I'm a tall - 175 cms, attractive woman, who's been in a relationship with this guy who's about 168 cms, for 3 years. We are attracted to each other - but when we're out together - he kind of doesn't seem to like walking around with me - like in a mall etc. Also, he hasn't ever introduced me to any of his friends. Our relationship is also kept a secret, mainly for differing religious reasons.
What do you think? Is my being tall, bothering him?
2006-12-12 21:15:18 · 28 answers · asked by Exotic_beauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe, but it shouldnt... ask him why he's being so secretive. if he wont tell you, end it. you dont want to be with someone like that
2006-12-12 21:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The height is a pain...i am a little shorter than my girl and she wears flat shoes to help it a bit but I am pretty sure your problems are not height related. I think you are sensing red flags because he could be stringing you along until he is ready to go out and find a wife...The religious difference is a big deal in some cultures and there will be pressure on him not to break tradition. Knowing this he would keep you at a distance from the people who will tell him to break it off. He might be torn on the issue and it may take courage on his behalf to go against the family. You should test the waters by talking about marriage and kids and see how fast he shuts it down or weather he opens up and tells you his real problem. Hope this gives you a few ideas to try...
2006-12-13 05:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only your being tall but on different religion also could be a valid reason, substantiated with the fact that your relationship is kept secret. However, boyfriend could be shorter or taller which makes no difference. Moreover, 7 cms could be even adjusted!
2006-12-13 06:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your being tall that is bothering him....it's the fact that he is "vertically challenged".
My wife is 4 inches (10.6 cms) taller than I am, and it is a wonderful thing. She is beautiful, and I feel good standing by her side.
Your relationship has been going for some time, so you should be past the awkward stage by now.???
Good luck. I hope all things work out for you.
2006-12-13 05:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by oneknight55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
religious reasons???? you from different religions??
anyways if the height is an issue for the guy, he feels a complex when going out with you and also you hide your relationship then wats the point????
working a realtionship needs a whole lot of confidence and trust in your selves to face any problems and sail through ups and downs.
i see some trouble here. rethink the whole thing. are you guys made for each other???
2006-12-16 14:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by raindrops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your guy should be proud to have you as his girl.........but it seems that he is not...........so talk it out..........when u r walking in a mall just hold his hand and make him walk with you........if he doesn't ....tell him to give you a valid reason........ask him why the relationship is such a big secret.......i think even though he is shorter than u...u seem to be OK with it.........u have accepted him very well and u definitely deserve better.........do u want to keep this relation a secret???if u r OK with people knowing then go for it........but however if you too are not ready for the big publicity jump then tread carefully.........i think Ur guy should proudly show u off since u r an attractive woman.........
2006-12-15 08:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please!!!!
I am the same tall 174 . I had problem with it when I was at school. but now... I think its even sexy. All my life I have boyfriends smaller then me . and I put hi hills. Actually "small" boys always attracted to a toll girls. So, be proud. Think about Nicol Kidman!
And tell to yr boyfriend what U prefer "Not toll boys" - b/c they a great in sex!! / and its true, Don't U think so?)
2006-12-13 06:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by awg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the other way around.
Maybe your man loves you so much that he doesn't want other people to see that you're with him.
Like he is protecting you from other peoples's comments like "Why would a tall, beautiful girl be with a short man when she can choose boys taller than her".
As for the religion, no idea.
2006-12-13 06:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by jon_yao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you love each other hieght can't be a problem. You don't have to bother about other people. If you are happy together, why do you worry about other things????
Be firm and confident if you really need to go to the next level of your relationship.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-13 05:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend,
Ur story reminds me mine. Iam 23m, 2cm shorter than my girlfriend, and we were friends for 2 years long, and were lovers for 6 months, but we divided now.
Dont know why, she refused me.
May be she felt like the same which u r thinking now.
Anyway, i cant suggest u in this matter.
Sorry My Friend.
2006-12-13 05:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by RahulSalma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your height wouldn't bother him. Tall women would probably be great for short guys because the goodies would be at about eye level.
2006-12-13 05:24:44 · answer #11 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋