we didn't date for a very long. then dumped me the problems is I found out I was pregnant. I know it’s his but should I tell him. I was on the pill so don't really know how it happened well I do. I went to the doctor thinking I had a UTI and he took a pregnancy test and I’m pregnant what should I do! I need some good advice. He has an ex wife and two kids already! He’s not allowed to see his other children as she won't let him. I just don't know what to do for the best.
2006-12-12 19:58:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can you take care of this child...with or without his help???
I wonder why he isn't allowed to see his kids? Is there abuse??
Does he pay his child support...? I'll bet that's why she wont let
him see them. Maybe....There are pros and cons in every situation. Sit down and write out both.
PRO'S...of telling him your pregnant.
CON'S....of telling him your pregnant.
Your situation was mine...18 years ago. Very fast...I decided to
keep my baby. He cheated when I was 6 months. I kicked him out
He only saw his baby 2 or 3 times in two years. He was a jerk. I
moved out of state with my family. He never cared. So, I did my
best. But it is very hard, unless you have emotional and financial
support. A good paying job, etc. You can always give it to a family for adoption. There are "open adoptions" now. If you got an
abortion, it is up to you, but it is also very hard to go through. It is
totally up to you to decide ultimately. Choose wisely. God Bless.
2006-12-12 20:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, you should tell him that you are pregnant with his child. But there should be a particular reason why his ex-wife wouldn't let him see their children. If it is because he is an abusive father, maybe you should think twice before letting him know (not that you want anything to do with him). I do not know if this is appropriate. But maybe later on, you should tell the ex-wife that her children has a half-brother or sister. Meanwhile, take care of your pregnancy. I wish you well.
2006-12-12 20:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more concerned with why his ex won't let him see the two he's already got.That is pretty severe and nothing that can't be fixed in a courtroom unless he's done something weird with them.Find out the real story on the other kids before you jump to the phone and call him...
2006-12-12 20:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that you are pregnant....tell him how that happen like you just said on this site...he gonna have to help you with the child that you gonna have....i know some guys on those comments said things to you like take care of it on your own or abort it, i know some guys dont want to take care of it like a real man...but if i was you i would go ahead and tell him if he dont want to help you with that child u gonna have to prove that he is the father of that child and put him in court for child support you are gonna need it....but it up to you if you are going to let him see the child when he do
2006-12-12 20:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Do you want the baby? Do you want your ex to be a permanent fixture in your life (which he should be if you keep the baby) I would think long and hard and maybe get some professional advice ( eg medical practitioner) beore you make any life-changing decisions. Good luck
2006-12-12 20:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by michelle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want this guy in your life, or not? If you don't want him in your life, don't tell him. If you decide not to keep the baby, don't tell him.
If you do want him in your life, and you want to keep the baby, think long and hard about the fact that he does have a ex wife with two kids that he is supposedly not allowed to see. (Remember that you may not have gotten the truth about why.)
Best wishes.
2006-12-12 20:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't tell me. I have a new girlfirend and don't want to marry you and don't want any more child support payments. Let me live in ignroance of the child and you take good care of that baby on your own. OK?
By the way, I know this sounds mean. I hope you are not too upset. I was just saying what he might say. You know?
2006-12-12 20:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be able to hide it now from him but what happens when your kid grows up and wants to meet his dad. Truth is the hard way but the best way. Take my advice and tell him, doesn’t matter if he accepts it or not, at least he knows. Good luck
2006-12-12 20:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is the time for you to tell him about your new Life. This could be the right move for the both of you. If you Love him tell him, if you don't still tell him
2006-12-12 20:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by Vincent J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would like him to be involved in your new baby's upbringing, then clearly you need to find a way to tell him.
If you want him to contribute financially, then you have no choice.
Your baby will need a father. Is he the right person?
2006-12-12 20:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋