I haven't met his friends or family and he has met my friends. I'm 22 and hes 10 years older than me. I'm almost certain that he's not married or has another woman on the side (or I'm the other woman). We love each other dearly and it doesn't seem like such a big factor in our relationship but when I think about it it really upsets me. I've confronted him about it and he says that its because he's been hurt before and doesn't want to explain to his friends that I cheated on him (if I do). I use to think that it was because he was ashamed of me, but I'm decent looking and smart (and am nothing to be ashamed of). Is this normal? What should I do?
2006-12-12 21:20:48 · 12 answers · asked by suzieee789 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, girl, but your man is married. Let's think about this, YOU LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES YOU, and you haven't met any of his family or friends. So, at Christmas, what do you do? Hang around your family and he hangs around his? At thanksgiving, what did you do? Birthdays? These are all times you would be around family and friends. And if he told you he didn't like celebrations or family get togethers, he's married. Plus he's older than you so he knows what to say to make you be cool with his actions. If there is no reason that you can come up with, and you have to ask this question, I think you realize something is up. DUMP HIM. I know you think he's wonderful and mature, but he's taking you for a ride. You don't want to find the truth out the hard way and have a broken heart because you didn't trust your instinct. Good luck and soon you will meet someone who wants to show the world that you're the woman he loves. You want your man jumping on the couch like Tom Cruise!!! Not telling you he won't have you around his family because he thinks you'll cheat on him.
2006-12-12 21:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be a complicated thing, first of all if he lives alone in an apartment and you spend the nights there then you can say that you are the only person in his life, But if you guys are just hooking up and spending only some nights together then it could be suspicious. then your best bet is to pressure him into taking you to see his friends or his family. If in the end you are the other woman you have to decide what is best for you because this could affect you 5 years from now when you want to make a family and he does not want to. now if all that you are looking for is to be together with someone for the time then you can risk it but if later on you want him to be the man of your life you have to let him know that, an introduction to friends would be convenient and that it would let you be more save into thinking that he is not playing around with your feelings.
In the end think about it well because your feelings are in the line ...
2006-12-12 21:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by beastmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy you're talking about definitely is hiding something from you. How can you date and not ever meet his friends or family members? Three years IS a long time.
My bf and I have been dating for 3.5 years and at one point of time he was ashamed of me because of the way I dressed and the color of my hair. He wouldn't let me go visit his mom or family. If your bf is not letting you see his family and friends then he is ashamed of you. I don't think it's normal. You should confront him with the question again and if he doesn't have a real explanation, then leave him.
2006-12-12 21:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by HMONG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it truly is been over 3 years and the purely right excuse he ought to arise with replaced into in case you cheated he did not favor to describe that to his associates? Are you so blinded by love that you'll't see that your the different female. Your "virtually" particular that he isn't any longer married? you want to attraction to close extra about this guy your in love with. he's definately hiding something from you and your letting him. did you comprehend the position he lives and with who, does he call you at particular circumstances? do you've his abode decision or cellular decision? Does he go abode everynight at the same time? there is something definately incorrect with this image. Do your self a want and carry out a touch analyze on him.
2016-11-26 00:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's normal. There could possibly be something else going on there. My honest opinion is that he has someone else and you may be to woman on the side. 3 years and you haven't met anyone. Do this seem normal to you?
2006-12-12 21:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny it's not normal that you haven't met any of his friends and family.
you guys have been together for 3 years and the reason he doesn't introduce you to his family is that he is hiding something important from you.
maybe he is married or has other woman.
there's a slight chance that he doesn't have any close friends and ashamed of his family though.
good luck
2006-12-12 21:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ caramel_bonbon ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO this is not normal by any means, if ones in love, they want family and friends to meet the one in their lives; To show you off.
something is totally not what it seems to be. And you are just to blame for allowing him to think its OK, keeping you a secret.
2006-12-12 21:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so wierd.Does he act like a player?what activities do you do out of the house as a couple?You have to track down either his freinds or family secretly and get to know about them or him.There is something he is hiding.It is either you or them and in this case it seems it must be them.
2006-12-12 21:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's not being honest with you about something and thats why he doesnt want you to meet his friends and family. That "been hurt before" thing is a load of crap, stop wasting your time with this guy.
2006-12-12 21:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by idontknowjustgivemeaname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what you should do! The sure thing is that he doesn't see you in a serious way! Otherwise you would have met at least his friens!Being hurt is not a reason!
2006-12-12 21:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Roubini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋