-12-12 23:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by iyke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it angel, there's no turning back. Of course he wanted sex, he's already horny and you already given him a preview of your goods. What he and you are experiencing right now are raging hormones. Next month, next year you'll see him differently and he to you. Love is not the ultimate reason for giving up your virginity. You have to be secured of him as well. Sorry but if he loves you truly, he should be more respectful and protective of you considering also your age.
2006-12-12 23:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by whitechristmas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO! Nah, your figure won't change, and you should give it up. Virginity is such a hassle, you should get rid of it. This guy isn't gonna be your husband, and neither is the next one. You should gain experiance before you get married, that way you can pleasure your man. No guy is gonna remain a virgin untill marriage, why should a girl?
2006-12-12 23:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it won't ,yr body wil lstay the same but do u really want ot lose yr virginity at 17?ur mature i'm sure to b considering this but think it over .use protection otherwise i'm sure ur body image will change if u get my jist,nyways b careful and u hav to know for sure that he'd b wit u even after having sex.good luck
2006-12-12 23:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by 321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
itll be obvious if ur not careful.. i mean wen u get pregnant.. ur so young.. being intimate is not a problem.. but at dat age don't be so sure dat he's the ryt guy.. don't be so sure that ure giving up ur virginity with dat guy! ul be able to meet new guys.. and so as he.. juz be not so sure.. maybe at the age of 23 and above.. ^_^
2006-12-12 23:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by aiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you body will not remain the same, you will be no longer a virgin. If he really loves you he will respect your body. You have to decide what you have to do with your life and your body.
2006-12-12 23:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by wwjd_man_isa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋