So many times I have dumped a guy, or moved or something only to get a pleading phone call from them later saying how I was the love of thier life and they will do anything to get me back. But yet things were never like this during the relationship. How come guys never realize what they have when it's right in front of them? Is it possible to make them realize while you actually are dating them?
2006-12-12 18:50:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They don't know what they are missing until they leave! :(
2006-12-12 19:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all tend to take things in our lives for granted. Its really that simple. We all feel loss once someone is gone, and often we have regrets afterwards.
In the case of death there's no going back - but in a relationship, there is a chance to get back together. So there's the hope the guy has that he can fix the terrible mistake he's made.
One suggestion often made to couples before a break up occurs is to spend time doing individual activities with other people than their mate... the time apart tends to make them more appreciative of one another when together...
Just my .01
-dh
2006-12-12 18:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens with both sexes. It's called "complacency," and it's the number one relationship killer in the world. It's common to see lazy boyfriends and girlfriends not realizing how great a person is until they are dumped. I like to say that the way to keep a relationship from getting stale is to constantly create tension in the relationship. Sexual tension, that is. Make the other person want you so badly that they will crawl through broken glass just to see you.
2006-12-12 18:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because guys never notice the obvious like all the things you do for them. And how much they enjoy having you around until you aren't around anymore. And after being alone and thinking about it or dating some really horrible people they see that they had a good thing and they lost it. And of course they want to try to get that back because they knew how it was with you and how it is now without you.
2006-12-12 18:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by golden_moon_girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good question, probably there isn't any way. If it makes you feel any better, most of the time the guys who treated you badly in the relationship, they're just realizing that now they have to face change in their lives. A couple of them (girls do this too) might really have felt they made a mistake not treating you decently, but hell write them off too, if they couldn't figure it all out in time.
2006-12-12 18:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very good question, I must agree. But the thing is, I don't think that they don't know what they had, until well, its gone. I think they know exactly what they have, they just take it for granted and they just never thought that they would lose it. I think it's that way with guys. They're stupid, most of the time, if not all of the time. Well, while you're dating, let him know what he's going to miss if he takes you for granted. How? Well, you're going to have to figure it out yourself. He's after all, your boyfriend. Goodluck.
2006-12-12 19:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about ALL guys do this, or just the losers you seem to attract?
I am just asking because since I am a guy, you automatically assume I do this because all guys do this. Well, let me assure you that, speaking for myself, I have NEVER done this!
So, your assumption that ALL guys do this is not only WRONG but completely immature! Maybe if you weren't such a whiny brat all those guys wouldn't have left you! Grow up!
2006-12-12 18:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its because they're hands-on type of people. when it's gone, and they can't have us when they want us, they start to miss it and realize things. they can't multitask.. sort of goes along with that. I think that if you try hard enough you can find the right guy. In general its just how guys are though. There are a few out there unlike that ^ ^ its just rather difficult to find them as they are few and usually aren't as good looking due to them not caring about their apperiance too much.
2006-12-12 18:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Christine4tw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple, guys only use the options that are available to them. If given too many option they will soon choose the wrong one. So limit the options and you will limit the choices.
if given the bottom line, most of us will stay with in the limits. if we truly know where the boundaries are set. we all should think about two questions
what am i will to go through with this person?
what will make me stay or leave?
if we can answer them we should share that with our mate.
long-live-love
2006-12-12 19:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by arness64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an age old question, since the cavemen I believe, lol. They always have to swim in the sea to see what kind of other fish are out there, then after their fun they want to come back to what is "comfortable" to them, YOU! There is no changing them....dont waste your time pondering why! go live!
2006-12-12 18:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by nurse33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. most of them are morons like that. the best thing to do is to dump them temporarily for awhile. just make them think its real..then when they come begging back you can choose whether or not to accept his lame excuses. it will probably go back to the same thing after they get you back though. at first its all good then they get used to it again. its happened to me. they only realize what a good thing it was when they miss it.
2006-12-12 18:54:27 · answer #11 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋