this guy has been chasing me for years. even when i was in my serious relationship.
hes always flirting with me and paying me compliments etc...
we have only met up 4 times quite recently and have kissed. i have stayed over his place but havent taken things further sexually even though he wants too.
after we have met up, i dont hear from him for weeks and i end up chasing him. i then give up chasing him because i dont hear from him but then, he comes back chasing me again like before and the whole thing happens again!!!
whats going on????
he knows i came out of a serious 6 year relationship with my fiance 8 months ago. has that got something to do with it???
he does ask about my ex when we are together.
hes 28.
2006-12-12 22:12:37 · 17 answers · asked by Special Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is probably either waiting for you to be ready for a relationship, only partially interested, or is a player. Hon, you can't know unless you ask him. Or if you want to play the game, always make him chase you.
I do not play games like that because I consider myself honest, and not a prat. A brat, yes, but no prat.
You can knock him off the fence by simply asking. If you are ready for a relationship be up front, and say so. If not, then both of you are farked up.
Charles "That Cheeky Lad"
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2006-12-12 22:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he friends with you ex. He may feel awkward. Next time you see him ask him whats going on. If he doesnt want anything serious or not the same things as you then dont see him again. If he starts chasing you again tell him he had his chance. You need to move on from this if its not going to be anything more if you daren't ask him what it is you two have together. Do you want to sleep with him, maybe he thinks if he just keeps trying he might get some action. You must be holding back for a reason. You have to ask him whats going on.
2006-12-13 06:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by nicnac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's more interested in the thrill of the hunt than anything else. Basically, he is using you.
If you are after a relationship, then this is not the guy for you. Don't chase him anymore. He knows how to play this game. Move on to find someone else.
2006-12-13 06:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by sothere! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the thrill of the chase, he couldn't have you when you were in your relationship which made him want you even more. STAY WELL AWAY he likes playing games you Will end up getting hurt and he wont give a damn. You can do better than him, be single for a while you'll love it
2006-12-13 06:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God. This sounds so familiar its scary! He's playing with your head. Loves the chase, but not quite sure what to do with you when you show the slightest interest in a real relationship.
Trust me, from experience, dont contact him, ignore his attempts to contact you, dont meet him, dont even try and stay friends with him. It will only cause you to be frustrated, angry and hurt. Find someone who can actually give you what you need! This guy obviously cant.
2006-12-13 06:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he just wants the chase not the serious relationship to me.
sounds like a bit of a loser or a player.
get rid honey and find someone worth your time!
after a long relationship you dont need that crap.xxxxx
2006-12-13 06:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gut feeling is to forget this guy. There could be many reasons for his behavior. He may be really attracted but afraid of being hurt. Or he could just be a game player, or he might be unable to sustain any feeling for long. In my opinion, you have shown the ability to have a lasting, committed relationship. Why waste time on someone who does not have that ability?
2006-12-13 06:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by Marty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone, all he's after, is getting you between the sheets and then when he does, he'll move on to the next mug. if he was really intewrested in you, he'd be taking things at your pace and he'd keep in contact alot more than he is doing now. he's just a thrill seeker and your his next target, he'll just see you as the next notch on his bedpost so i'd steer clear if i were you and give yourself time to be single as you've only just got out of a relationship quite recently. don't rush into with anything too quickly with anyone.
2006-12-13 06:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by tribalgirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your not the only one hes chasing.
2006-12-13 08:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by PinkPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing headgames with you, alternately chasing you and ignoring you.
He has also shown no respect for the serious relationship you were in recently.
Just why exactly do you want this idiot in your life?
2006-12-13 06:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋