i have this boyfriend that i have been seeing for 5 months and he asked me to move with him. i just got out of a 6 year relationship and i want to but then i dont want to not yet he buys me stuff and is a complete gentalman when we go out places and he even gave me one of his cars to drive until i get money together to get my own car. i have a cat and i couldnt have it where i stay at now and he was nice enough to keep here at his house for me until i get my own place. can he be true? should i move in to his house? that i might say is his he owns it.......
2006-12-12 20:32:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your question is a classic example of self validation. So, I will validate your concerns. It sounds like after 6 years you feel you need someone to fill a void. This is not wise for anyone at any age. My suggestion... stay independent and get to know the most important person in the world...yourself. You will find that in time you are the most wonderful and interesting person you know and you don't need someone in your life right away to feel special or loved. Take the time to seek spiritual enlightment and self-actualize. Travel if you can, meet new people and do things you have always wanted to do but have never done because of your relationships. In time, you will feel your own self-worth and confidence, then you can begin to find someone who really shares in your journey. Someone who truely complements you and challanges you to be even better. I hope this helps and that you can find the strength to be patient. Nothing wrong with this guy being your friend, but anything more is risky and untimely.
Whatever decision you make, I assume it will be the right one and you will eventually end up where you ultimately were suppose to be..life is a journey...is there ever really a wrong decision? or do some decisions accelerate our eventual happiness while others delay it.
2006-12-12 20:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by smaatgg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all sounds to good to be true! I wouldn't recommend moving in with a guy after seeing him for only five months, take your time get to know him a little better first. Think about you wouldn't be asking the world this question if it was the right thing to do.
2006-12-13 04:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by Huff G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems like a great bf, but I don;t think moving in is a good idea in only 5 months. Wait at least a year before you do that. Besides, isn't it more fun to "spend the weekend" at his house than live with a man 24/7? Yeah I think so. :-) Good luck on your relationship!
2006-12-13 04:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Meeeeee! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound a bit too good to be true, but he might just be your angel! Go with your gutt. If he miss treats you, move out. Offer to pay rent so you can still feel independant if you do decide to move in with him.
2006-12-13 04:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jackie, he sounds like a nice guy. Are there any negatives that you can see that might be reasons not to move in?
2006-12-13 04:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word...NO. When you do you lose your independence. Or you could go ahead and watch your relationship change...
Wait for a ring, if you think he's worth it. Don't risk your independence unless you're sure he's "the one".
2006-12-13 04:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move in? Haven't you married him yet? Heck I'm 100% straight and *I* want to marry him...,.... Haha. Nah, I just want someone to love and adore me.- Well, I spose I have.
He sounds nice. Lucky you.
2006-12-13 04:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. give it some more time. If its something thats going to last he'll be there regardless of if you move in or not, and you'll save yourself a lot of trouble if it doesnt last.
2006-12-13 04:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by idontknowjustgivemeaname 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure. just keep enough in standby for first,last and a security deposit in case things go bad and you have to leave in a hurry.
2006-12-13 04:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your not ready for it yet, and he should understand it, take your time with it untill you know for a fact that you want to move in with him or not
2006-12-13 04:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by kydd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋