If you fell for another man but have no intentions of acting on those feelings.I love my boyfriend and would never cheat on him but don't know how to deal with the guy I've fallen for now.Do I tell my bf I have feelings for the other guy since he's a friend of my boyfriend's?
2006-12-12 19:00:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not say a word to your boyfriend. Do not act on your attraction to his friend.
2006-12-12 19:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No what's to tell!
Just bcuz u have a bf doesn't mean u will never find qualities in any other man attractive. It seems to me the problem lies in how you deal with your feelings.
Why cause your bf pain when you don't know enough about what your feeling.
Think it over awhile longer. Make a decision and stick to it. Be respectful of the fact that this guy is a friend of your boyfriend and this will affect that. You don't say if the other guy has shown interest in you. If he does. Consider your options and try not to hurt anyone without cause.
Always keep in mind Do unto others.... As you would have done unto you!!
2006-12-13 03:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From now until the day you die, you will see other people and find them either more or less attractive than your significant other, or more or less interesting, etc. Do you plan on telling him every time? Guys are a different beast. If you want to talk about it then they may perceive it as a problem and try to fix it. Or they may get insecure about the relationship.
If you have no intentions of acting on it, then I would not say anything. I would not dwell on the other guy either. You will just be feeding the impulse. What ever you do, don't let the other guy know. The more people that know, the more likely it will become public. Insecurities can make for dumb actions.
2006-12-13 03:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already cheating on him, and in the worst way. You are cheating on him emotionally. You have betrayed his trust that you would not fall in LOVE with another person. If you do not break it off with your current boyfriend, you are only hurting him. Is it fair to allow his feelings to grow when you cannot return them? Would you want to invest in a man that could not love you back?
Treat him with the same courtesy you would like to be treated with.
Remember, this is because, as you have stated it, you are IN LOVE with this other guy, not infatuated, not attracted, but in LOVE.
2006-12-13 03:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely NOT. You may feel that by telling him you are being honest or some other such horsesh*t but really your are just hurting him.
Unburdening yourself at someone elses expense is just selfish. Just keep it to yourelf. You haven't done anything. There is nothing to confess. And you might come between friends for no reason. Keep your thoughts to yourself.
2006-12-13 03:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're strong enough not to act on it I wouldn't say anything. Unless you have a 100% trusting relationship.
2006-12-13 03:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by jhall20032003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Do not do anything, unless you totally decide to make a move on the other guy. By saying something now, you'd be cutting your own throat. Let time go by-and see how things go...
2006-12-13 03:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by sue d 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT TELL THE BF! I repeat, DO NOT TELL THE BF! If you care for the guy AT ALL, you will heed this advice. If you fell for a guy you do not wish to pursue, you should keep your mouth shut and enjoy your BF's company.
2006-12-13 03:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think what you really need to ask yourself is do you really want to sacrifice the relationship you have with your bf. if you don't plan on acting on your feelings then don't say anything because it's just going to ruin your relationship with your bf.
2006-12-13 03:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you would want to spare his feelings but you should let him know what's going on. Or you should talk to someone like a close friend or your mom and try to figure out your feelings. Maybe these feelings mean that you aren't ready to be in a relationship at this time.
2006-12-13 03:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by golden_moon_girl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋