i have a 4 yr old son, planning for no more babies.
Just concerned that it may affect him largely.
2006-12-12 22:03:58 · 21 answers · asked by sheetal always 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There are dozens of studies in that area and none of them are conclusive. What those studies do tell us is that if you put your child in situations where they can socialize with kids their age frequently, they will develop better social habits. I think your son will be just fine.
2006-12-12 22:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not planning to have more than one child has a number of reasons and these could be socail (your society has it in vogue), personal (you are not ready to go through the trouble again), financial (raising one child is economical and he will get the best of everything), patriotic (country needs population control), career realted compulsions (no time) etc.etc. But having a single child has a lot of problems including the biggest issue that the only child gets so much of everything that there is a chance that you create a spoilt brat.
But it is still better to have at least two babies. It would give your first child a number of opportunities to empathise, respect life and attain maturity of emotions. The second child shall also get to learn a lot from the first one. And parents always learn to be more patient and mature while raising the kids.
Your first child is just four and I beleive this is the right time to have another. GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-12 22:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The plus of having a single child is, you may be able to spend more time with him.
However, if you have another child, when he grows up he would have company and may not feel lonely. Someday we all leave our kids behind and kick the bucket. You may want him to have somebody who would be there for him.
If you are feeling that having a second child would make him feel bad or something like that, you need to prepare him to receive the newborn. It happens in every home. Keep him involved in the daily care of the newborn. Tell him - "You are the big brother, you need to take care of your kid brother/sister". I am sure you would handle it.
All the best !
2006-12-12 22:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by sujatha_sudhakaran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what kind of community you are in.Child has to grow in an environment where he/she learns to co exist.Having a brother or sister will definitely help in learning how to share things,emotions,love etc.
A single child in a joint family with lots of cousins or a housing community with lots of kids ,will have a much healthier life when he/she grows up.Single child as lo means the child will spend his/her time mostly alone in front of tv/video game,etc....and thus might cause a depressing mentality.
2006-12-12 22:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Aquila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think every1 should have 2 babies 1 baby is a boon but he will not have any bro or sis with him 2 enjoy his child hood ,2 kids will enjoy a lot together,will learn frm each other ..single kid don;t enjoy so much he need companion with him really other wise he will be jiddi baccha ,will emotionally black mail u some time ....so...try 2 have 2 kids it will be good 4 u..ur children will enjoy their life how they would have grown together u can't not imagin that...
2006-12-13 12:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by jagrati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine. There are more and more singletons these days and it's not a problem if you make sure that he has plenty of opportunities to socialise with other kids his own age and feels secure in your love. If you've got family close by, it would be great if he cld hang out with cousins as they will take the place of siblings as he gets older.
2006-12-12 22:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an only, and never really minded it. I learned how to amuse myself when there was no one around, and this probably helped foster some creativity. As a child, I was always around my adult relatives, and this helped me with language acquisition and social skills, I believe. But I'm only a sample of one...you'll likely get a range of opinions from your question, and that's good.
2006-12-12 22:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by Rusting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As per psychological single child is a bane .
if you have many friends and neighbours of all ur age then its fine if not its surely bane becaus you could not share your feelings.
2006-12-13 02:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by karthik s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think positive. If you have another baby, your son will have a playmate at home with whom he shall grow to learn, to share and to guide. Your baby brings joy and happiness to you as well to your son. Definitely worth trying.
2006-12-13 00:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by k c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a sure bane. be sure have some atleast two who can take care of themselves together at thier later stages. It is better to have more children rather than one and stop. Because later at our older age, anyone of them will take care and if you got only one it is going to be difficult.
2006-12-13 01:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by kannan n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋