Well i met this guy and he's really coo don't get me wrong but i'm just wondering if he's only acting like that to get into my pants, I mean he tells me that i'm the only 1 that he's messing with which can be true because he works alot and doesn't have alot of time but when he does he calls me and gets up with me he calls me and talks to me wheneva he can but is this an act? I mean i've been talking to almost a month i really like him he seems like my type but i wonder is this love or Lust?
2006-12-12 19:55:46 · 15 answers · asked by thinkk_pinkk197 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He calls me when he's at work and he talks to me he always holds me close or kisses me in front of all his friends and he lets everyone know that i'm his girl that he's messing with me Where not going out! but we are just chilling together and He always compliments me and he says he likes my personality and everything i talk about but i just wanna know if this is a game ?
2006-12-12 19:58:46 · update #1
WE HAVEN'T HAD SEX YET !! I'M AM GOING 2 MAKE HIM WAIT BUT SOME GUYS WILL WAIT UNTIL U LET THEM AND THEN THEY LEAVE!?
2006-12-12 20:01:35 · update #2
I MEAN WE TALKED ABOUT SEX AND HE SAID IT DON'T MATTER THAT HE'LL WAIT BUT THEN HE COULD ONLY SAY THAT TO MAKE ME THINK SO I CAN GIVE IN LOLZ I KNOW IT SOUNDS CONFUSING BUT I DO KNOW HOW GUYS ARE AND I JUST WANNA KNOW WHAT 2 DO
2006-12-12 20:03:51 · update #3
Sounds like he wants to step further but you seem to be backing off a bit from his advances. You're presuming too much. Maybe you're uncomfortable by the fact that he's progressing so quickly? talk to him about it, let him know how and exactly what you feel
2006-12-12 20:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it have to be love? What's wrong with the lust option? In my experience the only problem with lust is that sometimes it turns into love without the other person realizing it - and there lies a whole world of awkwardness. For the record - monogamous lust is not as uncommon as you might think. Many men would prefer to be with one casual sexual partner than with several. Life can just be easier than that way. Sooo.......
Do you have any reason to suspect that he's being unfaithful? If not, why don't you try giving him the benefit of the doubt and just see where it leads? In my experience, guys tend to wander when there's no longer anything they feel can be achieved in the relationship. Keep the game interesting and you might be surprised at how many guys will stick around.
Cheers
JH
2006-12-12 20:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Darkepoet 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your situation is not that peculiar considering that there are men who acts similarly with your friend. I for one is doing it with my girl that's how I convey my feelings towards her. However, you can not also negate the fact that there are men who is acting just to get with you. The best thing that you could do, is talk to him straight, and tell him that you are actually bothered by your situation and that you need him to help you understand your relationship.
If he declines or makes some going around answer, that means that what you fear is correct. However, if he is true to his intention he will fullly satisfy your doubts.
2006-12-12 20:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by jlaniwan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell. The longer you are friends, the more trust you will develop. If he is just trying to get into your pants he won't stay too long without some success.
2006-12-12 19:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the only way you can tell is the time you spend with him. Do you only see him when you have sex or do you spend allot of time not having sex.
Generally though i would say that if he wants sex with you then he must really like you. But as i say, if you are ONLY having sex with him and nothing else, maybe its just for the sex action.
2006-12-12 19:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by interestiblez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Wat Da Hell: " Make him wait and lets see how he takes the test. "
It is REALLY a matter of how well you know the guy/man. That is why phone calls to each other are always useful when you are not making a REAL fake joke out of it. Is it REALLY him on the other line? I guess it's also a matter of trust too.
Love Amie A
2006-12-12 20:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he brings up sex alot then yes hes just tryin to get some, but even if he doesnt bring it up it could still be a act, you never can be sure of it, just be cautious and keep your eyes open for it incase he does just want that, this way you wont get caught offguard and fall for it and realize what happened when its allready to late
2006-12-12 19:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by kydd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see maybe he is genuine but wait and watch dnt sleep with him know him more wen ur 2gether see if he tries to cross his limits make it clear to him that ur not ok with sex indirectly this is a test if his behaviour changes then u have the answer if not then he likes u
2006-12-12 20:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter whether he's acting this way to get into your pants? I mean it sounds like you will enjoy it yourself, so what's the problem here?
2006-12-12 20:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u tell him to wait, and he does then you know how important you r to him, see how long u can be on a date with him before he tries to get in ur pants, if he tries right away then thats probly all he wants.
2006-12-12 19:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by beach_babe971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋