he promised to hang out with me after class and i told him i would text message him when i got out. which i did... three hours later i get a response from him... and of coutse, i'm upset because he stood me up and didn't even respond to my text. Call me stupid for referring to the site "myspace".. but then I see that a girl left a comment telling him that he's awesome. (well, exact words are "why are you so awesome?") but still i believe that calling no one would call anyone awesome unless they've done something "awesome" for the person. The fact is that this guy is not even my 'boyfriend'... but we've been dating for a year and some months and he states that we practically are bf&gf. so my question is: one- do you think i have a right to upset? two-my opinon on calling someone 'awesome', am i wrong or what? three- because he stood me up, should that affect trust... ?
2006-12-12 19:18:31 · 12 answers · asked by kristinej0yce 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he made you a promise, then of course he should have kept it.Leaving you waiting, not knowing if you should wait or go is a pretty low thing to do.
So sure you have every right to feel upset about it.
Guess you can take some comfort that eventually he got around to replying to your message.
Regarding the "awesome" bit.
She may just be saying that to get him interested in her.As in, "I can't help thinking about you,why are you so awesome?".
He may well be innocent.She is proberly not!
But I can understand how easy it would be to assume that something more may be going on.
Do you talk to him about things like,how you feel about each other? The future of your relationship,etc.?
Do you care for him and trust him ?
If I had been with a guy for over a year. I would consider him my boyfriend.
You guys have to talk!A.S.A.P.
If he's refering to you as bf&gf. Its obvious he feels and assumes you are!
Of course, these sorts of things,innocent or not can easily effect your trust,you are not made of stone.
Thats why you have to sit down and talk about it. The basis of a a good relationship or friendship is respect, trust and communication.
If that is not there,nothing is,or ever will be, so you are wasting your time.
Just my opinion.
2006-12-12 20:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by sistablu...Maat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no and yes, affect trust, no but be on the look out for other signs. your whole story could be no more than some hurt feelings (yours) and a whole lot of miss understanding. the word awesome? so what? It doesn't sound like a threat to you in any way. the fact that you have been with this person for over a year Say's something. and talk to him. if you don't have communication and trust, you don't have an relationship. sit him down in a calm way and talk about your relationship and get his ideas on it. let him know how you feel, what you want and what the relationship means to you. you might be really surprised how much he love you and wants what you both got to go another step farther? I wouldn't worry too much about this my space thing but I would have a few red flags up so you should do what I mentioned and see what happens. good luck to you. :)
2006-12-12 19:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the big thing that really sticks out here is that you two have been dating for OVER a year and your still not his gf??? Don't you see a issue here?? Can you not take a hint?? Guess not!! If he hasn't made you his gf after that long, I wouldn't be holding my breathe on anything he does..by the way, he's showing you that too. You totally need to wake up!! Sorry...You have NO rights to say anything about anything or anybody, he's made sure of that. Your just not catching on to the BOLD hints...Time to make some changes for the New Year!!!
2006-12-12 19:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be upset for being stood up.
No, you are not necessarily wrong. Awesome could however mean that she is simply very attracted to him, or something he said.
It HAS affected your trust, there's no maybe, or you would not have posted this question. Only way to regain it? Talk to him and if you think he's worth it and the two of you are worth it, then make that choice.
I don't think I would, but I'm not in your shoes.. Good luck.
2006-12-12 19:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u shouldn't be upset about the myspace thing but u should be upset about him not showing up and not even leave a message for u that he is not going to come...
That should affect trust because what if he say he would hang out with u again and u would not trust him if he say he would be there cause he said that last time ans he didn;lt show up.
2006-12-12 19:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhmmm...u guys just need to have a serious face to face talk...and if u don't trust each other and u've dated for so long but ur not sure exactly how to label ur relationship then this is something u need to jump on and figure out. and if this is not a gf/bf relationship and there are communication issues or doubts about trust then just let go there are better things, people, relationships and experiences waiting for u!!! good luck!
2006-12-12 19:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well next time you talk to him tell him you need a sit down.. ask him why he didn't text ya back right away? next ask are we gf/bf or not?
if he says yes then tell him you were on my space and you saw that so & so has been in my space..and you read it.. ask him to explain it before you tell him what you actually saw..maybe his reaction will say it all..
but if not don't sweat it you have no proof.. could have helped her in class with a problem you never know..
get the answers you need about you and him for sure.. if he has been seeing you on and off for a year then he knows how he feels about you..
2006-12-12 19:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by Carol J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...girl you havent see it with your own eyes that he was with a girl or not...but what you said about that girl on myspace.com that can be something that they are up to...you need to talk to him and ask those questions that you want to know but one thing it wasn't right that he stood you up and not text you back. i would have been upset if a guy didnt let me know that he wasnt gonna meet me that day...but you two need to talk about it...you been dating him for a year and you are not sure if you guys are bf/gf that sound like you are wasting your time with him but you need to ask him are you guys really are bf/gf for sure
2006-12-12 19:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now it somewhat relies upon on how bored to death with it you're. for sure you dont like it, and he curiously isnt going to modify. so that you'll tell him and hell probable end for a couple of minutes then %. it up lower back. or you need to purely split with him. which i tips. because as a guy, sarcasm purely comes with the territory. if you're a sarcastic guy, that signifies that your persons are sarcastic and its no longer going to bypass away. so purely unload him and bypass on. sorry to furnish you unhappy information.
2016-11-26 00:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any young girl would say.."awesome"....for dam near anything. Be smart!!! Say....."dumbass" not worth my time!!
2006-12-12 19:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋