we met in Hi5.com. He loves me bt i m scared of my parents, society. And he tls me he vl marry after 5 yrs.I tld him my parents vl never keep quiet and vl never let me wait for 5 yrs as I am 30 years old. I asked my love tht if i elope and come to ur place vl u accept me, he said yes. But still i dnt wnt to gve hm trouble. So cnt understand wht step i should take in my life.
Plz help me wht dicission should i take....
2006-12-12 21:40:30 · 28 answers · asked by joy p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only 7 years!!!! How happy you are!!!!
2006-12-12 22:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you are older instead of a society oriented problem there could be a much worse problem which is the biological problem. Since there is a 7 year gap between you sometimes it might become a hurdel in understanding each others needs. It wiuld have been okay if it was just a 2 or 3 yr difference. You both have to figure it out.
2006-12-13 14:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Joy ... before you take a decision of eloping and marrying your young friend do take few moments and think with your mind instead of your heart. You have mentioned that you have met him and let me guess it was an intimate affair. I only hope that he is not leading you so that he is getting what he wants.
One thing more is that women age faster than men and age difference of 7 years now would not mean much to him at this present moment but few years down the line he would start feeling that he has made a mistake.
If your head says this is not the case then go ahead and marry him. I wish you luck
2006-12-12 22:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sudden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 things are important
First your love is true or just affection?
Second whether he also love's U till the extend u love him.
Third Nature of your parents, What are there expectations from u and what they want u to do your family backgroud do u have younger sister keep all in mind .
I will suggest never hurt your parent and try to understand the person of 22 years will I want to say he is too small to handle this responsibility and the other thing the society from your side and from his side will not give u respect.
But at last dont ask your heart what to do? I think your brain has right answer's...
2006-12-12 22:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by trishulsawant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to wait 5 years to marry any guy. This guy isn't playing with a full deck.
Generally, the age difference shouldn't be a problem for society. Your family will need to simply accept who you choose as your husband. If they can't respect you & your man, then you may need to let go of some family ties.
Be cautious with this particular guy, especially having met him online. You never know what you're going to get.
2006-12-12 21:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough decision.
If you leave your home to go to him things might not work out as you've lost the support of your family - what little of it there seems, but still at least you're not on your own.
But, if you stay and dump your boyfriend will you be happy?
And, further more, why wont he marry for five years? Thats just daft. You marry when you feel the time is right, not when you're old enough
2006-12-12 21:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a problem. But don't delay. Now u r 30, if u wait for 5 more yrs it's difficult 4 u to give birth. Think every thing & act accodingly.
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-12 22:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by THYAGU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 30 and he is 23 and you are in love - reciprocal & mutual. I believe you must take a decision for yourself. You two should get married. Of course, it is important to know as to why he does not want to marry for at least 5 years and if there are very genuine reasons, you must at least get engaged. That shall give your parents a sense of security and confidence.
Caution: It is rather starnge that you contemplate eloping and then reject it because you dont want to put him in trouble. Are you sure, you two are in love? If YES, the trouble is worth it.
GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-12 22:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant wait for 5 years what if he runs away in between what will you do then and if you go to his house and he does not accept you then , i mean its totally different thing when you face the things practically . dear you need to have his statement right now . i dont understand what will happen after 5 years except that he will be more mature to take his own decisions and may be in the mean time he get influenced by any of his family members or his friends .
2006-12-12 22:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Can Marry Him
I have seen a number of cases like this,
If you really love him you can go for the wedding, As he said he wants the wedding atfer 5 years and you can't wait. I think if your family is not much conservative you can talk to them. If they are, then you can go for wedding against their will.
But before taking any step be sure that the guy really loves you and would accept you without caring about your parent's anger.
Go for wedding ONLY IF you are DAMN SURE that he REALLY loves you.
Good Luck!
2006-12-12 21:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by shon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. You ask your b/f that it is not possible to wait for 5 years as I am already 30 ys of age.If you agree now, he will do sex with you and you will be in a very precarious condition. He is 23 at this time and he can marry you. Ask him that if he loves you, he should marry you now and donot wait for five years.
2006-12-12 21:53:57 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋