its only been a few days since we broke up, but i know we could be fine again. he said that he still loves me, but he can't do this right now. ok, fine. we didn't break up over anything major, just maybe things that i could've done better that i wasn't doing (ie: seeking help for anxiety and depression). i am actively seeking help to make myself a better person, in those aspects (for myself mainly). i love him, and i don't want to lose him forever. question is, how long should i wait before maybe calling or emailing him?
2006-12-12 21:56:08 · 12 answers · asked by noxregrets 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not call him first. Wait for him to come around. It may be a few days. He needs some "space." In the meantime, seriously straighten yourself out for good, because he will not put up with it much longer.
2006-12-12 22:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a thought....you are already counting the minutes to talk to this guy after just having broken up a few days ago. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to just chill out. I dont know what caused your breakup but it sounds like there were some issues that are impossible to quickly resolve.
You mentioned that you need to get some help for some mental issues. That's great that you are getting help. Perhaps that should be your focus now. It is hard to have a healthy relationship when one person is tackling personal issues.
If this guy truly loves you, he will call. In the meantime, I would take care of myself first. Do what you need to do to lick your anxiety/depression.
My 2 cents.
2006-12-13 06:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by sothere! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Well the reason why he can't do this right now is probably becasue your current state. There is no time limit. However, let him know that you are seeking help, and that you will not burden him with problems he cannot solve for you. Be considerate of him and do not apply pressure or trap him, don't give him reasons to leave for good. Let him know you know that you have been a wrek, that you love him, and that you wish to simply chat until you are ready to love him with a clean slate under you. Your relationship can then be renewed. All in good time.
2006-12-13 06:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Gay Juliet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of people saying 'you got to learn to love yourself before you love somebody' ? Well, that's what exactly what you have to do. You're dealing with anxiety and depression, I think the best way for you to seek help is by visiting a counselor. Or better yet, get your girlfriends, and share your feelings. I think your boyfriend is upset because he felt as if he couldn't do anything to help you overcome your problems. If you really love him, you got to change. Love yourself. You don't have to wait to call him. You love him, so just go ahead! Tell him how much you love him. Let him accompany you and deal with your problems together.
2006-12-13 06:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in a better position first - if you broke up cause you werent seeking help for depression, then start seeking help. Then you can call and say you're getting help and you want to try again, or at least start again by dating. Just let him see you trying to be the person you want to be.
2006-12-13 05:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand back and give him a break. Smothering a relationship will not make it better.
See your Doctor for Thyroid testing. This causes depression. Have your hormone levels tested. They can cause anxiety. Make yourself well. Before you get in touch again.
Give yourselves time to Miss each other.
2006-12-13 06:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not how long you should wait to start running after him and totally making yourself his doormat. It's how long you should wait to get on with your life and find a more mature partner. The answer is: start today.
2006-12-13 06:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to email him and just talk to him tell him you want to be with him but if he needs time thats fine too if he cares about you at all he will come back to you.
2006-12-13 05:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by cade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you do it now. later may be too late. so call him and talk about this maybe you will resolve everything. good luck and take care
2006-12-13 06:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by raelo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to wait
if he wants u back, he will find u no matter what
give him time to think what he truly wants
2006-12-13 06:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by starapproximate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋