ok-----i have a HUGE question...
i have been going out with my bf for almost 7 months... i love him alot. BUT one of my best guy friends said that he loves me soooooo much and he will do anything in the world for me. and that hed die for me...my bf says he loves me more than my friend ever could. BUT he dosent compliment me all of the time like my friend does...i love my bf, but i love the FEELING i get and the way my friend makes me feel...WAT SHOULD I DO!?!?!?!!?!?!?
2006-12-12 19:28:29 · 18 answers · asked by lanny s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LISTEN! You need to stick it out with your current boyfriend. It's nice that the other guy says things that are charming and compliments you, but you can't jump from one guy to the next just based on the fact that you like some things that a guy says. If you and your current bf have real problems already, then that's different, but you still need to finish one before you start the next. What happens if you go to the new guy, and after a few months another guy starts complimenting you better than he does? It sounds like you're in love with the new feelings that you get from beginning a new relationship. Better learn to control those feelings early, or all your boyfriends are in for a lot of heartache--and you'll have a hard time finding a meaningful long-term relationship.
2006-12-12 19:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Dave B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm thats a tough 1!!. Think long and hard who u want to be with, dont make desicions until your sure what u want because u might end up regreting it in the future. Tell your bf how u feel, and if u want to be complimented more tell him that his not a mind reader, some girls like compliments some dont like it all the time. Which ever 1 u chose if ur friends a real friend he will be there 4 u, same as ur bf.
2006-12-13 03:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a tough decision to make, but if you can't choose between your b /f and this other guy, then you actually don't really want or love either! Think about it.
Just because this other guy "says" he would die for you, doesn't necessary mean he will make you a great b/friend. And if your b/friend tells you he loves you, then he wants to be with you. Men are not into the whole "You smell, look, dress nice" thing like us. It is just not important to them. They don't get it! Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus remember! My b/f also doesn't compliment me often, but I know how he feels about me, and that is more important. I know he wouldn't be with me if he did not think I was the most beautiful gal around!
Rather write down all the pros's and con's under both guys names, making a note of who you feel more comfortable with, and what kind of person etc.
Quite frankly, I think this is all just an ego thing. If you really love your b/f friend like you say, you would not even consider leaving him for this other guy. It always feels nice when I am out with my friends when other guys chat me up, but I would not even CONSIDER dumping my b/friend for any of them. We are only human, and love compliments. Remember, you can read the menu as long as you eat at home!
2006-12-13 03:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Well, the feeling that you getting with your friend is natural, he is complimenting you all the time and making you feel like you mean the world to him because it is ´new´. You have been with your bf for 7 months, remember the beginning when you started going out...? Im positive that he was complimenting you and making you feel like you were the only girl for him. Thing is that time passes, you more relaxed with each other and so that feeling tends not to be like the ´beginning´. Of course you luv the feeling... its normal but I say you luv your bf, stay with ure bf. If he treats you well and you happy with him, why change it..? why bring it to a end?
2006-12-13 03:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by MC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you could truly distinguish between love and friendship, you could have sensed the the honesty level in the res ponces of these guys. If you are telling the world that you love the first guy and got stuck to him because you feel... you entangled within your own claim then you need to take a deep breath and step backward. But if you truly see the difference and try attempt to adjust those tiny flaws within your lover, please start your efforts. It sure takes time and toll. But at the end its a privilege to be strong towards a conviction we made with our heart.
Coming to your friend who claims that he has affection for you perfectly knowing that you are devoted to someone else..., he could take his chances. But will it became a weakness on your part... on the long run... if another person else than these two.. confess that he too loves you???
I want you to see whats before you not just with your heart's eye but brain's perception too...
Sure.... you will know what to do....
2006-12-13 03:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by cheenuray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people mix their feelings of love around. I believe there are several types and levels of love. What you are feeling for your friend is a "friendship" love and I personally wouldn't go there romantically. I did that and lost a great friend, and a great boyfriend. Like the song, "Love the one your with."
2006-12-13 03:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush! Think who is the one you prefer most! Don't fall in the trap and chose the one who compliments you the most! It's not a clue, in order to find out who loves you the most! Moreover, your friend expresses himself more than your boyfriend, in order to have you!
Finally, the choice is yours! Don't make it look like a competition! Follow your heart!
2006-12-13 03:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Roubini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whom do you love most? Your bf or just the feeling that you get out of the other ones woo's? Butofr me, I 'll choose the one who loves me most. Doesn't matter if i love him less.
2006-12-13 03:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by mared 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love with anybody. Your in lust. Love isn't something you say to someone only until you find somebody you like better.
For example I love you but I'm going to see if I like someone else better.
2006-12-13 03:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by bartman40467 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only that could answer your question. You see, its yourself that can best weight the things you feel to both guys. However, in choosing, please be sure that you have to take the one whom you really love, regardless of whatever he does.
2006-12-13 04:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by jlaniwan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋