Why do guys chase you, then stop chasing you, then start chasing you again???
i could understand it if he was just after sex, but we have only kissed!!!
he chases me, we get together, then i dont hear from him for a while and then i chase him and then he chases me like normal again!!!whats this about????
This "cat and mouse" game has been going on for a while now.
is it supposed to go on on like this???
the guy is 29 and single. he has his own place and his career is sorted.
im 25 and have my own place and career sorted.
wouldnt he want to settle down???
he says he really likes me, that im good looking and that we have so much in common-blah blah blah, etc.....!
2006-12-12 20:05:37 · 15 answers · asked by XCuteX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
perhaps its because you are 25 and still have to ask whats going on ? Good luck with that one.
2006-12-12 20:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes go ahead and be confused. Some men are really like that. It could be for several reasons. One,he realizes that career should be way ahead of love. Second,he is just not patient enough to wait if your thing is real. Third,he is also chasing another woman.
fourth,he has a commitment phobia that when you get together he gets scared,and we can go on and on.
If you want to know the real score then stop chasing him but before you do, communicate your intention to him. Tell him that you are getting tired of the chasing game,and be honest tell him how you really feel about him. Now if he wants to stay- good for you if not,he wll come back,I'll bet you he will.
Now marriage is another thing and you might want to take it easy with the subject. I have seen and heard lately that in the US most of the guys are like scared to get hitched-for career and financial reasons. They want the freedom and they want to enjoy it. If you realize later that you love him-wait-if he is yours then so be it.
2006-12-12 20:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by wolfass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he isn't chasing you at all. It might all be quite innocent socialising. Settling down is a personal thiing, and no-one is going to do it because someone else wants them to. Go with the flow, have a bit of fun but don't take everything so seriously.
2006-12-12 20:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having played this game several times in the past I would advise you to let him do the chasing!! Play it cool...!! Then when he realises you aren't chasing him back anymore..you will find out if he really cares or not!!
2006-12-12 20:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just not into you..
How long has this been going on? If it's only for short time then it's ok but if this happens for quiet some time then forget about him..
Sometimes guys don't have gut feelings to tell you directly, he just used signs..
If you know that he wants you for sex then forget about him.. you don't want to be his spare tyre don't you?
If he really likes you, he should have pinned you down..
Why don't you start to date others too..
2006-12-12 21:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you to get what he wants. You are REALLY like me because i get confused too when guys/men don't tell me what's going on/happening ALRIGHT.
I think he REALLY doesn't know what he REALLY wants in his life. That is why he chases you because maybe you are the one for him.
Love Amie A
2006-12-12 20:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually its kind of good thing that this situation is happening to both of you considering that you can weight things up before going into deeper relationship in which by the time you get into that situation both of you will now have the best of your expectations.
What you can do if you are in doubt is to talk to him. Have a heart to heart conversation with your relationship and right on there inform him of your doubts and inquire to him what he thinks of your relationship with him.
2006-12-12 20:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by jlaniwan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attila is a guy of puzzle. He confuses many. He needs to befriend Mastema. He needs to behold Araphel. He longs for her affection. Trickery and deceit is the way of the Romans and not the Huns.
2016-10-05 06:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him chase you...
play hard to get
maybe it turns him on
I guess he's the type of guy who enjoys the pursuit
never give all of you to him
keep him guessing
be mysterious and all
2006-12-12 20:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by sedatedeyes209 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like those idiots . Leave him and move on with ur life . U will get serious guys with time
2006-12-12 20:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋