I met this girl on myspace and we went out for a date....we had a good time and i think she liked me but when we were saying good byes to each other and how wonderful our time was ...i told her that i would love to go out with her again and i also said that next time we go out please dont hide these eyes behind these color contacts....i love the way your eyes look naturally beautiful......did i do the wrong thing becoz she didnt tell me she was wearing contacts.... ..
2006-12-12 21:30:47 · 15 answers · asked by J D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she usually wears the colored contacts and i have seen her pics on myspace without lenses...so i know she was wearing them
2006-12-12 21:34:37 · update #1
How do you know she was wearing contacts? If she wasn't...I wouldn't say you did the wrong thing. I would say you looked a little...how to put it nicely...well you get it I hope. If she was wearing contacts just hope they aren't to correct her vision because you then would look like a jerk. Depending on how you know she is wearing contacts you may look like a stalker or something weird. But she could have taken it as a compliment also. Which ever the case I don't think it was wrong...maybe just not the wisest thing to say. Have you talked to her since? Does she avoid you? Plans for 2nd date? Answer those and there should be your answer.
2006-12-12 21:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing JD...Natural is beautiful. If you have seen this on myspace then it should not be such a big deal. Try contacting her.
Good Luck
2006-12-12 21:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by mumtaz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I agree with you- I'd prefer a girl not hide her natural eye color. On the other hand, even I wouldn't have said THAT to a girl! Hehe...hopefully she wasn't insulted by it, but who knows? If she is very self-conscious she may have been hurt by it. I'm sure she would appreciate it if you called her up and expressed your concern over if you hurt her unintentionally. At least you could put your conscience to rest.
2006-12-12 21:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, after only one date you are telling her what to wear or not to wear? A bit controlling are you? Put yourself in her shoes, what if she told you she liked you, but would you cut your hair differently for the next time...or grow a beard? It just told her that physical means more to you than WHO she is inside. Shallow Hal here?
If she didn't comment about your statement, and has made another date, it hasn't bothered her. Just be careful next time.
2006-12-12 21:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing... what matters is not the makeup, in this case, the eye color comes into question.
What you said was totally cool.
My last girlfriend was "Dutch Indonesian" and she has the most amazing eyes..... almond brown.. until she popped in these "colored contacts" one day so they.. her eyes were blue.
I took one look a her....
yikes! Blue? And what was worse... damn.... the color was so fake.......
It robbed her of her own beauty.
"Her" beautiful eyes.
Don't worry... girls who worry that way are nothing but problems.
Count yourself lucky.
Move On!!! :)
2006-12-12 22:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appropriate he's incredibly gentle! So, use it against him. no longer in a advise way, in simple terms play along with his interest. He should not be dishing it out if he cant take it! whilst he says "get a clean jacket", say "Oh ok thank you vogue police.. or, And what, get one on the goodwill such as you probably did?" And whilst he says "you ought to shave" say like, "Whats the situation you would be unable to advance any facial hair little boy" or, "Are you my female chum". incredibly, blow off his feedback, and change them around so as that they make him look like an fool. females like adult men who're beneficial and humorous. once you communicate back to dude, say humorous issues, dont over think of what you're saying, shop it short, and be beneficial! coach the chick it doesnt hardship you. Win her over. Make him sense like he's dumb. Smile and snicker...
2016-10-05 06:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say gauge how she took it, she might have taken it as a compliment since u didnt say it harshly but she might be feeling a bit insecure about it... Just talk to her and clarify things im sure she would appreciate it.. besides if she is that insecure to break up with you over it then maybe she wasnt the one for you after all..
2006-12-12 21:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by lazydazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're making a huge deal out of nothing, imo grow a pair and forget it.
2006-12-12 21:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by I <3 boyz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I agree with you, I think what you said was, right, and really probably brings her thoughts up alot about you. Great thing you did.
2006-12-12 21:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well has she contacted you again? If yes, then she obviously wasnt offended. If not, then maybe she was and is embarrassed.
2006-12-12 21:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋