Should I stay or Should I go??

Question

I have a boyfriend, we know each other for like 13 years, he was by brothers best friend, and so we grew up together, and after becoming close friends, something developt into a relationship, we have been dating previously for 2years and broke up, know we are dating agian for almost two years.
The problem is, I do not feel the need to be with him, sometimes I dont even miss him, sometimes he irretates me, and we do not fillfull each others needs, maybe I do in some aspects that he says he loves me, I love him to, but is this enough?. He want to commit to me in a serious way, but I have so much mixed feelings, and to top it all off, there is this guy in my friendship group, and when the two of us talk, the sparks are flying, we cannot help it. I am planning of leaving this relationship, to get someone who gives me butterflies when he touches me, and someone I can make feel like he is needed.

What should I do, pleass help I am so worried that I ll end up throughing my soulmate away!!

Answer 1

stay there may be trouble but it's worth it

Answer 2

I think this has a lot to do with your age, which you don't give here. What attracts you to this other person, the electricity? the newness? the excitement of a new relationship. Yes, you could be losing your soulmate, but it doesn't seem like you are ready to take on any commitment with this long-time friend.

Think about why you broke up with your old friend, then dating again...what was the problem and has it resolved itself or can it reoccur?

It gets pretty complicated when its comes to human relations. Take a break away from both guys, you don't want to "jump out of the frying pan and into the fire" to someone you hardly know. Do some serious thinking on your own, then your decision will be clearer.

Rebound relationships rarely work.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Friends are friends. If u wanna keep them don't date sexually. just platonic. tell him as a friend that u love but not in love with him, If that's how u feel. sometimes friends make the best mates. soul mates don't get thrown away. Love always finds a way. search ur self. In every relationship there is a change. u have to roll with it. at first its all great. till the hard times come. are u old enough and strong enough for a serious relationship? sounds like u still got to play a little bit.

Answer 4

Well your just so used to your long time boyfriend thats why you dont feel the spark anymore. You can say you love him, because you've being saying that for 2 years...and its always when you reach the years stage in a relationship, things tend to sway.

Based on what you said, this guy that makes feel giddy inside, later on guilt will be replaced.

If you think you love him than break up with ur present bf. Or you should talk with ur bf and tell him how you feel.

Answer 5

Take your time and think about it well.
I think you should reconcider what it is you want in yr life.
Maybe this new guy will only give you butterflies now,and after you get together all the sparks and magic will fade away...
Give your boyfriend a second chance.Try to do more exciting things together!Make the first step and show him that your life could be interesting together.Give it a chance.Don't blow it all up just yet! Good luck!

Answer 6

Normally i would slap you down for being the typical oppurtunistic female who cant stay loyal.

What you are really saying is there is a new guy who (like all new guys) makes you horny.........and you want to cheat but you want to dump him so you feel better about cheating.

But since you two have tried and failed at this for years and years its best you let him go so you can do this thing you want to do.

Answer 7

WE SOMETIMES ARE FORCED INTO SUCH A KIND OF RELATIONSHIP,, WE ARE NOT ABLE TO COME OUT OF IT...TRY TO AVOID HIM WITHOUT HURTING HIS FEELINGS ......JUST TAKE SOME TIME TO THINK WHETHER YOU NEED HIM OR NOT ......... I THINK THAT SINCE YOU TWO HAVE BEEN BROUGTH UP ALONG U DONT UNDERSTAND HIS IMPORTANCE IN UR LIFE......IF U ARE AWAY FROM HIM FOR SOMETIME YOU WILOL KNOW WHETHER U NEED HIM OR NOT.CAN U IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT HIM..YOU BETTER WRITE DOWN A LIST OF WAT U LEARNT FROM HIM....AND WHY U LIKE HIM AND SOME OF THE MEMORABLE EVENTS IN UR AFFAIR AND AFTER DOING ALL THIS U WILL FEEL U WANT TO BE WITH HIM......IF U DONT THEN YOU WILL HAVE TO TRY THAT FIRST METHOD ....NOW ITSELF START WRITING

Answer 8

Hmm.. Just choose somebody who you want to be with..

Maybe your feeling to him is just friendship feeling.. Love can't be pushed, and reading your message, it sounds that its just a one way relationship..

I understand that we have to feel the spark in a relationship to make it work..

You need to tell him how you feel about him honestly.. So you don't appear to be leading him on..

Don't waste your time on somebody whom you don't feel 'romantic' with..

Answer 9

Ask yourself, do you love him seriousely? can you imagine life without him? since you have grown up with him he is a part of you now. don't meet him for some time and see how you feel. dont take a hasty decision.

Answer 10

well dont worry if he loves you, if you dont wanna be with him then dont be with him, they always say there is plenty more fish in the sea, so why dont you go fishing, live ya life instead of all the breaking up and all that. hope you decide fdor the best. (k. fro$ty)

Answer 11

I need to know how old you are to answer your question.
Your age will make a big difference in how to deal with this.