i dont want him to know im doing this but i have to stopp his drinking he is truely out of hand. i mean a 30 pack or 2 a day. the dr. has told him if he keeps it up he'll die he already has the early stages of liver failure. i want to do something that wont hurt him but will make him sick of drinking. i need to now. THANK FOR YOUR HELP
2006-12-12 20:04:12 · 9 answers · asked by heavenly princess 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
There is a med that they can give him will make him vomit like hell.. BUT, you cannot get it..
My husband of 23 years is also an alcoholic and I know how tired you are of it all.. I know you love him or you would not be there with him. Some of us stay, but when you stay you have to seperate the man from the illness.
Enjoy the times when you do have a special moment and the rest of the time stay away from him.. When he is drunk and being a jerk, ignore him, do NOT engage..walk away, leave for awhile if you need too.. Or call the police and say you are afraid..They will take him in and let him sleep it off..
My other suggestion is the most important!!! You take out a life insurance policy for 200-300 thousand on him.. So when he dies, and he will (I am sorry) you will be able to live and pay the bills for a long time until you get your life in order.
Alcoholics do only 2 things, they quit, or they die..PERIOD!
Email me for support if you want...
2006-12-12 23:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mommadog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he tried getting help? Other than a family doctor i mean. Psycologist or AA or something? I think if he cares about you enough, if he does not want to loose you he would make an honest effort. He obviously does not care about his health. The least he could do is care about the impact that this has on you. It sounds like this is not a new problem. If he cannot put the effort in for you maybe you should reconsider the effort you put in for him.
In response to the first 2 answers:
- Do not stop acting like you. It's not your fault. He is the one with the problems. The only change I think you would need to make is to be stronger. Stand your ground and let him know you are not going to put up with bull ****.
-Please do not feed a man who is in the earls stages of liver failure mass ammount of alcohol....but im sure you already knew that. I just wanted to point out the bad answer.
2006-12-13 04:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by .. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I come from a family where alcoholism runs deeply. I understand what you're wanting to do, but I think it may be dangerous for you to take physical measures to try to make him sick of drinking. Instead, why don't you sit with him and give him some information about alcoholism and AA. If he rejects this, wait a few days, and give him information from a funeral home. Ask him seriously to help you plan everything in advance so the burden won't be so heavy on you when he's gone. If that isn't a wakeup call for him, then I don't know what would be.
This is a hard situation to be in, seeing someone you love slowly killing themselves. I've been there, and I feel for you. Good luck to you.
2006-12-13 07:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Robin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is this involved in his drinking, it is possible that he is an alcoholic. If he is, there is nothing at all that you can do at home to make him stop drinking.
If you really want to help him and start understanding what's going on, you will look up AL ANON...it is a support group for friends and families of the alcoholic. He needs to be introduced to Alcoholics Anonymous . Just find out the info and leave the phone number for him. You cannot do it for him...you cannot make him stop drinking...he has to want to.
Just let him know how much you care about him and need the family to be whole again. Alcohol tears families apart, it isn't only the disease of the victim, but a family disease as well.
You go to Al anon and get educated for yourself...you need a good understanding of what you are both facing. Stay strong and definitely stay with a support group. Blessings for you both.
2006-12-13 04:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by oldtrash06 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from one that knows, you can't make him stop. Every thing you do, will make him drink more. It will give him more reason to drink.
You need to get help for yourself. Learn how to live with him, without being a nag! If you can't, then leave him.
I have been married for 20 years to an active addict, and only one year of clean time. But this didn't happen until I quit trying to make him stop, by every thing you can imagine, I tried.
When I realized how sick I was, him being my fix, and started working on myself, was when he decided on his own to quit. He is a diabetic, and has had open heart surgery, a triple bypass, all the while he used. YOU CAN NOT MAKE HIM SICK OF DRINKING! Go to ALAN-N0N, learn about alcoholism, learn what you can for yourself, and learn what you will have to do if he doesn't quit drinking and really does die from liver cancer. As long as you are dependent on him, the worse you are for him and yourself. You will end up killling yourself before he dies! One of the first things I learned in recovery, "GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE(others, my husband)THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN (myself) AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE." I also am a recoverying alcoholic of 6-8 yrs. I came from a very religious back ground when I started drinking, so all the scriptures in the world doesn't work, unless your husband is ready to quit! He has to be ready to quit on his own! All the guilt trips, crying, begging, and what ever othr ploy you have used, WON'T WORK! You are only making yourself look silly, and he looses respect for you each time you lower yourself down to these levels. Now, you can try an intervention, with a professional, talk to someone who knows about the process, but that is no guarantee either.
So, more important, start taking care of yourself first! You can't make him stop drinking! You can't help him if he gets too sick, if you aren't taking care of yourself FIRST! If you are going to stay around and watch kill himself with booze, then learn how to!
2006-12-13 04:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a drug which makes people who ingest alcohol sick. You'd need to do an intervention on him though, because you can't drug people.
You wouldn't be able to buy the drug anyway without a prescription.
LSD was first used to treat alcoholism but it didn't always work. Some drunks thought they were fine as they are. Sometimes people changed overnight.
2006-12-13 04:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I would say to get him to stop drinking for a month for him to see how much better he feels and how much money he's saved from not buying alcohol, but it doesn't seem like that'll work. But it's worth a try!
Maybe you can go camping and get away from it somehow.
2006-12-13 07:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Joshu@ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him really stupid drunk on something he is not used to (ie vodka, white wine, red wine, etc). And I mean REALLY drunk - puking is a must. Encourage him to drink until it has no attraction calling him to it. Or get really stupid drunk yourself and make him have to babysit you, maybe he wont like the tables turned. My mom is on a liver transplant list, if he saw these people it would scare him straight. Bad, bad, bad, bad sight to see. If you are in it for the long haul and he wont quick, be preapared for LOTS of work ahead or head out now.
2006-12-13 04:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by drutorrez 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
quit acting like you
2006-12-13 04:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by onecoolrigger 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋