I'm only in the 8th grade, but I'm totally mad about my neighbor, who's in the 11th grade. He knows I like him, but he hasn't made any move. I think he doesn't like me back, and I've tried to forget him, but I don't know how. And even if I did, I can't.
Am I really in love with him?Or am I too young to love someone?
PS: I need an answer, or else I'll be crushing on him for the rest of my life..even though he doesn't like me back..
2006-12-12 22:08:51 · 19 answers · asked by Jayden 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At your age you are capable of a crush or what they call puppy love. It is not a deep seeded feeling that develops over time, it is a fleeting feeling that can be gone in a couple of weeks. I understand that it feels very strong, but we have all felt it and as we got older and felt real love, we realized that it was just a strong crush.
2006-12-12 22:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure its possible to feel love, but its more likely just infatuation. The reason why people usually feel that you can't really love someone like that at that age is because you don't have the life experience to understand yourself, what you like, what you like in someone else and what to expect. I found that with dating growing up, each person that I dated felt like the one for me. Then I'd get to know them and find out that certain traits that I thought were important weren't after I actually dated someone with those traits. It'll keep evolving from person to person and likely not feel as strong as the first one because you will become slightly desensitised to the whole thing. This is not a bad thing because it helps ensure that you make more rational desicions later on in life when it comes to relationships. Don't worry about the crush thing, it'll likely go on for a while and for the next few years be the yard stick that you use to compare other guys to while your relationship judging skills are developing.
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2006-12-12 22:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mosh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
infatuation is a real emotion...I still think about boys I liked in kintergarten. But your brain is still growing and unable to withstand the pressures that come with adult life.
If you got with this older guy it might get serious and you may get pregnant. How would you carry a baby and give birth and raise a child at your age?
Most guys use girls and throw them to the curb. He isn't ready either to support a wife and child. It's best not to date until you are 18 ...when your brain catches up with your body.
Once you start dating, your nesting instincts kick in and you prepare to have a family....make sure you date a responsible man...not a silly boy
2006-12-12 22:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, but you can love. You may not have much experience in what love means once it is put into motion with a member of the opposite sex who is not a family member, but to love someone is great. What you do with that feeling is what counts. Be smart, be honest, if he likes you back ask of his intentions, and don't give in to any kind of pressure to be cool or fit in or have this guy. You are wonderfully young, and your love journal has just begun...it will become full of love, or kisses, of tears sometimes ( I hope not) but you can cry out of love, so just go with your gut. Trust yourself, and know this guy, truly know him, before you choose to give your heart away so freely. But have fun, just do it safely!
2006-12-12 22:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Gay Juliet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you can be in love at any age, but if you are in the 8th grade, 95% of the time it is infatuation. I guarantee in another year, you'll forget all about him.
2006-12-12 23:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha! You don't know what love is until you go through a bunch of those "love" and heartbreaking.
Yes, you are too young to LOVE and no, you're not in love. It's just the teenager harmones kicking in.
2006-12-12 22:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by HMONG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young and the reason he hasnt made a mpove is because he knows it too. Sorry to be harsh but get over it and move on.It aint gonna happen.
2006-12-12 22:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're never too young to love. If you really like this guy, just tell him. He may feel the same way you do, and is just as shy.
2006-12-12 23:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by James M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should concentrate on your studies first. Love ke liye to puri zindagi padi hai. Do NOT ever think of having friendship with guys until you feel you have achieved something in your life. Be proud of yourself what you want to be first....... It will be immature physical attraction and nothing more.
2006-12-12 22:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's a crush? but love's a whole different thing..well, real love, that is.. crushes are normal..so go on, get to know him..spend some time havin good fun.. when u can be happy when he's happy, even when he ends up with another girl..that's love.. patient n selfless..
2006-12-12 22:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by deathbyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋