I met this girl through my dad, (they work together) she asked me who I stay with and I said with my family so she could not ask me another question about that and I knew she thought I meant brothers, cousins etc... although I know I meant my wife and daughter. We exchanged phone numbers and emails when she got back we developed such a good friendship which I believe I fell in love with her... One thing I've noticed when I visited her she didn't really give me the kind of attention I expected and from there I decided to send her my picture and my daughter's to inform her indirectely that I have a child. she liked the picture and asked if I could also send her my daughter's mama picture. after I sent the picture she didn't send me any email anymore and now she only sends me some slide shows without having written anything concerning her or me.
so my question is; did she also feel the way I fell (in love) or she didn't have any feeling or thought like that? I just feel guilty.
2006-12-12 22:19:34 · 16 answers · asked by Invasion 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She had the feelings and she was expecting you to make the first move in this direction -- that means either you tell her such a thing which sounds like you love her or something like that.
When you send ur daughter's pic, she must have been thinking that you are doing so to tease her, or to make her come and talk with you about your relationship, But at the same time she felt a little regreted also, All it means that her Mind was saying you are married but her heart was not ready to accept it. And so she asked for the baby's mumma's pics that is your wife.
She might have been expecting a bit romantic reply of that mail saying that you were kidding and you love her ..... something like that. But what happened ------ You send the baby's mumma' pics.
This thing made her sure that you are married and what you meant by "Your Family".
She had feelings for you and she thinks you never felt anything for her. And as you are married she doesn't want you to ever realize her feelings. So she has not stop talking with you, but now is trying to keep a distance from you.
That's why she is sending slide shows only without writing any thing on them ---- so that there will be a communication between you two But it would not be personal communication.
Did you get it now?? :)
Have a nice day and a great life with your own family.
You are married, don't think too much about her.
You are a Dad, you should behave like a responsible person.
Good Luck !!
2006-12-12 22:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by shon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may of thought at first like you said that you lived with a family member and by you saying not directly who she may have become suspicious. She probably did start to develop feelings for you maybe love but now she does know that you have a wife and your still together with a daughter she obviously doesnt want to get involved with a married man. She has done the right thing and tried to forget about you. You should do the same and thank her. You could have made the biggest mistake of your life. If you feel guilty now think of how you would of felt if you had actually taken things further. Also if she had never found out about your wife and started seeing you you lied from the beginning so it would of all ended in tears; You, your wife your daughter and her. I wouldnt contact her again.
2006-12-12 22:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by nicnac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she must have had the same feelings for you but the pictures just made reality reality and sometimes reality sucks. she might have thought that she had a change at love with you but the pics confirmed that it would be a pointless situation. Im so glad that she stopped her feelings for you before the two of you created a situation that would have blown way out of porportion. As for you you need to analise your current situation and find out why and what could have made you fall inlove with someone else. Are you not getting the attention and respect you feel you need at home or are you suffering from a low self esteem and this girl gave u a boost of self esteem when she showed interrest in you? Sweety its difficult and no one is saying that you should or shouldnt feel guilty you just need to figure out why and how. good luck!
2006-12-12 22:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe Im a bit old fashion but honesty is the best policy.You should have told her that from the beginning.there are some things that you only reveal when the relationship is matured enough to deal with it but things like being married or being in a relationship should be part of the introduction. You fell inlove with this "girl", shame on you - what about your family?Thumbs up to the girl for having her priorities straight.
2006-12-12 23:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by noodles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yert another man pretending to be someone hes not....
Your married... why did you bother to persue another girl... is your marriage that much of a scam... the girl in question obviously did like you but your top shelf (off the market) why the hell should she waste her time with you ... your only likely to go back to your wife anyway!!!
Men like you make me physically sick...
I hope she posts said pictures on the net informing everyone that your a lousy cheater
2006-12-12 23:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were accurate now to not enable the guy spend the nighttime with you because you had in elementary words met him that nighttime and why interior the h*** ought to she go away with him except there replaced right into slightly connection with him. They probably did sleep togeter because they both were inebriated and all of us comprehend they only did not bypass to his position and she slept on the settee. I do exactly not beleive that. They were inebriated and had sex and the subsequent morning even as they awoke in mattress mutually she replaced into sorry about it and then they concocted this lie.tell her that your courting can not bypass any farther till she tells you the fact.After she admits that they'd sex. you should opt for to reconsider the courting. those who get inebriated can not administration what they do. She desires to stop eating.
2016-11-30 12:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, she knows, especially now, call it women's intuition, but i reckon she may have had an idea already that u were unavailable and maybe she did start to develop feelings for u, but now that you have directly or indirectly told her that your married and have kids, she is trying her best to keep her distance to avoid any futher pain on her part and also to avoid hurting your wife and kids anymore than is nessessary. tell this girl that you are sorry for not being truthful from the start, that you never meant to lie to her and hurt her, but that you are sorry, she may not believe you striaght away, but if you are truly sorry, then keep telling her everyday until she believes you, and make sure that you keep on telling her the truth from now on.
2006-12-12 22:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by tribalgirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lied by omission and she now knows you are married and has chosen not to be your mistress. Good for her. You should feel guilty you betrayed your wife.
2006-12-12 22:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why exactly didn't you want her finding out about your wife and daughter? You obviously wanted to have your cake and eat it.
2006-12-12 22:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think? You misled her, wasted her time, and proved yourself to be self centred and untrustworthy. You should feel guilty, go to your room and think about what you have done.
2006-12-12 22:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by garfet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋