HOW DO I get over someone quickly?

Question

i'd been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years and suddenly he tells me he doesnt loved me and stopped loving me two months ago and still slept with me-he also lied that he had been smoking pot the whole time we were going out-
so generally our relationship was one big lie

how do i get over this easily?
i have been told to go on the rebound-but my ex has knocked my confidence so much-im finding it hard.

chelp me!!


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Answer 1

LaShonda is funny! Best way to forget one, is get another.

Answer 2

You can't get over someone quickly unless you never really cared about them that much to begin with. Losing a lover is like losing a family member... except usually on bad terms and with akward situations arising down the road by those chance encounters. After two years I'm sure you have many good memories as well as bad with this person, and you're used to him being around. Sorry to say but it's not going to get over quickly. People that have smoked cigarettes for two years have problems quitting... kinda the same thing. As far as your rebound, that's just a distraction from your feelings by replacing what's lost with something fake... like buying a new dog immediately after your 15 year old beagle died. I know it sucks, but seriously, the best thing to do is just cry when you have too, and find a way to move on. BTW, I just broke up with my boyfriend just three days ago, so I'm in the same situation as you... :(

Answer 3

i wont tell you that it's easy getting over someone you've been in love with for 2 whole year..and the fact that it ended in such a painful way makes it even harder..and no, going on the rebound is not the right thing todo, cos in addition to hurting yourself you'll be hurting another innocent person..so here's the deal: i think the way he ended it was terrible enough to take you off men for the next 10 years, so this is a chance for you to focus on yourself, inside and out..get a new look, give yourself a treat with some luxorious beauty treatments at home..and go back to the girfriends..go out with them..have fun together..and i assure you,it's very healing..generally just try to increase your activities so you wont have to think about it much..it's going to hurt alot and for a along time but the good news is there are ways to combat that..!

Answer 4

Dear Quickly, --- You were together for 2 year's - I can't find any word's for -- Quickly - and - Easily - !! You guy's were together for some time - and regrouping takes time . You sound really nice ,and I hate ,that your going through this - Remember it won't happen over night - Life just doesn't work that way - Take some alone time - don't be pushed ,where your not ready to go yet - Believe me -- broke you down - confidence and all - - So many of us know all to well, That it will take time - I have gotten out of a relationship - so much like yours - They think they can take us all the way down -- They forgot about one thing - Your -- SPIRIT -- That way down deep -- SPIRIT -- that's driven in all of us -- -- Will soon start shining through --- -- Then they can just -- eat -- your -- dust --- Cause you finally -- be able to say --- SEE YA !! -- Take that much needed time for you --- Bless- you --so much - I hope I have helped you some - - YOUR WORTH IT !! ----- My name is Pattijo

Answer 5

You need to go out and regain your confidence first. Meet up with friends who are fun company coz laughter's really a good medicine. Go pick up a new skill like cooking or dancing coz that will keep your mind occupied. Go for a nice haircut or a makeover. That will help you feel good about your looks. Tell yourself constantly you don't need a man in your life to feel happy. Very often, even people who are attached aren't totally happy.

Answer 6

First, cut off all communication with him. This is rough at first, but trust me, you need that time to realize all the flaws of the relationship and decide if he's still worth talking to. However, I wouldn't recommend you stay friends. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Second, take all the stuff that reminds you of him and get rid of it..

Third, learn to appreciate the new-found freedom of the single life... make yourself busy.. find things you used to loved to do before the relationship..

however, TIME and what you do with your time will eventually heal all wounds..

Break-ups are hard at first, but over time you'll get over him. Good luck to you..

Answer 7

unfortunately there are no quick fixes, you could get a rebound a pretend to be happy or heal fully and wait. healing fully means living and being by yourself and enjoying, and it's hard but more satisfying than the rebound option. The rebound option you're not being fair to yourselve or the other person.

Answer 8

Girl, Go out with a more handsome guy who doesn't cheat you and then you will automatically forget that b*****.

PS Ripe up all that cheats stuff you have, but dont ripe yourself you could get a more cuter guy

Answer 9

Concentrate on other aspects of your life.Remember all the bad chit the x bf has done.Hang tuff. Surround yourself with friends.Pamper yourself.Go shoppingggggggggggg weeeeeeee ;O)

Answer 10

Go see a counselor for some help... Sometimes it will help to vent it all out and see what you can do.

It cannot go away overnight. Try to move on...